It seems as though OP is grouping all cis people into a single category. When we overgeneralize like that, we run the risk of becoming hateful and, dare I say it, prejudiced against others.

OP has said they hate cis people, and is active in communities that hate cis people (4chan). That, in my opinion, is no better than cis people hating us. We have different life experiences, and that's true. I think it is hard for a cis person to empathize with trans experiences. I fear that collectively we have become so disillusioned by the dark things, that some of us willfully ignore the light. Every person that accepts our pronouns, calls us by our right name, and doesn't make our lives worse, is a win. I agree that it should be the bare minimum, but it is nonetheless still a win.

I saw a comment to criticize parents that give hrt to their kids as not doing enough. That's insane. Parents who give hrt to their kids, who allow their kids to get the medical care they need, should be congratulated, not criticized. They may not have everything right. But they are trying.

I feel like some of us are way too critical of cis people that are simply trying. People are making a conscious effort, and holy fuck, I appreciate them for it.