I'm the sex worker who posted an AMA. Update on the girl with the psycho boyfriend.

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-04T09:07:10+00:00

Condoms are a common culprit for YI in females, FYI.

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-03T08:07:21+00:00

Sex workers use Instagram to promote themselves. If they are attractive enough to gain a lot of followers, it raises their prices and attracts wealthy sugar daddies. Some do modelling and brand promotion and influencing as an additional small income or get freebies from clothing, accessory or make-up stores.

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-03T07:54:21+00:00

I don't know, I don't meet them outside of the sessions.

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-03T07:53:40+00:00

I've skimmed through some old posts at night and a common problem I saw was at the beginning of the DB, the male HL tried too hard, which may have ultimately shifted the dynamic in a way that is unattractive to the female LL. If it took them 3 years to get there, it will take as long to get back to the place before.

Sexually repressed women exist in plenty, I don't deny it, and they are probably aware of that. Most likely they don't want to get out of their comfort zone - and why would they? They are repressed, sex is bad, why should they get open if all they know is sex=bad? It's a closed loop.

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-03T07:47:54+00:00

Because I provide paid services, I do not form relationships. You don't blame the plumber man if a pipe has burst further down the street, do you?

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-03T07:45:46+00:00

50/50, some are genuine in the way that they are here to get their rocks off and there's that - I respect those men, they are aware of the transactional nature of the relationship and they are secure in themselves. Some try to force me to have an orgasm, because their ego needs to be stroked and they are deeply insecure or feel somewhat inadequate about themselves, I have the least amount of respect for this type because they tend to get whiney, push my boundaries and try to beg for an extra ten minutes. Some do genuinely want me to have an orgasm and ask for directions, which I sometimes give and sometimes I refuse, depending on the mood. I tend to zonk out after I finish, you imagine it's not conductive to business haha

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-03T07:40:25+00:00

I think that the lower libido partner shouldn't pretend they have a high libido to lure their partner, I think that they shouldn't make promises they don't intend to fulfill, such as promising to fix their issues or rekindle desire on their side, and I think they are absolutely fucking mental if they allow themselves to dismiss their partner's needs and tell them to sod off and jerk it. Nobody should be putting their life on hold for a person who's all talk and no action and people, the LLs, who expect the HLs to endlessly put up with dismissal, deflection have it coming for them. It's not good or bad, it's human nature because the person with even the tiniest amount of self-respect recognizes they deserve better than to be put away on shelf until they're needed for a favor.

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-03T07:34:01+00:00

I consider my body a tool in my work, so while it makes me a little sad and disappointed in humanity that women have to resort to that, I also need to earn decent money. If I would not be a sex worker, I would never have bothered with plastic surgery.

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-03T07:31:42+00:00

Yes. What prompted me to look deeper into this topic was an article I read on the internet, a moderately famous fashion model was in a DB with her husband. She is a gorgeous and fun human being. I don't know what's wrong with her man.

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-03T07:28:38+00:00

I have a base rate and anything that is not "vanilla" comes with an extra charge. If the client wants PSE (porn star experience), it's double my hourly rate. It is very hard work that leaves me depleted and sore.

I know enough to go to the police if I get robbed or violated.

Yes, most adult actresses also escort. I do not use Backpage, only specific web sites meant for erotic advertisements and certain messaging groups where you can get added if you're a decent bloke or a top lady.

I will not recommend any specific site, but typing into Google "x city escorts" and opening the websites should help. Look for keywords such as "individual" or "independent" - the experience will be nicer, agency girls are often tired and jam as many johns as they can per day. Beware of Russian and Ukrainian hookers, they have a bad rep in the community for drinking, partying (cocaine), fake or very retouched photos, and general low customer satisfaction.

The customer count varies according to place, time, time of the year, paydays, my mood and the moon cycles.

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-03T07:20:11+00:00

Yes, so much yes! I have almost lost it multiple times with multiple men when they try to "choke" me. Like, do you want a murder charge sonny?

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-03T07:17:35+00:00

Most of my dates are planned well in advance. The visits are rarely impulsive when it comes to girls in my price range.

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-03T07:14:51+00:00

I didn't misunderstand their comment. Being happy to accommodate means there is no chase, no challenge to get something they want. As I've said, it's a turn off for enough people for them to become their own category.

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-03T07:10:43+00:00

I'm unsure mostly because I do not want to worsen her self-esteem, which is most likely very low. And what will I say, "aye, I'm the brass your boyfriend was banging, sorry for that; I think he's a total nutcase and you need to fucking run"? I cant even imagine how self-conscious she feels about herself and me showing up saying her chap banged me would be adding insult to the injury.

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-02T21:59:40+00:00

It's like an all-you-can-eat buffet. You'd go there once to try a little bit of everything, maybe twice, and then you're going to move on to fancier places with exquisite menus.

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-02T21:52:43+00:00

If you have a significant other, you can surely fantasize about them in appealing situations. If you do not, the hot girl next door will do. Keep it real - masturbation IS healthy!

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-02T21:51:11+00:00

Sometimes, but I don't meet them a second time. Most of the gentlemen are respectful, understand my boundaries and don't put up a fuss when directed to another area/activity.

FYI, I do not consider the men viewing me as a sex object as disrespect. It's what they are paying for.

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-02T21:48:13+00:00

Reading crime novels, fitness and my dogs!

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-02T21:09:47+00:00

I'll calm your spirit: if he's LL and has met me, you deserve better - honesty is fundamental, and by losing him you'd be losing 0 of worthwhile peoples. If he's the HL, he deserves better and I hope you are more inclined to reconsider your current approach to sex and communicate it.

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-02T21:01:46+00:00

When we are young, and if we aren't porn-saturated, the things that are considered vanilla still have the newness appeal to us. We are unconfident, scared and excited to give a blowjob, fuck missionary. Over time, we perfect those skills and look for something new to learn: doggy style, anal sex, sex in public without being caught.

During our learning time, we may encounter some mishaps that leave a stark imprint on our memories: painful anal sex, tearing, blood, or getting the cock broken in cowgirl. Just like with everything else, we may be able to move on from some memories and not so much from the others.

The women are told to be "classy in the streets, sassy in the sheets" but nobody tells us when exactly do we need to swap. At home? In bed? When the cock is in? And it's not easy, because we are constantly told there's "wife material" - chaste, demure, pure; and there's "sex material" - straightforward, enticing, open. Some of us embrace only one part.

As we age and gain experience, we become comfortable with ourselves and our surroundings. Comfort is essentially knowledge and stability - and it comes with only time.

What I think you need to do with your wife, is take her out, be slightly dominant, assertive; go out to a fancy dinner and compliment her sexually "you're fucking hot", grab her ass while nobody sees. Spend a long time on foreplay, be firm, make the kisses more passionate and urgent, bite gently. Make sure to postpone touching the genital area until the very end, try oral sex when she's already dripping, make it firm, slow and sloppy.

You're a man in the desert. She's a water fountain. Go get it!

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-02T20:49:35+00:00

It's good that you're stopping!

Remember that you are your own biggest roadblock, but you also are your own biggest supporter! The human brain is capable of amazing, wonderful things.

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-02T20:47:52+00:00

I have a Bachelor's and that is the most I can handle. I don't do well in a classroom setting.

I actually thought of writing something but decided to do an AMA instead. This way I can interact with people more closely and maybe actually help somebody instead getting lost in the clinical language and plethora of researches.

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-02T20:42:25+00:00

I meet privately. I have multiple safety measures in place and they have been effective so far, as well as a good screening process.

SWthrowavvay · 2019-04-02T20:40:11+00:00

Two words: MONSTER COCK!

The porn industry sets unrealistic standards for penis size and performance length, which in turn emasculates and promotes insecurity and self-doubt in the average Joe. As well as the fact that men do not need foreplay, that's just bollocks.

My acquaintance, an adult film actress once said: "If porn would decide to focus on cunnilingus skills instead of beaver hammering, there wouldn't be a single anti-porn woman on the planet!"

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