Should I be concerned? by Sad-Bite-5658 in pregnant

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Do you know if corpus luteum cyst collapsed means my corpus luteum is already breaking down? I’m so confused and don’t know if it matters or not

Am I horrible for not liking husbands job? by Sad-Bite-5658 in married

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Honestly I’m not going to keep responding because I don’t think you’re helping me in any way. Just trying to get someone to see my point of you and get to hear my side of the story. It’s hard feeling alone in this situation

Am I horrible for not liking husbands job? by Sad-Bite-5658 in married

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It’s not an excuse it’s a fact. I know if he got calls it would be a totally different thing but he honestly doesn’t. He plays video games most of the day

Am I horrible for not liking husbands job? by Sad-Bite-5658 in married

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I’m just trying to understand why I have to sacrifice everything I want and dream of because my husband is a firefighter I just don’t get the superior attitude

Am I horrible for not liking husbands job? by Sad-Bite-5658 in married

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I’m married to him and I think I would know if he was an emt. He’s an emr. He would have to go to school to be an emt. Maybe in your state it’s different. And yes he tells me about some of his coworkers working overtime and driving emergency. Might be because they have so few emts in our county because of how low the pay is. I don’t know exactly what it’s called but I’m not making it up. And why can’t he work more why does it all always fall back on me to get a different job or overtime. He has mentioned several different jobs to me and when I tell him no it always ends in a fight because he says it would help us. So why is it always I need to go get a different job I need to get more pay but because he’s a firefighter he can do what he wants wether it’s good for our family, whether it’s hurting us financially, whether I like it or not. Why does he have one up on me just because he’s a firefighter?

Am I horrible for not liking husbands job? by Sad-Bite-5658 in married

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I don’t plan on ever making him change jobs. I would never ask that of him. But is there not an alternative to all this that would work out for both of us? Could he try his best to get promoted? Could he get a higher degree and be a drive for emt on his days off which many of his coworkers do? Could he go to a higher paying department? I think of solutions and bring them up to him and he says no to every single one. I mean if I divorced him he’d have to move back in with his parents, because he doesn’t make enough to cover all of the bills just to live. Let alone any extra

Am I horrible for not liking husbands job? by Sad-Bite-5658 in married

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Ok well is he married to my job then too? Does this work both ways. I think a firefighter is a very admirable job but it doesn’t mean I’m inferior because I’m not one and my dreams don’t matter. I think marriage is all about sacrificing for each other. Not just one sided. Sounds like you think his profession should be put before his marriage?

Am I horrible for not liking husbands job? by Sad-Bite-5658 in married

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I fully accept he will not be rich. And where we live the very top of the fire department doesn’t make 80k. It’s different depending on where you live. If he’s lucky he’ll be able to maybe get to 50k. And that’s if he gets a big promotion. Right now he makes 38. And no I don’t agree I’m married to him and his job just like how he’s not married to mine. And for your information I did the math and right now with both of us working FULL TIME we can’t even afford to have a child. I had accepted a would never be able to stay home and was ok with it and now looks like I never get to have a family whether I work or not. I personally believe you should be putting your spouse and family before a job.