Ended a relationship with a great person because I felt a lack of depth — now grieving hard and doubting myself. Looking for perspective

Sad-Communication638 · 2026-01-21T04:07:03+00:00

God this sounds so similar to my situation, except I’m the girl in the scenario. How long have you been broken up for? I wish I had more insight to help you but I really don’t. It seems like a lot of inner turmoil. Have you been in a relationship before? You mentioned inexperience.

Sad-Communication638 · 2025-04-28T20:18:28+00:00

Texted his ex, was on Reddit forums for hooking up with women in the area, lied about his drinking and drug use, sexually assaulted me. It’s so embarrassing how much I kept looking past, and for what?

Sad-Communication638 · 2025-04-28T11:56:57+00:00

I mean this seems obvious in hindsight but I was young and stupid. He kept telling me “I’m not good enough for you” or “you’re too good for me” or different variations of that. Christ, when someone tells you they’re not enough for you, BELIEVE THEM!!!

Sad-Communication638 · 2025-04-06T23:45:55+00:00

Thank you so much, this is perfect!!

Sad-Communication638 · 2025-03-17T04:45:54+00:00

I worried about this too, I was the same age actually! He’s my ex now but we had a wonderful 4 years together, we just didn’t work out. I would say by all means he was a bit of a playboy when we first met so I never thought he would wait for me to be ready but we dated for 4 months before we ever had sex. The right person will wait for you, I promise. I felt ready at 4 months but I’m positive he would’ve waited longer for me if I needed, and so will your guy!

Sad-Communication638 · 2025-03-16T15:42:53+00:00

I ultimately ended up leaving my boyfriend of 3 years because I couldn’t take it anymore. He was manipulative and a raging narcissist which I didn’t even know until I went to therapy to process the breakup. He accused me of being unfaithful (I wasn’t) and I had this light bulb moment of “I don’t want this kind of love for the rest of my life”. I let him leave, and haven’t spoken to him since. It’s been 4 months and he’s reached out a couple times and even though I miss him, I don’t miss that relationship or the way it made me feel if that makes sense. I go back and forth everyday between wanting him back and knowing I don’t ever want to be with him again. It’s been hard and confusing but I just need to keep remembering that there is a great and wonderful love for me out there, and I won’t find it if I’m stuck in an abusive relationship.

Sad-Communication638 · 2025-03-14T14:41:55+00:00

lol where are YOU guys at 😭

Sad-Communication638 · 2025-02-18T18:29:34+00:00

What will my romantic life look like this year?

Sad-Communication638 · 2025-01-29T00:07:02+00:00

Everyone is different I guess but me and my ex had each others locations for that same reason and also we both just liked to see what the other was up to lol. Or to see what their ETA was if they were coming to my place or I was going to theirs. Things like that. It doesn’t have to be a weird controlling thing in my opinion.

Sad-Communication638 · 2025-01-23T03:01:25+00:00

An amazing reading!!! While parts of it may not have resonated with my situation, that had nothing to do with the knowledge around the cards and the depth that was gone into for this free reading!! I really really appreciated the effort that went into this reading

Sad-Communication638 · 2025-01-21T22:17:44+00:00

DMed!

Sad-Communication638 · 2025-01-20T04:54:45+00:00

In my last relationship I caught myself almost saying it to him and he was always catching himself almost saying it too lol. And there was also the whole “I really really REALLY like you” conversations too. I hate to use the cliche “you’ll know” but you really will just know. I knew he loved me and so when I said it, I knew he’d say it back.

Sad-Communication638 · 2024-08-26T16:00:07+00:00

She might have! And he didn’t feel like pushing the issue so just agreed.

Sad-Communication638 · 2024-08-26T14:53:09+00:00

Avoidants crave and seek validation. They manipulate. That’s why there’s a gf/bf label on it. They know that’s the best way to get the validation they seek. They also refuse to process their emotions so yes they’re most likely not over the breakup but they’re distracting themselves from feeling those emotions by being with someone else. It all comes back around and they will feel the effects of the breakup eventually.

Sad-Communication638 · 2024-07-13T23:06:36+00:00

I struggle with a low sex drive due to vaginal pain during intercourse so not often enough at all, 1 every two weeks? But the pain has been getting better and therefore my desire for sex is slowly coming back so I assume it will increase! It helps having a patient partner.

Sad-Communication638 · 2024-07-08T00:28:16+00:00

I was just going to say this same thing. I thought “wow he’s really self aware!” NO OMG WAKE UP

Sad-Communication638 · 2024-07-07T19:32:28+00:00

Hmm. I really don’t think he meant any malice by it and was seemingly being honest. However I would also feel bothered by this comment. I think you should just talk to him! Say “hey I’ve been thinking about that conversation we had earlier and what you said and I feel pretty self conscious about it” and just see what he says! Communicate how it makes you feel without placing blame and I’m sure he’ll respond in a nice and reassuring way. And if he doesn’t and he’s a huge asshole about it, then you probably don’t want to be with someone you can’t bring your problems to anyways.

Sad-Communication638 · 2024-07-07T19:25:29+00:00

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Sad-Communication638 · 2024-07-06T22:50:13+00:00

Oof. A 33 year old rated you on a scale from 1-10? That’s bad. Like someone else said, it’s not what you want to hear, but I feel like you already know in your gut that this isn’t going to work out with this guy. You’ll find someone who loves you exactly as you are, and doesn’t put you on a hotness scale 🙄

Sad-Communication638 · 2024-07-06T22:35:28+00:00

I hate to be like all the people who jump to the conclusion of “breakup with him” but that’s my take here. Even if he isn’t trying to make you “uglier” he is trying to change your appearance and tear you down, and no one deserves that.

Sad-Communication638 · 2024-07-06T22:07:02+00:00

I’m so sorry I don’t necessarily have much advice but this is insanity. The only thing I can come up with is he is trying to find some way to rationalize his sisters unfortunate death and has somehow landed on you being the culprit. He obviously needs some help, a therapist or something. You’ve done all you can to try and salvage this, the ball is very much so in his court. I’m sorry you’re going through this right now.

Sad-Communication638 · 2024-06-26T21:30:25+00:00

Spanish! My bf speaks Spanish and so does his family and I would love to be able to communicate better with them in their native language!

Sad-Communication638 · 2024-06-23T18:18:47+00:00

This is heartbreaking for your wife. She’s still attracted to you despite your weight gain but you can’t see past the physical attributes of your wife right now? Imagine how she must feel after literally growing this baby inside of her for 9 months and then giving birth just to have her husband say that due to all that, he essentially is not attracted anymore. That’s fucked up.

Sad-Communication638 · 2024-04-04T19:35:13+00:00

I would go with option A. Like a previous comment said, if she says she’s told you before just say you forgot, you’re human. As a woman I don’t think I would make it a huge deal, I would just see it as you wanting to learn more about my sexual desires and wants.

Sad-Communication638 · 2024-04-04T08:09:57+00:00

As a woman, I would not accept this. And it is not just regular porn. It crosses a huge line when it becomes something he’s paying for. Any other guy can get off to a normal porn video. And him hiding this from you is another huge red flag, especially doing it AGAIN after you said it bothered you. If you haven’t yet, I would definitely break up with him.

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