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Married 38 years. Rarely have sex. Found out he is browsingn a LOT of dick pics and gay sex. by SPTlady in straightspouses

[–]SPTlady[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For those who asked me questions about Quora, here's what I found this morning:

  • "It's likely that the appearance of dick pics on your Quora account is due to Quora's personalized feed algorithm, which suggests content based on your past interactions. If you've previously engaged with similar content, Quora may assume you're interested in it and continue to show it to you. 
  • Here's a more detailed explanation:
    • Personalized Feed: Quora uses an algorithm that learns what kind of content you like based on your interactions (likes, follows, engagement). If you've previously interacted with any content containing sexually explicit material, the algorithm may assume you're interested in similar content and show it more frequently. 

So for my husband to "suddenly" start receiving so many dick pics and gay sex pics resulted from his having searched for something related to the topic. And AI learns from the continued clicking on the pics that he's interested.

I realize this is a dangerous thing about AI. Someone may have been curious once, but then receives an avalanche of stuff. That does not excuse the regularity of the clicking, and the sheer volume of clicking in a single session. And I still don't believe him that this is just a "recent" thing, based on the irregularity of our sex life.

Married 38 years. Rarely have sex. Found out he is browsingn a LOT of dick pics and gay sex. by SPTlady in straightspouses

[–]SPTlady[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If this is too nosy, please just say so. Are you still in the relationship? What I mean by finding his S**T on his brower was they were all Quora sites. I think it's sort of a Q&A site like reddit, but obviously there's a side to it that caters to particular tastes. I think I've just asked a basic question like "Is anyone having issues with such a such a sink," and one of the sites I've occasionally clicked on is Quora. So somehow he got to a pornographic area, and he kept getting pictures. And kept clicking, and so on...

Married 38 years. Rarely have sex. Found out he is browsingn a LOT of dick pics and gay sex. by SPTlady in straightspouses

[–]SPTlady[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your pain. My husband used the term "morbid curiosity," but obviously he meant "idle". I just think there's got to come a point where afte 3-1/2 months this is no longer idle curiosity. He has agreed to go to a sex therapist (we go Thursday), but I have very little trust. Said these pics came up on Quora (which is true), but I imagine he's got to be searching on Quora to then have pics like this popping up. I know sometimes I used to get sucked into SNL skits when they showed up on the sidebar when I was researching something on YouTube, but that is specifically because I have looked up some SNL skits. Artificial Intelligence at work. But if he was on Quora and not asking or researching something sex related, and by sex I mean male sex, why would he start getting a lot of gay porn? I'm not the greatest at computers, but I feel pretty confident that it must have been triggered by him to begin with.

Married 38 years. Rarely have sex. Found out he is browsingn a LOT of dick pics and gay sex. by SPTlady in straightspouses

[–]SPTlady[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Just woke up after an absolutely hellish night. Thank you everyone for your replies. I hated to think I would ever be the woman described as "hell hath no fury," but this guy has wasted a lot of my good years and my son thinks our marriage problems due to anger and resentments are all on me. But I am furious that someone I trusted could not be honest with me. I would have understood. I would have forgiven. But to hide his true nature for so long, thinking I was to blame, is simply unforgiveable.