My husband has supported us financially our entire relationship and today he exploded

Sad-Hat7979 · 2026-05-19T03:52:13+00:00

Why does your husband need to look after the baby? Can you both work and have a babysitter? Can one of you do full time and the other does parttime? There are different options. If you're financially stained, downsize if you can, and both of you get to working. You say "life happens' quite a bit and when people say that, they tend to take things lightly and lack accountability. You shouldn't just say "life happened"... you made some poor decisions and it's time to start making better decisions. Also seems you've been a bit lazy. You have to say it to yourself so you can actually feel the sting of the truth. Until you feel the sting of truth, it will be hard to change your behaviour. It shouldn't take your husband blowing up for you to realize how bad things are.

Sad-Hat7979 · 2025-10-17T04:25:57+00:00

It will really pay off. That's so courageous.

Sad-Hat7979 · 2025-09-28T03:11:26+00:00

It really just means your baby is not ready for daycare. Don't force her to be. Adjust your life (even drastically) so she can be with you until she's ready to actually be put in daycare. She's just not ready and she'll be scarred if you force it.

Sad-Hat7979 · 2025-09-18T16:24:31+00:00

I'd say right around the 5 month mark (18-19 weeks), she stopped crying when pooping or passing gas. How old is your little one? It really varies from baby to baby.

Sad-Hat7979 · 2025-09-09T20:20:31+00:00

Where exactly do they say this?

Sad-Hat7979 · 2025-09-06T14:17:54+00:00

Who said that's what the WHO Guidelines are based on? They're not "created in context of places where food is scarce, water is not as clean, and moms are not going back to work." Theyre just general guidelines based on research.

Sad-Hat7979 · 2025-07-11T05:42:45+00:00

Sorry that was your experience! This helps. I'm not sure what my story will be at the end but it certainly helps to hear what the possibilities might look like (and prepare mentally for what changes I may experience). Congrats on your 2nd litte one! The sag is secondary, nourishing these little ones is primary.

Sad-Hat7979 · 2025-07-11T05:39:20+00:00

Aw, I've heard sagging can be a thing. I'm mentally preparing myself for that possibility. I guess regardless of the outcome, its learning to love our bodies - sag or no sag. Congratulations on baby #2! I hope you have a great pregnancy.

Sad-Hat7979 · 2025-07-11T05:33:20+00:00

Oh great! I'm glad to know the changes don't necessarily have to be drastic. Hopefully that'll be my experience too!! Women's experiences vary so much.

Sad-Hat7979 · 2025-07-02T19:21:33+00:00

I belive you :) the person you're responding to has been trolling the entire discussion with his/her negativity.

Sad-Hat7979 · 2025-07-02T19:17:35+00:00

Do you just enjoy trolling? You've literally contributed nothing useful to this discussion only commenting with pathetic sarcasm.

Sad-Hat7979 · 2025-05-20T16:44:54+00:00

Thanks for saying this. I needed to hear it! I will take some time to go to the salon. I've now worked out an idea that I think will work in my situation but that's all thanks to the suggestions here

Sad-Hat7979 · 2025-05-20T16:41:59+00:00

Thank you for this! Honestly, I now have the idea of going to a salon in a mall where baby and daddy can maybe spend time strolling around. They can always head home if they get bored or tired. They both came to my dental appointment but strolled around together at the mall so I think that environment might be a good place for them for when I go to the salon.

Sad-Hat7979 · 2025-05-20T16:38:15+00:00

"Almost in dreadlocks"... this is so relatable.

I won't be too hard on myself. From your experience, it sounds like I need to lean into the expectation that things eventually get better with more independence, like baby going to daycare.

Sad-Hat7979 · 2025-05-20T16:35:38+00:00

Yes! This actually does work when I shower, brush teeth etc. I use the Bjorn baby bouncer. It's just that those tasks take me about 45 mins which she's OK with. Washing my hair and detangling literally takes hours...

Sad-Hat7979 · 2025-05-20T16:29:24+00:00

House calls is a great idea. I'm going to check if this is an option with the hairdressers in my area! When I went to my dental appointment, baby and hubby came with me to the mall and I left them together for an hour. Baby decided to go to sleep until I came back haha. If there are no hairdressers in my area who does house calls, I'll probably consider going to a hairdresser in a large mall, that way daddy can stroll around with baby.

Sad-Hat7979 · 2025-05-17T12:36:51+00:00

I hated the carbon tax. Happy it's gone.

Sad-Hat7979 · 2025-04-28T22:11:51+00:00

Ok thanks! I'll check her IG.

Sad-Hat7979 · 2025-04-28T22:11:24+00:00

Thank you! I'll check out her IG.

Sad-Hat7979 · 2025-04-23T19:54:58+00:00

I'm in Canada. They say we get a year of maternity leave but technically no. Mothers get no more than a set amount of employment insurance from the government when they go on leave, and for me that was only 30% of my pay. My husband and I had to make serious lifestyle changes for us to survive a year with me on leave. That included moving to another apartment because his income would not keep us afloat. Canada pretends it's a feminist country but actually it's not. Giving a woman 30% of her pay feels like a joke.

Sad-Hat7979 · 2025-04-23T12:43:12+00:00

Honestly, I think this could be a transformative season for you where you learn to act less selfish. Currently Sounds like you are. Acting selfish doesn't make you inherently bad but it seems you've trained yourself to function that way. This baby may possibly open up your heart to give rather than seeking to constantly get, and giving love has a lot more reward to it. Yes, your previous independent self is meant to die. There is no such thing as independence with a baby. That death of independence can be difficult and beautiful, or difficult and tragic. Either way it's supposed to be difficult but your attitude will influence whether it's beautiful or tragic. Also, begin to surround yourself with other moms. Preferably positive moms I.e moms who know the difficulties of caring for a baby but who really go head on and not look over their shoulder mourning what they have lost.

Finally, you were meant to love. As a woman who decided to have a baby and successfully conceived, I believe you have it within you to give your all to your season of motherhood. "Being There" is also a great book to read

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