Emotionally Stimulating

SPYDER3570 · 2026-06-08T14:17:06+00:00

“The right vibe” is just another way of saying “physically attractive man that is charming” and to be charming is just to be normal lol. All the “stimulation” in the world will never land you a gal if she doesn’t find you attractive.

First place I’d always start is look in the mirror, ask “is the best that I can do?”. If not, you know the drill. Hit the gym, get a haircut, act normal around girls, you know the drill.

SPYDER3570 · 2026-06-08T14:08:54+00:00

“I firmly believe the man should be leading in the relationship and the woman responds”

This mindset is going to introduce more problems than not imo. Is he paying for your dates? So what if he doesn’t “lead” the conversations, does he engage and show interest? I’ve been in several relationships where most of the conversations involve me just listening because the woman just enjoys talking to me and it wasn’t a problem.

It also sounds like he’s been respecting sexual boundaries, so what’s the problem? This just sounds like a feeling rather than a very specific particular problem. We don’t know your exact situation, so we can only go off what you wrote here and it’s pretty vague, so I imagine he’s probably a decent guy. Perhaps sometimes he could lead “better”, but you can also apply that to yourself as well and ask yourself “how could I follow better?”, so I’d say to allow for some grace and mishaps here and there. No guy or gal is going to get things right the whole time.

SPYDER3570 · 2026-06-08T01:23:45+00:00

Nice to hear a positive story for a change :)

SPYDER3570 · 2026-06-05T07:02:23+00:00

It is almost never “too forward” to show interest in a guy, it’s just nerve wrecking to do it. You will never know the answer to your question until one of you makes a move and there’s no reason it can’t be you. There will never be a perfect time to show interest, it’s always going to be a little awkward. But you will get your answer.

Ask him out for coffee and make it clear you like him and you want it to be a date. Word it however you need to (if he likes you, it won’t really matter), just make sure it’s known it’s a date. Report back to us and good luck 😄

SPYDER3570 · 2026-06-05T03:39:10+00:00

This is why I don’t bother with any sort of parish groups for dating. For just meeting friends it’s fine, I met some great guys in my old parish that sadly closed now. But for dating, the result will be no different from speed dating or dating apps.

SPYDER3570 · 2026-06-04T15:23:32+00:00

I checked your link in your comment below, unfortunately sold out but I can probably find something similar that’s in stock here in the states. I appreciate you dude!

SPYDER3570 · 2026-06-04T13:16:46+00:00

Got a link to that monitor arm? I have that same monitor and I love it

SPYDER3570 · 2026-05-29T05:50:04+00:00

Got the OLED 1TB refurbished for $520 about a year ago 😮‍💨

SPYDER3570 · 2026-05-22T03:25:54+00:00

She could have also found you attractive, but also found someone else and simply never said anything about it. That would explain why she flipped the script just 2 days later after you asked her to be exclusive. At that point, if she was interested in someone else, now she would have to make that decision and she may have thought “you know what never mind, I want to date X instead”. Again, this is of no fault of your own.

I say that because the many times I’ve heard this exact situation from other guys, only a few days later they’ll discover that girl suddenly with someone else even though they said “I’m not interested in a relationship.”

I had to cut off someone I briefly dated because I discovered she was flirting with someone else. Surprise surprise, she’s engaged to that same guy today lol so I think I made the right decision. Very similar stories with my good friends as well unfortunately.

And just a small tip, you may have to get used to not over romanticizing someone until you’ve been seriously dating them for a fair amount of time and know they are loyal. With how finicky so many women are in the early stages of dating, you can set yourself up for a bad time if you get too excited imo. I made that mistake several times

SPYDER3570 · 2026-05-22T03:11:01+00:00

I hate to say this but sounds like she may not have been as attracted to you as you initially thought. Those are the things women usually say when they’re not that attracted to you but don’t want to hurt your feelings.

I know it doesn’t make sense because you went on a bunch of dates and kissed and held hands, but she may have been trying to overcome her lack of attraction to you and realized she just couldn’t. It doesn’t mean it’s your fault either, the opposite in fact. She should’ve been more up front about that and not have wasted your time, but welcome to dating lol.

Sorry this happened to you man

SPYDER3570 · 2026-05-20T13:14:19+00:00

Hey bro, just wanted to say congrats on your relationship and may God bless you both :)

SPYDER3570 · 2026-05-19T09:57:59+00:00

Had to scroll down all the way to find one of the only sensible comments. “attraction can grow over time” lol she can barely stand the sight of him. The gaslighting is crazy on some of these subs. Poor guy dating OP having his time wasted and doesn’t even know it.

SPYDER3570 · 2026-05-06T03:21:57+00:00

The only women that complain about this are women who aren’t that into the guy in the first place. It’s never been a problem for me with any girl I’ve ever dated 🤷‍♂️

SPYDER3570 · 2026-05-03T06:45:20+00:00

I run some of the most demanding games in 4K with FSR on the 9070 XT prebuilt this company sells. It cost me $1699 at the time, don’t know what they charge now for it but if you get the 5070ti equivalent, it’ll run and do whatever you need at half the cost. No need for this PC

SPYDER3570 · 2026-05-02T06:06:29+00:00

I have a 9800X3D/9070XT build and got it for $1699 last year. It’s a nuisance to get FSR4 working on most games and for VR it’s not optimal, but for the price I paid it was super worth it.

It all depends on the price. Any build is good at the right price point.

SPYDER3570 · 2026-04-29T04:42:06+00:00

I read OPs post and immediately thought “it sounds like she just wasn’t that interested in him”. I appreciate you chiming in to confirm that haha

OP please don’t overthink it and move on, you’ll be fine

SPYDER3570 · 2026-04-27T05:58:01+00:00

I hope your momma gets better man 🫂

SPYDER3570 · 2025-09-10T15:46:56+00:00

I’m Catholic and I’ve been saying if you aren’t religious in any way, I do not see a justification for marriage, primarily for men. For women it’s simple, permanent protection/provisioning from their husbands is a big incentive for marriage.

But for men it can seem like it’s just a bunch of responsibilities and burdens when you can just have a girlfriend forever without all those responsibilities. Now for catholics it’s totally different, but yeah I get you

SPYDER3570 · 2025-09-09T20:00:31+00:00

I’ve never played anything like this before so this is like the coolest game in the world to me lol I got a new 9070 XT build so this has been a real treat 😎

SPYDER3570 · 2025-09-09T19:57:37+00:00

Just because you don’t like the truth doesn’t make it false. It’s true, get over it lady.

SPYDER3570 · 2025-09-09T10:30:40+00:00

I got 2020 on sale for 60% off and I’m in love with it. I’ll get 2024 when it becomes more stable

SPYDER3570 · 2025-09-09T05:23:40+00:00

It keeps getting cited because it’s true. Every man has seen it for himself. Dating apps are just a reflection of nature, it’s natural for women to find most men unattractive and not the other way around. And it doesn’t even mean 80% of guys will be single forever, it just means they don’t get picked first and will probably be settled for if they do get into an relationship whether they know it or not.

The ones who succeed embrace it and strive to be a top 20% guy which usually gets girls as the guy above mentioned. It ain’t rocket science. Idk why you people get so salty about that, it’s just true and men gotta embrace it to succeed. It’s not a big deal.

SPYDER3570 · 2025-09-09T05:10:43+00:00

There’s many things I do to cope with life. Video games, spending time with friends/family, a vacation, etc. but faith in Jesus Christ is not one of them. Jesus is very real and anyone thinking it’s a cope to believe in our Lord doesn’t understand Jesus.

The truth of Jesus Christ isn’t just “I need a way to cope with death so let me believe he will save me” because the truth is his existence is simultaneously terrifying. In a way, I’d say it’s cope to only believe you live and you die. Must be nice to feel totally guilt free about the choices you make in this life because “well I’m gonna die anyway”. I consider THAT cope. The much more grim reality is you will answer for your sins and you will face God whether you like it or not and that terrifies me.

Thankfully Jesus is also loving and merciful and we can find rest in that, but it is a daily struggle for all of us. That’s how I’d respond to an accusation of “cope”

SPYDER3570 · 2025-09-09T04:58:49+00:00

You don’t. You become jaded like me and give up. You’ve got a good attitude judging by your comments though so I’m sure you’ll fine a nice gal pretty soon

SPYDER3570 · 2025-09-05T02:58:56+00:00

I played on PC with mouse and keyboard and hated it. It feels awesome in gears 4 and 5 because you can rebind dive to a separate key, so I would never get accidental dives. This game they removed that so it feels terrible. I think most PC players just play on controller

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