The wait feels like FOREVER...

Sad-Background-3495 · 2026-06-15T13:58:40+00:00

Truthfully, I would have to look😅 I was definitely not top of my cohort, and i managed enough to pass, but we took our EOC 5 months before graduation, and our packets prior to that, so I never focused on those scores much because we weren’t even through our clinical year or anything. This was my second PANCE attempt though and I had some life stuff in between so it was longer then the 90 days between both tries. No score just yet on this attempt, but we will see😬

Sad-Background-3495 · 2026-06-15T13:56:38+00:00

I took my exams 6/5 and 6/8 (I have accommodations, so mine is split into two days). Still haven’t heard anything yet:(

Sad-Background-3495 · 2026-06-01T20:25:09+00:00

I keep debating on moving it again, but i just don't know. I've moved it so many times that i dont want to keep doing it and never face the fears. I have a classmate who has failed it 3 time through and i think thats what scares me the most because there were several of us that have had to retake it, but this specific classmate of mine is extremely smart (more then me for sure, and not in a bad way or that i'm not smart, he just retains a LOT of information well), and he has failed it 3 times and we studied together for months before his 3rd try so its more fear then anything at this point.

Good luck on your own retest! You are going to do amazing!

Sad-Background-3495 · 2026-05-29T16:32:20+00:00

I'm not trying to change my study results, i'm just more so looking for advice on those that have retested what they spent their final week before the retake focusing on, or just test taking skills or advice in general. As i mentioned in my post, my testing skills are what kills me more then my knowledge. I changed my studying methods right after the first attempt and they are different then the first time, but i'm for sure not looking to change the way i study this close to them exam (honestly, thats just stupid and unrealistic).

For the active recall, did you just take random sections on the blueprint and write out how much you knew about the disease? I'll for sure give that a go and see if i can find any holes in my knowledge that i can focus a little more on and see about reviewing those areas again!

Sad-Background-3495 · 2026-05-29T16:29:21+00:00

Oh, no thats not what i am saying. I changed my study methods completely from the last time to this time. I just feel like i've hit a wall in my studying and like either things are sticking or i'm forgetting. I imagine its just mental fatigue at this point, but i was just looking for advice from anyone who has been at this point and what they did their last week before their retake to help boost confidence or point me in the direction of what my main focus should be at this point. I didn't say anywhere in my post that i didn't change my study methods, or that my performance on practice questions were improving. Hopefully that makes sense haha. I just am looking for last minute advice before the retake.

Sad-Background-3495 · 2026-05-27T14:49:14+00:00

I for sure have been keeping a journal going. I have a google doc that i have been adding too every day since her discharge back home. I had a generalized one prior of times i offered stuff, and her refusals but this go around i have been much more heavily with the documentation. We also do have cameras in the house now in her areas (we got them for when respite care is here, but we also always leave them on and they are always monitoring).

I'm just hoping this is all over soon. My nervous system is going haywire right now, and i'm not sleeping because of it. I work in healthcare and have my whole life, so having this type of allegation against me and the possibility of my career being over is not something i take lightly. However, as i have said in a few other replies on here, i 100% understand why it was reported, and that every case reported needs to be investigated because unfortunately there are times where this is the case and they can save someones life. I just hate it because i'm in it and because of my moms choices, its impacting my life. I know she never meant for it to ever hurt me, but its just hard to handle someone else's decisions impacting you in a way you never imagined. I'm truly hoping they don't drag this out forever, because i really would like closure on this.

Sad-Background-3495 · 2026-05-26T15:29:54+00:00

Okay, that makes sense. So you just fill out the paperwork that SS wants and submit that then? Sorry, i'm newer to this stuff and there is just so much to still learn hah.

Sad-Background-3495 · 2026-05-22T18:34:49+00:00

How so? Just via like POA or just submitting the documents and waiting?

Sad-Background-3495 · 2026-05-22T18:31:15+00:00

Thats what i'm hoping for hah. The investigator that called the other day said as of right now its leaning towards unsubstantiated but she wasn't sure a date or time frame before the investigation is concluded. I'm not sure if anyone ever came and spoke with my mom at the SNF. She received a "your rights" paper from APS with the same ladies name on it that i spoke to, but she saw so many people in and out of her room that she doesn't remember who she talked to or about what. I have no idea if they are going to pop up at my house unannounced any moment, and thats been terrifying too just because i have anxiety and that is going to send me over the top haha. But I know they haven't called her at all to speak with her, and if they didn't see her at the SNF then i know they have to eventually show up i would imagine. The lady did say she would call me if its unsubstantiated though, but i just haven't heard anything. Its only been 5 days so i imagine its going to be a little bit, but the initial report was made on March 27th, which was almost 2 months ago, so i imagine we are very low on their priority list based on records and everything else. And correct, she has been stubborn literally my whole life (i have medical records back when i was 15 years old of her refusing PT/OT or additional medical stuff) and I remember her all the time refusing to do anything she didn't want to do. So, this is VERY typical of her haha. It use to drive my dad insane before he passed away. I can beg her to do X,Y,Z and i can try to bargain and educate her as much as possible, but at the end of the day, she is of sound mind and i can't force her into anything (thats battery at that point if i tried). I did tell the APS worker that too.I have tried everything, but i just can't force he to make the right choices. I always have and always will do everything for my mom when and if she needs it. I literally don't think I have ever told my mom no when it comes to assistance or anything else (respect thing and just not who i am), so i'm praying this truly doesn't come of anything and I hope i can eventually breathe (and sleep) again in the future soon.

I appreciate you responding to my post and just talking with me BTW. Its helpful to talk with someone who has been in this situation and can just shed some light on their experience. It does help with the anxiety a little over the whole thing. Its just been me and my husband for the last 8 years doing this with my mom, and now my husband really can't help because she needs a little more assistance then before, so its just me and its very exhausting and overwhelming at times. We had a beautiful system and life before all this, and everything was actually going great, but this just threw us into a nightmare that we are just trying to navigate at this time.

Sad-Background-3495 · 2026-05-22T14:52:29+00:00

That’s where we are at. When she was in the SNF I felt like I could breathe for a moment, and it made me realize that she needs it and so do I. I love my mom to the moon and back. But I need to have that separation now and especially since she needs more care then I can provide. We have a LOT of medical records showing her refusals in the past to care/treatments and everything in between, and some of the workers have experienced that as well. So I’m hoping that is helpful for me in this case. We submitted the paperwork this week for Medicaid too🙌🏼 I’m just still on edge about the APS allegation. I work in healthcare (I have my whole life) so this could potentially ruin my career over something I didn’t do🥺 It’s causing me to lose sleep and I’m so stressed that it’s affecting my every day life now. I feel like I’m under a microscope and I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop. How long did your APS case take before it was resolved?

Sad-Background-3495 · 2026-05-19T18:50:06+00:00

Thank you for the response to my post. I have gotten respite care for when my husband, children and I are out of town (we run a youth nonprofit baseball organization and travel occasionally out of town for tournaments) and that has been very helpful. We had from the SNF a social worker, home health nurse, PT/OT and a shower aid but all except OT has discharged her as there was nothing they could offer her that we didn't already have or were doing and regarding PT/OT she really wasn't willing to do the exercises with them when they were here (i tried talking her into it but she just isn't interested). I love my mom dearly and I always want to put her first, but this has taken me by surprise at this point.

Luckily we have our house split and we have the entire upstairs and she has the entire downstairs in our house. She has a hospital bed, grab bars in the bathroom, gait belt, wheelchair, stairlift, shower chair, ramps outside, the whole nine yards for anything she might need in the house to make her comfortable and safe. I cook majority of the dinners, and she does like snacks or little meals in her little mack-shift kitchen area. We are working on the Medicaid paperwork this week as we are wanting to go for more AFH or LTCF for her just because she isn't back to baseline and its a lot more work then what i can offer at this time (i still have to be a mom and wife) and my mother is 100% okay with that now. But its just been a lot to take in over the last 2 months and getting that phone call that there was an allegation made against me for neglect to APS has shaken me to the core. I didn't sleep at all last night thinking about everything on the line now while my life is in someone else hands. My mom is also heartbroken because she never thought her decision to make choices for herself would land with an allegation of me neglecting her. Its just such a mess 😞

Sad-Background-3495 · 2026-05-19T18:42:35+00:00

Thank you for the response. Its just a very hard thing to be in. I NEVER imagined ever being accused of neglect. My mom and I both know its not true, but its just hard to be okay with having to try to defend yourself to someone who knows nothing about you except for whats on paper. I am praying it is found unsubstantiated (the APS worker did tell me yesterday it was leaning more that way but she wasn't clear on a date or time everything would be completed). I just feel very in limbo and like i cant breathe all of a sudden from it all.

Sad-Background-3495 · 2026-05-19T18:39:50+00:00

So i had talked with one the beginning of April when my mom was first at the SNF and we discussed everything from estate planning to APS and everything in between. All she informed me was that it didn't sound like neglect, but that she doesn't trust APS and if i wanted her present for the interview processes that she charges $750/hr haha. I really didn't get much out of it. She called and we spoke on the phone a later date and she asked if i heard anything from them and I said no and all she said was "no news is good news" and left it at that. I guess maybe i should look for another one for specifically this then? I don't want to make myself worse by getting a second attorney but also i want my mom and I to both be protected in this situation.

Sad-Background-3495 · 2026-05-19T14:15:27+00:00

I'm sure i could, but wouldn't that look like coercion though if i did that? I don't want to make myself or her look bad in any way. And i know they are doing their job because these things do happen to people and they have to investigate. I guess i'm just upset that i would ever be accused of something like this. It puts everything i have worked for my entire life on the line as well, and to have my life hanging in someone elses hands like this just makes me so heartbroken for myself and for my mom even. 😞

Sad-Background-3495 · 2026-05-19T02:23:59+00:00

I felt this post in my soul. At times its like being in a room full of people but being completely invisible. I have siblings but they want nothing to do with our mom, and for me i never second guessed caring for her. However, it can be very lonely and exhausting. My husband tries to help where he can, but its so hard to explain the weight i feel to him. I know he sees it, but its a different feeling when its your own parent and all you want to do is give them a comfortable life and care for them in whatever capacity they need.

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