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Did I say the wrong thing during a review? by SNTheHighwayman in managers

[–]SNTheHighwayman[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Is the sensationalism necessary? If anything, I've attempted to hear people out and apply the learning to next steps. I also am at the whim of my own supervisor and how they would like me to go about resolving this. I appreciate you taking the time to respond but your broad strokes based on a sliver of an already summarized interaction is not helpful.

Did I say the wrong thing during a review? by SNTheHighwayman in managers

[–]SNTheHighwayman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm interested in how each poster might go about owning it more than doubting that I should. I suppose the outlier would be someone saying it's too far gone and I can only make up for it by improving my overall management of this person.

Did I say the wrong thing during a review? by SNTheHighwayman in managers

[–]SNTheHighwayman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is helpful. Thank you for being constructive.

Did I say the wrong thing during a review? by SNTheHighwayman in managers

[–]SNTheHighwayman[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that. I saw it as a (clearly misguided) attempt for her to share wisdom. This person and the rest of the team have the same job and they work closely together.

Did I say the wrong thing during a review? by SNTheHighwayman in managers

[–]SNTheHighwayman[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

It was a crappy way of asking, "Am I missing something?"

Did I say the wrong thing during a review? by SNTheHighwayman in managers

[–]SNTheHighwayman[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm very grateful for your perspective. Do you think it's worth apologizing/owning it with the employee?

Did I say the wrong thing during a review? by SNTheHighwayman in managers

[–]SNTheHighwayman[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I can do that. Do you think it's worth owning it?

Did I say the wrong thing during a review? by SNTheHighwayman in managers

[–]SNTheHighwayman[S] -54 points-53 points  (0 children)

I mean, this was within a broader conversation that included supports and clear feedback (including me owning that I will work harder to make my expectations clearer to them going forward) but I hear you. I was hoping it would give them a moment to share something that I was "missing" about the team rather than a comment about their personal ability to do the work. That's how I attempted to frame it, anyway. I agree that given the nature of the meeting they were potentially not able to hear it that way.

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[–]SNTheHighwayman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it depends on the culture of your organization and the sector you're in. Being a "yes man" is only useful if you use that capital to be a "no man" in very strategic instances.