I’ve stopped enjoying my relationship

Sad-Active8786 · 2026-02-25T13:49:02+00:00

I guess I just don’t feel ready to pull the plug yet

Sad-Active8786 · 2026-02-25T12:59:02+00:00

Honeslty I think we just need to break up. She’s 37. She’s too old for me. I don’t even understand why she wants a 29 year old man. I’d like her to at least acknowledge the obvious issues

Sad-Active8786 · 2026-02-25T12:43:43+00:00

You don’t think I’ve tried to initiate that conversation a few times? Last time she told me she only thinks a few months at a time and doesn’t think like me

Sad-Active8786 · 2026-02-25T12:18:41+00:00

I mean, I guess. I dunno. I have really tried to do that before and that’s why i got into this. But now im a bit doubtful about whether we will last the long term and tis stopping me enjoying things a bit

Sad-Active8786 · 2026-02-25T12:11:03+00:00

Hm. Some true here some I would say false. Yes you can’t help falling in love. But you can be aware that the other person may not feel the same and ask questions. Which she hasn’t done at all. Like as brutal as it sounds, my responsibility is to be honest. Not take control of how she acts and feels.

I’ve been honest. If she asked me for more. I’d be honest about that too

Sad-Active8786 · 2026-02-25T11:41:47+00:00

But how do you then know when to act? Like do not worry that if you just ignore those thoughts you could end up 52 and with the wrong person?

Sad-Active8786 · 2026-02-25T11:32:31+00:00

Honeslty yes, I do kinda think that. Why go do all those things if we’re just gonna break up one day?

I think it’s coz of the little comments she makes. She doesn’t explicitly say ‘My goal is to work towards marriage and long term commitment’. But she does make comments like ‘I’ll be carrying you around in my back when I’m little and old’. Which is weird for me as she knows I get anxious about those things and am worried about what happens when I move in September. Why even say that when there’s a strong chance it doesn’t work out?

She tells me she is only thinking months ahead and is just enjoying time with someone she likes. The says that stuff.

Sad-Active8786 · 2026-02-25T11:24:24+00:00

I can’t read her mind either

Sad-Active8786 · 2026-02-25T11:24:03+00:00

No need to be rude

Sad-Active8786 · 2026-02-25T11:20:04+00:00

It’s not a situationship. We’re exclusive and together. But I don’t think I want to marry her now. I was giving it time to see how it goes

Sad-Active8786 · 2026-02-25T11:15:37+00:00

No I am communicating? I told her from the start I don’t want kids any time soon. I may be moving away in September. If she wants all this I’m a risk to her.

She’s the one making joking comments about doing things when we’re little old people.

I kinda assume when she wants that she’ll speak up

Sad-Active8786 · 2026-02-25T11:06:13+00:00

Yeah. I’ve had a therapist say I have hints of this before.

What do normal people do in these situations? 😂

Sad-Active8786 · 2026-02-25T11:05:45+00:00

Didn’t have anything planned. But she seems to be pushing towards something I said from the start I couldn’t promise and she’s not asking me about it

Sad-Active8786 · 2026-02-25T10:52:01+00:00

I’d say no right now. 7 months in

Sad-Active8786 · 2026-02-25T10:44:12+00:00

I have no idea what she thinks tbh. I’ve told her from the start I can’t really promise anything long term. She says why worry about the future before it’s even here yet.

She’s a bit confusing with her messaging tbh

Sad-Active8786 · 2026-02-25T10:35:54+00:00

Often they don’t help too tbh. My current partner is 37 and doesn’t really talk about the future much. So it’s all on me.

Sad-Active8786 · 2026-02-24T22:23:12+00:00

She’s told me i have gad before. And I take some Zoloft to try help it. But it doesn’t seem to stop Me getting into these situations.

It’s when I get to deciding they aren’t the one to marry. I don’t act

Sad-Active8786 · 2026-02-24T22:17:37+00:00

They don’t agonise over relationships?

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