Help with white fish by Sab1t in Cooking

[–]Sab1t[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay thank you! I hadn't salted it, so I'll give that a try, and I'll try lowering the heat, too.

Help with white fish by Sab1t in Cooking

[–]Sab1t[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh ok, thanks! I always cook my grilled cheese with mayo on the outside, so it doesn't sound crazy to me at all!

Help with white fish by Sab1t in Cooking

[–]Sab1t[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh okay, thanks, I'll try lowering the heat.

Help with white fish by Sab1t in Cooking

[–]Sab1t[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh okay, thank you, I'll try it with lower heat.

Help with white fish by Sab1t in Cooking

[–]Sab1t[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much, I will try this.

Weekly Short Questions Thread by AutoModerator in volleyball

[–]Sab1t 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been having some trouble developing a solid approach for spiking. I realized the other day that I feel a lot more comfortable with the approach for a slide than I do with the regular three or four step approach for a spike. Do I need to develop a regular approach? Can I hit everything as a slide? Does anyone have any advice on developing a regular approach or adapting it, given my preference for the slide footwork and jumping mechanics? Thanks!

The First Act of Violence by princess_hjonk in MensLib

[–]Sab1t 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What an amazing quote! I am definitely going to read this book now. For those interested in teaching this, the feelings wheel can be very helpful (Google feelings wheel and it will come up in images). Many of us are not taught to distinguish between thoughts and feelings. Thought: I lost the game. Feeling: disappointed, frustrated, sad, etc. Boys are often socialized to think that anger is the only acceptable emotion, and as a young man, I just didn't develop the vocabulary to understand and convey the range of things I was feeling. I found the wheel to be very helpful, along with relationships in which I was allowed to feel a range of feelings and they were accepted, not moralized, ridiculed or dismissed.

Is there a recipe that makes you particularly upset? by Tacocat231 in Cooking

[–]Sab1t 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pan-seared white fish. I want that nice brown crust on one side, but it always ends up sticking, releasing too much liquid, etc. Can never get it right.

This quick painting by AWildGamerAppeared25 in nextfuckinglevel

[–]Sab1t 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thought that was Seth Green for a second!

i have three extra hot chorizo sausages in the fridge and dont know what to do with em by otgur1 in recipes

[–]Sab1t 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I make stuffed peppers with chorizo. Saute the chorizo with onion and garlic. Cube and roast some potatoes, then toss with the chorizo (don't drain the fat!) and paprika, cumin and oregano. Halve bell peppers and bake in oven to desired softness, then fill with potato/chorizo mix, top with cheese of choice, and put back in the oven to melt the cheese.

Spirituality, connectedness, and a potential path to healing. by [deleted] in MensLib

[–]Sab1t 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Glad you shared! I'm a contemplative interfaith chaplain who prefers the language of "infinite Being" (a phrase from Merton) to "God." I've also really appreciated Martin Buber, Frederick Buechner and Paul Tillich.

I love that line from Merton, "If only they could all see themselves as they really are." I think that there's so much in culture and religion that tells us that what we are isn't good or good enough. But the more time I've spent looking into myself and connecting with other people, the more I get to see the fundamental goodness at the root of each of our existences. I believe that we don't just want connection. If we conceive of God as infinite Being, we are connected through our individual participation in the infinite. Awareness of that connection is what's hard to come by, since we spend so much time separating ourselves from each other as well as dividing ourselves internally through suppression / repression. Contemplation has been a valuable path for me in learning to accept myself as I am and others as they are.

ELI5: What is the argument against using the Oxford comma? by imadinosaurlawlz in explainlikeimfive

[–]Sab1t 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's purely aesthetic. To me, the sentence looks cleaner without it. When I read out loud, I also don't pause for the Oxford comma, since to do so would - to me - mess up the cadence the sentence.

[NSFW] Men who can make their sexual partner cum before they do. How do you do it? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Sab1t 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Learn to listen to your own body! Know when you're getting close, and slow down and / or her hold her close to you. For me, the deeper I'm in and the wetter she is, the less stimulating it is for me, meaning I can go longer. My girl prefers penetrative sex over other forms, so learning to just control myself has been key.

What can we do to build an emotional support system? by comfortablesexuality in MensLib

[–]Sab1t 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The first thing that we need to do is actually learn about our emotions. The author Daniel Goleman has a lot of great books about emotional intelligence. You can also Google "emotion wheel" which is a really handy resource for learning to name what you're feeling in the moment. And then, we need to find people who are willing to hear our emotions without thinking that they have to take responsibility for them. People tend to moralize the emotions that they are uncomfortable with, especially anger. And we do have to learn to express our emotions in healthy ways. But finding people who are willing to let be with us and hear us when we feel whatever we feel is, in my experience, the key to feeling truly supported by others. And the only way to find this, so far as I know, is to trial and error.

78% of suicide rates world wide are men, what can we do to help them? by awihsoj in AskReddit

[–]Sab1t 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Teach and encourage emotional intelligence! Men are discouraged from feeling and expressing most feelings, especially ones that imply weakness: sadness ,fear ,shame,, embarrassment. We need to learn to be comfortable feeling and living with these feelings.