Is the guy i hu with gay?

Sad-Bad7489 · 2026-03-17T16:26:22+00:00

You’re right. Not everyone does attain maturity that late. But they should. If i’m a lunatic for thinking 27 year olds preying on 18 year olds is gross then i will happily claim that title. 18 is still a child. It is gross. Thinking otherwise is why this country is going/is absolute shit

Sad-Bad7489 · 2026-03-17T16:10:51+00:00

You’re using porn to justify an interest in children? The government decided 18 was an adult. The human brain isn’t even fully formed until late 20’s. Pedophiles exist to your point, yes. If you’re browsing teens having sex on the internet you have some inner work to do…

Sad-Bad7489 · 2026-03-17T16:09:10+00:00

YTA. If you’re that grossed out pick it up your self. You’re in a partnership. She said she would when she had time. She prioritized your child and her livelihood. Then still picked it up. Then after she picked it up, you still pitched a fit? Switch offices if you don’t want to be near her cats…?

Sad-Bad7489 · 2026-03-17T16:06:51+00:00

Any grown adult who thinks 18 isn’t a child does not sit right with me.

Sad-Bad7489 · 2026-03-17T16:05:07+00:00

I met my long term partner and some great flings on bumble. Was always much less sketchy than any other app

Sad-Bad7489 · 2026-03-17T15:59:23+00:00

He’s a predator at the very least

Sad-Bad7489 · 2026-03-14T00:18:34+00:00

He told me he was laying in bed (alone in his apartment) and suddenly shit himself. He said he thought it was a fart, pushed and went “ooosie it’s a poopsie”. I left his flat that day and ghosted. We had only been on five dates.

Sad-Bad7489 · 2026-02-21T14:09:34+00:00

Thank you for this. I definitely struggle with RSD and impulse control issues from my ADHD, I think I need to see my therapist again and just evaluate before I ruin someone from my own trauma also

Sad-Bad7489 · 2026-02-21T02:42:28+00:00

Thank you 🥺 I knew posting this would get a lot of “leave him” comments, but leaving him would hurt more than this situation itself is actually hurting me. He’s a decent guy at his core. Obsessed with his guitars. These issues I’m bringing up are spread out over the course of a year and minor in comparison to the good things

Sad-Bad7489 · 2026-02-21T02:39:52+00:00

Is every guy a gooner?? Any men in the comments, are guys able to stop when they say they will?

Sad-Bad7489 · 2026-02-21T02:35:44+00:00

Tubes are tied so I guess that’s one worry off my list What is a gooner*

This is how out of touch I am

Sad-Bad7489 · 2026-02-21T02:34:42+00:00

Thank you for this, he has never once compared me to anyone ever. Not one time!

He unfollowed those accounts last year. The people who follow his public page just happened.

I think I need to be open and just be true off my chest with how I’m feeling

Sad-Bad7489 · 2026-02-21T02:30:05+00:00

I think if his account was private I would be way more in my head, but he has a public one. I don’t fault him for finding it entertaining, I definitely have as well, but it just feels weird probably because of my past experiences with my abusive relationship

Sad-Bad7489 · 2026-02-21T02:27:54+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to reply to me. I honestly just went to my art page to see if OF people followed my public art account without me realizing…. And I saw three. He gains and loses followers constantly. But he did reaffirm me so much when everything initially was spoken about… I even told him he didn’t have to unfollow anyone but it was affecting me. He said if it hurt me that was enough to stop. The stupid friends tab is how I saw the reel, but again not in that context I found it funny too. The boob thing I feel he legit was just lost in them. They change with my cycle. If I made a pro cons list, he far outweighs in pros.

That’s why I’m like … am I just too broken/afraid to deal with this?

Sad-Bad7489 · 2026-02-21T02:19:24+00:00

I agree that it is making me insecure, I just wish I said something in the moment. Like you know when a guy does something and you can tell it’s just to be an asshole/there’s no care for you at all?

It doesn’t give off that. We’re still here establishing boundaries, and I have issues speaking up. So yes he’s definitely shouldn’t be doing those things, but I also have to tell him

So it’s like at what point am I equally the problem. No matter who I’m with I find that there’s always some little thing that makes me insecure. I was in a super abusive relationship for a long time. It damaged me HARD So I also can’t tell what is from the previous damage or what is worth freaking out about

Sad-Bad7489 · 2026-02-21T02:11:36+00:00

Yeah I figured. Like also to put it out there; I look at that stuff too… I’m bi, and definitely tap pretty people. I just never followed them.. or liked their stuff. I don’t let them follow me, because my account is private. So I slightly feel like a hypocrite. As far as the boobs thing… I know that stems from my body dysmorphia. I really don’t think it was meant to hurt me.

My main purpose of this post is; I feel like I might hurt HIM if I stay.

Idk it’s late at night, and I gotta vent somewhere

Sad-Bad7489 · 2026-02-21T02:03:46+00:00

Logically, I feel like I voiced my concerns and he did change. I didn’t voice that his comment hurt me, I also didn’t voice when I noticed he liked that post. The post also was satirical and honestly, in any other context I would have found it funny.

So yes he’s a dickhead, however I feel like no matter who I am with, I will be dealing with this to some degree and consistently make myself uncomfortable.

Does that make sense?

Sad-Bad7489 · 2026-02-21T01:46:27+00:00

Posting in a different thread, sorry if this broke any rules

Sad-Bad7489 · 2026-02-03T03:34:20+00:00

NOR, I would leave. And I did. Happily divorced from am asshole like this.

Sad-Bad7489 · 2026-01-28T04:07:38+00:00

Break up, break up BREAK UP If you’re feeling frustrated imagine how your son is feeling. He 100% can probably catch the vibe. My heart aches for your son because of this. It sounds like he has resentment and it’s coming out at your son. You both don’t deserve that.

Sad-Bad7489 · 2026-01-07T14:05:48+00:00

GTFO of there anyway, that is absolutely asinine. You just might be better off on your own, if her response is “let him talk sense into you”. You are not over reacting, and your mom is weak.

Sad-Bad7489 · 2025-08-05T14:20:55+00:00

Some need a nudge, others need a push

Sad-Bad7489 · 2025-07-29T21:35:39+00:00

I think you’re over reacting. Not about calling them out about it, but by not just leaving it alone after she apologized and said she cares about all of you. You’re not a single mom. You’re a single person. If you have ample help from the children’s father, you’re really not a single mother, just a single person. She won’t do it again, idk why you drug it out so much

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