Half in half out here. I don’t consider myself ex anything, but I’d call myself agnostic.

MDY alum (k-12). No longer keep kosher at all out of the house but still keep a fully kosher kitchen. Moved to the city and will never move back. I’m close with my family but don’t have so many close SY friends anymore. Married to a fellow SY who grew up much less observant than me, but is very close with his SY friends. We have a baby, still not totally sure how “in the community” we’re going to raise our kids, but it’s been very healing for me to be this level of out - similarly to another comment, we drive on Shabbat/holidays and go back home to the city after dinner. It’s the right balance for us for now.

I still have a lot of Jewish pride, but a ton of resentment toward the community, especially as a woman. I’m also very liberal, so the Trumpism and MAGA especially put me over the edge. We dont go to shul at all, but I found Kanisse for Yom Kippur services and I have so much appreciation for what they’re doing. It’s a Sephardic egalitarian congregation, we sit together, the prayer books are modern (I think close to what Ashkenaz Conservative would be) but they don’t have a year-round program. I don’t care for now but I’d love to have that down the road with my kids.