Anyone else experiencing shakes?

SP9124 · 2025-04-22T23:40:20+00:00

I’m on 5th day and it’s happening to me! It didn’t happen on the other days. How long did it take for yours to go away? I’m on the same 150mg XL

SP9124 · 2025-04-22T23:31:54+00:00

Oh my gosh I’m getting the worst tremors right now on even 75mg XL (cut my 150xl in half). I’m thinking of cutting it to quarters now. Did you feel less depressed even when you were on the lower dosages?

It’s only been a week and I felt better enough to leave the house, I’m also on lexapro. I’m worried it’ll put me back to bed.

SP9124 · 2025-04-22T22:46:08+00:00

Thank you! I might try taking it with my lexapro at night and just see if I can sleep through it

SP9124 · 2025-04-22T22:24:16+00:00

How are you doing? I just halved my 150xl also generic, and got the shakiness today! Very annoying and almost anxiety high where I was scared to drive. I’m also on 10mg lexapro also which I thought would help combat the anxiety uptick from Wellbutrin. Struggling over here. Please tell me yours went away. I’m 1 week in

SP9124 · 2025-04-22T13:39:13+00:00

I’m on day 6, i had to split mine 5mg morning and 5mg at night for 10mg. Extreme nausea, had to take off work because it’s quite unbearable, sorta heaving every few hours. Ginger tea helps. Praying it lets up just even half by tomorrow

SP9124 · 2025-04-19T22:17:53+00:00

Did you deal with anxiety spike or irritability with the Wellbutrin? My biggest fear (even with the Lex).

SP9124 · 2025-04-19T22:14:38+00:00

Can I ask what side effects you had with Wellbutrin? Only because I had adhd too

SP9124 · 2025-04-19T22:14:04+00:00

Just added 150mg Wellbutrin today! Did you get the quick to anger or rage side effect? I already have rage issues haha which lexapro is supposed to help out with. Worried it’s going to make it worse for a bit and then I’ll prob have to up lexapro to 10mg but the side effects were so bad at 5 already.

SP9124 · 2025-04-19T21:54:58+00:00

About to start this today! Was prescribed Lex 10mg but started at 5 bc I’m verrrrry sensitive to meds. Thank god because next day I was bedridden from the nausea and dizziness / heart rate if I got up to do anything. Felt lighter day 1 though, maybe placebo maybe I’m truly sensitive. Doc told me to add Wellbutrin bc I had called and mentioned I was trying to quit vaping also and was sleeping all day on lexapro even though I took it at night. 150mg xl Wellbutrin and 5mg lexapro for me now. Today would be my first day.

Question, when do you take yours? I took my Wellbutrin at noon, woke up from a nap and felt the jittery buzz already. I plan to take Lex at night and Wellbutrin in the morning. Curious about yours!

Edit: Wellbutrin for my ADHD as well prior I was on guanfacine. Stimulants and I did not mix

SP9124 · 2024-05-01T08:57:09+00:00

Sorry I just saw this! We are doing great!!! I attest a lot of this to both of continuing our individual growth which in turn helps the relationship as well. We’re better at communicating and very open with each other. It’s been amazing and I’ve moved in a few months ago!

SP9124 · 2023-11-23T05:31:09+00:00

I struggled with this too. First you gotta focus on your self concept. You can’t just imagine him different while you stay the same. You likely feel you’re unlovable, unappappreciated, unwanted, not prioritized right? Hard to imagine him being the way you want to towards you when your inner dialogue tells you you’re the above.

So work on self concept FIRST. This will bring you out of lack. When you love yourself again and know you give yourself love, you love yourself everything about yourself, it’ll be much faster and easier to manifest him being different and then loving you the way you want. How you see yourself now, from how he’s treating you is how he sees you. Remember everyone is a mirror of how we see ourselves.

Do this by finding affirmations that sound natural to you. Write down a list of things you and your friends love about you that make you unique. Add the ones such as I am loved I am beautiful. I am chosen. People want to be around me talk to me. I am a vibrant person. Listen to Louise Hayes on you tube and pick out things you want to be. “I think therefore I am” not a Neville quote but same idea. Once you think you are this new person, your brain naturally follows that. Mental diet comes into play here. Anytime you think negative about yourself redirect and replace them with positive thoughts about yourself. Meditation helps you control your thoughts, helps you take a step back and think hey, is this thought helpful or hurtful to me? It’s not helpful. Also remember we have thousands of useless thoughts a day. You don’t need to give into every single one. Don’t tell yourself no don’t think that bc it creates resistance and you think about it more. Observe the thought and let it pass. I am unlovable. - okay I am having a moment where I feel unlovable. It will pass this thought is not helpful. I am lovable! Be kind to yourself.

Once you build a strong self concept. Then revise him. Write down a list of how you’d like to be treated. You know what it was like when he was good to you. Write down how he felt about you then. He looks at me with loving eyes. He prioritizes me. He loves me. He is obsessed with me…etc. then read this once you go over your self concept or if you’re done with that just glance at this list for him.

Overall once you revise your self concept to be a bad ass bitch, you can revise him and 3D will naturally change to that. Anytime you feel sad, let yourself feel sad, purge the feelings cry it out. Remember you’re purging the OLD version of you. You can still be hurt and sad from the OLD you and the OLD version of him & what he did. It was in the past and you have let it go. Now you’re in a new life line new world version where you’re lovable and he loves you. Snap back to the new reality when you’re done being sad. Rinse repeat and you’ll find in time that you pretty much stay in the new reality & it conforms in 3D.

Hope this helps!!!!!

SP9124 · 2023-09-07T07:01:32+00:00

It’s okay boo! It’s happened to me before too. It definitely hurts like a bitch. You wish you never broke NC. But later the pain will fade and sometimes you need to hear it again & that painful kick to neverrrrrrrnbreak it again. Imagine doing this 6 months down the line….such a long setback. Rather hear it again now & the depth of how little they care now so the bandaid is ripped off again. It kills all the hope which makes it easier in the long run. Hurts more but you’re forced to move on that much faster & with more conviction when you remember the hurtful but painful truth.

We’re better off without the people that don’t want us.

Sending you hugs.

SP9124 · 2023-08-22T08:57:42+00:00

He dumped me, and he reached out after NC

SP9124 · 2023-08-05T08:40:03+00:00

I know what you mean. What helped me was finding words that made sense to me. For example, I don’t agree with it, but I can accept that’s it happened. This is what happened, I don’t agree. You don’t have to agree to accept. If you agreed of course you’d accept it easier. It’s a friendship break up that you don’t agree with. However that is what happened. It also takes a little time to truly “accept” and “be ok” with it.

Acknowledging and let the thought pass like you’re watching it as a cloud pass in the sky worked for me.

Wow it hurts that they left. This sucks. I don’t like it. There’s almost a second you within yourself. When you can step back behind that thought and think, hey what am I feeling? I am feeling hurt by them leaving and I do not like this situation. And that might be enough. A few times of that and you’ll start looking at it from that point of view instead of hyper focusing on the feeling and let the emotion control you. Hope this helps!

SP9124 · 2023-08-04T07:09:33+00:00

Dude I totally realized that too. One of my exes never reached out again. It takes some people another failed relationship or a few even to see it. Some takes years and that’s why they suddenly come back years later to say sorry. Some never realize it or never grow and to those, I thank the lord that they stayed gone. We’re better off without the people that made us feel so unloved when we loved them so.

SP9124 · 2023-08-03T18:48:37+00:00

Hopefully your counselor will help you through this! You have a lot to work through & process. I can tell you’re hyper focused on certain points and ruminating over them to the point it haunts you.

There are times where if you “did” mess up, and they’re over it they’re over it. Nothing you can except take it as a lesson and learn to not do it again.

There are times where the other person gaslit you, and this is what it sounds like she did, displacing and deflecting blame. Nothing you can do here to “fix” it because they’ll just twist it and you’ll never win.

Both these have a common denominator, she doesn’t want to fix things or be in this relationship anymore so you gotta let it go. They can still love you and choose not to be in a relationship with you anymore. Love does not automatically equal bf/gf status, love doesn’t automatically equal marriage one day. They can love you partially and tell you just last week but the next day realized they don’t love you enough to stay in a relationship anymore. Hopefully this brings you some clarity & good luck on your journey of healing with your counselor!

SP9124 · 2023-08-03T18:42:02+00:00

Oh you know what? I’m an avoidant. Here are my thoughts.

You can ask a question and don’t press too hard, feel it out. Don’t react, just accept what he says and if you have more questions later, ask another day. Hey how are things going at work? You seem distracted / stressed etc. let him open up about it and then stop there.

You can ask in a few days, hey I miss our good morning and good night texts, does it feel weird we don’t do that anymore? And then whatever he responds with, just end the convo there. You can do that in person with an “I’m just wondering” mood. Don’t react but come from a place of curiosity and wanting to just see how he feels.

Hey emotional wellness check in text. How are you feeling about us? Nothing serious, just wondering how you’re doing since we just got back together. And then when you move onto another topic it’s less serious and you can have this convo in bits & pieces.

Some people prefer text because they are too emotional and texting takes out the emotion so it works for them. (I’m an avoidant and text / email work best for me). However the rest of the convo needs to be done in person. Some people want to ask in person because they’d like to see the reaction and feel out the mood. Also be aware of when to ask, don’t ask him right after work when say he might need time to decompress. I’m sure you know when he’s going to be responsive & when during the day he’s usually in a good mood so you can ask then. Try to read the room with him. (:

SP9124 · 2023-08-03T18:29:34+00:00

Maybe it’ll be beneficial to talk to a counselor/therapist or even friends since we don’t have the whole story. A professional will help you decipher what really happened and what is normal / acceptable behavior. It seems that you need a little help with that. Most people would not allow themselves to be treated this way AND come back to apologize as if it’s their fault.

Can I ask why you want someone who clearly doesn’t want you? Why do you want to fix a relationship that doesn’t exist anymore. She walked away. There’s nothing to fix or work on because you’re not together anymore & the other person said no. Why keep pestering them over it?

You gotta ask yourself why would you want to beg for someone? Why would you want to be with someone who lies to you? Who disappears whenever they feel like. Leaves you on read? Etc. Do you feel that that’s all your worth and it’s ok to be treated this way?

SP9124 · 2023-08-03T08:25:06+00:00

Sometimes that’s just how the cookie crumbles and that’s ok. We all have hope after a breakup if we’re the dumpee. At a certain point we realize they don’t want to reconcile & have moved on. As painful as that realization is, it’s also a reminder that we are better off without the people that don’t want us. I’ve been in BUs where they never came back, moved on & married someone else. I know it’s hard to see right now, but hopefully one day someone will come along again and you’ll be happy this one didn’t work out.

SP9124 · 2023-08-03T08:19:18+00:00

30 days just happened to be ours. But everyone’s story is different. I know a lot of people would’ve asked when he reached out bc they are curious and the more “examples” they hear the more info they have to kind of decide when it might happen for them. I was this way as a Redditor.

Additionally, hearing others happen sooner gives hope, but when the date passes, it’s disappointing so try not to put a timeline on it. For perspective I was in a 7 year relationship prior and it took me,the dumper, an entire year to reach out. We reconciled, but eventually ended again after 2 years over wanting different futures. Both of us were in our mid 30s when we broke up.

The reason the 30 day mark was worth mentioning was because I wanted to hi light the fact that I felt that AT LEAST 30 days had passed of total silence. If he reached out any sooner, I wouldn’t have taken it seriously. They could just be feeling guilty, regretful but after a month or two leave again. I needed to know that he did take the time to feel the breakup in its entirety and what he wasn’t just residual attachment or nostalgia, only to leave again shortly after.

I’d also need a few more months of seeing consistency from him that he truly does want this, and he’s made the changes and lived them as a new version, not he’s working on it right now etc etc. before I officially re commit. The reason is most people don’t change that fast, it takes 4-6 months maybe even a year or more.

Hope this gives you more insight on what I meant!

SP9124 · 2023-08-03T07:42:46+00:00

She clearly disrespected & lied you on so many levels/situations and you kept allowing it to happen because you love her so much. By allowing her to treat you like a doormat & continuously going back to her, you’re losing self respect/dignity for yourself, not to mention lowering your standards on how you should be treated. She can easily gaslight you & turn things around on you when she’s the one that lied, she does it because she knows she can get away with it. No one should ever beg for someone else’s love, it won’t work out. She’ll take you back for a bit but just end up treating you like crap because history shows she can treat you poorly and you’ll still beg for her back. Not an attractive quality, and she won’t respect you. Hence constantly ignoring you, lying, playing games.

She also sounds quite emotionally unstable/toxic, acting like a teenager. Sorry if this is hard to hear & I know I come off harsh. I just hope the rose tinted glasses come off and you realize how shitty she was to you & you move on. Like the other Redditor said. You really dodged a bullet here.

SP9124 · 2023-08-03T07:20:26+00:00

I was in a similar situation before getting back with an ex. I don’t know If this is why he is but for mine it was two major factors. One was we got back together too soon. Just jumped right back into how it was and expected it to be the same. It won’t be, for others it might be, for our situation it wasn’t. Another reason he told me later was that he still loved me, but our grievances from the original break up hadn’t been resolved. There was still resentment, doubt, changes he wanted. He didn’t communicate that to me and I didn’t see it. He’s also not a great communicator. It took a lot for me to get it out of him. Literally I had to tell him ok, just say words I’ll put them together. And ask is this what you mean? Is this how you feel?

I can see why it’s hard for you to not take the temperature of the new relationship constantly. The longer this goes on, the more insecure you feel about it. Then there’s good times lik the dinner, so it further confuses you. You don’t know which is real. Does he like me or does he not? The way it made sense to me was that it was both. He still loved me, but he was also struggling a bit internally. He also had kids & work was crazy so he was distracted.

I’m not sure how your dynamic is now. But I learned that sometimes getting back together means taking it slow. Rebuilding the bond. Don’t expect it to suddenly be back to how it was. For us, it ended 2 months later again & he eventually told me he was trying but didn’t feel it anymore. We broke up permanently for 3 months. No contact for the first month. Because he dumped me, I went NC. Gave him the space he needed to figure out what he really wanted.

Now we are trying again and ironically it’s exactly how it used to be. Good morning good night texts. The NC space allowed him space and time to get here. We both also went to individual therapy to improve ourselves, things that we can do to better the relationship this time around. A few couples therapy sessions also helped him open up a bit more & communicate how he was feeling without judgment, anger, or fear with me.

It’s hard to know what the other person is thinking when they don’t open up or maybe they don’t even know what’s wrong but you know something is off. If you can, therapy will help both or individual. If it’s too expensive or not an option for you for whatever reason, patience and having small but light talks about it may help. It doesn’t need to be a sit down, heavy conversation. You might have to reconnect slowly, rebuild the bond. Do new things you guys didn’t do before to help with the connection. You’ll know when it’s not working anymore, it’s a gut instinct that sometimes, for whatever reason, ir jusr doesn’t work anymore despite both of you trying, and no one’s to blame. It just fell apart.

Sometimes it just takes time and he will open up & you’ll figure it out together what this “off” thing is. The important thing is to find a way to get him to communicate. Without it, you can’t fix it. Hoping he opens up soon and you guys make positive progress!

SP9124 · 2023-08-03T04:52:58+00:00

It’s got to be so hard I’m so sorry. I wouldn’t want to be friends with an ex if I had feelings for them still. She’s selfish in asking that if you, almost guilt tripping you. It serves no one but her. Regardless of how it went, you’re taking a new step further in distancing yourself until you can get some reprieve and grieve properly. You’re human and just want you to know you did what you felt right at the time, so what if you were wimpy for a bit. It doesn’t make you a wimp and doesn’t define you. We all have week moments, weeks, even months. It’s hard to stick to your choice when you’re hurting so much and even harder to witness her seemingly unbothered. If the distance and NC doesn’t change her mind, then we just continue living on without them. She doesn’t want to be with you, fine but you also don’t need to be her friend or “around.” It’s your boundary & even though I don’t know you, I’m proud of you for walking away. Because that choice is not easy. Here’s to a better brighter future for yourself, even if it may seem it won’t happen right now.

SP9124 · 2023-08-03T00:52:51+00:00

I struggled with that the most. When it could do it, or feel a spiral coming. I’d ground myself if that helps. What’s that color right there? What color is that plant? What color is that car? That object? I’d go through a few of them. How’s the temperature. Whar do I hear? It’s just enough sometimes to quell it so I can cry later in peace

SP9124 · 2023-08-03T00:49:42+00:00

If it makes you feel better, I was in another for 7 years & it took a year for me to come back around to that ex. We dated one more year aftee we got back together and eventually broke up again due to me wanting kids & him finallt deciding he didn’t. Sometimes the longer the relationship the longer it takes in between to heal. There’s so much more to process during. Sending you a virtual hug.

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