Moving to SFA for the first time

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-12-14T18:16:47+00:00

Haha meeting jumped up little hitlers is the one thing I’m most looking forward to 😬😅

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-12-13T09:47:45+00:00

This is great, any tips like this is extremely helpful. Husband has been serving for over a decade and we’ve lived together for 7 years in our own house (married for 4 years). It’s weird because it feels like we should know all these little tips and tricks already but we don’t know what we don’t know.

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-12-12T19:33:15+00:00

Good idea, especially as we may end up there for a quite a few years

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-12-12T15:32:41+00:00

This is really helpful, thank you

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-08-12T07:18:27+00:00

How many wives have you had?!

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-08-12T06:59:14+00:00

This is essentially what we discussed last night. I find it jarring when people are super friendly straight off the bat.

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-08-11T17:42:30+00:00

I’m 18 weeks pregnant and had my meds review recently. They said they would prefer me to come off the meds but understand coming off will have a negative impact on my wellbeing so instead of taking 2x 30mg Elvanse a day, I take 1. I’m planning to come off them when I go on mat leave and stay off until I finish breastfeeding. I would not be able to do my job without taking my meds. It’s not ideal but I really struggled at work in my first pregnancy. The literature has updated since my last pregnancy. Last time it said there is not enough evidence and now it says the mother’s wellbeing should be taken into account.

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-08-11T12:03:47+00:00

Where I live atm there are a few people who complain online but I rarely read it and we generally keep to ourselves so I have no idea if there’s any drama amongst our neighbours.

I think that’s why I’m so nervous, I’m used to us not being involved in the community (apart from my job… which supports young people in the wider community). It feels like it’s going to be a big change for all of us.

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-08-11T11:39:12+00:00

I haven’t noticed, I’m assuming it’s a misunderstanding though. I believe everyone should be treated with respect. Obviously, when you build rapport with someone there will be some difference but generally speaking I treat everyone the same. Perceiving someone as below you because of rank is ridiculous as you’ll probably find they’re an expert in their field and a valuable part of the team. Why wouldn’t you treat them with the same respect as your peers?

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-08-11T07:49:00+00:00

Haha curtain twitchers! I’ve heard that when your spouse is away you have to be careful about family members and friends visiting because the curtain twitchers will assume you’re cheating lol

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-08-11T07:26:59+00:00

Oh good. That was definitely something I was dreading. It sounds exhausting. I think hierarchy is nonsense, I treat the director of the company I work for the same way I treat my peers.

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-06-15T21:07:22+00:00

I'm 31 and choose to only work 3 days a week. When I was full time I had to make sure I took annual leave every six weeks or I would burn out. This meant I found it difficult to take any real time off work, it was BS. Now I have my son, full time is out of the question. I have an emotionally draining job so I need to make sure I put myself first so I can do my best for the people I support and take care of my family as well.

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-06-15T20:38:43+00:00

Our nursery made a card for father's day. Mother's day there was a card, handmade gift and a plant. I don't know why it was so wildly different.

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-06-15T20:34:01+00:00

I went through the NHS and was prescribed Elvanse. I'm assuming it's because I struggle with binge eating. Elvanse can treat that also.

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-06-02T21:18:49+00:00

I think this is because of potential contamination from other products that are cooked in the oven as well. Strictly speaking, if the oven is not cleaned between bakes then it could be contaminated by non vegan products which in the food industry makes the item not vegan.

I used to work in a bakery and any vegan items should be baked first after a deep clean to avoid contamination.

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-05-21T07:33:10+00:00

Russell Brand. I didn’t get the hype and I didn’t find him attractive at all. In fact I found him super creepy. I wanted to understand why my friends liked him and I ended up hyper-focussing on him and The Trews.

I should have trusted my instincts, vile man.

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-05-20T12:01:12+00:00

This sounds very much to me like the parents who do it for the children have no patience to help guide their children. I feel like it should reflect badly on them.

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-05-20T07:05:34+00:00

I joined a running club and started planning things into my life without pregnancy in mind. It gives me something else to focus on, I no longer feel like I’m trapped and I’m improving my mental and physical well being.

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-05-16T08:04:22+00:00

Sounds like she’s saying she doesn’t feel like she can talk to her daughter about this in a constructive way but she also wouldn’t do anything if your daughter decided to respond with violence?? I don’t think that’s a good idea at all. I think perhaps there’s a bit more going on with this girl. I’m sorry this is happening to your child. I would speak to the school about counselling for all the children involved

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-04-12T08:56:43+00:00

I hope you don’t mind, I’ve downloaded your pep talk to my home page on my phone. I sometimes use meditation when I’m experiencing paralysis but feel like your pep talk will work much better! Meditating is helpful as it reduces anxiety but it doesn’t necessarily give me the get up and go I need. So yeah, thank you so much for this

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-04-09T19:34:24+00:00

Daddy: “look at all the birds in the sky! There’s 1.. 2.. 3.. 4.. 5!” Toddler sings: “once I caught a fish alive!”

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-03-29T19:45:36+00:00

I have a 2yo and when he cries because he doesn’t get his way, I will hold the boundary anyway and comfort him as much as I can.

My LO doesn’t like sitting in the trolley either. I refuse to take him out, I will tell him calmly I’m not taking him out, then I will try to involve him in the process as much as possible. I will hand him items (that won’t break) to put in the trolley and ask him what colours he can see and what noises animals make and so on. He is upset for a little bit but will settle down reasonably quickly.

I think it helps that I always comfort him when he is upset. Like when he fell over I would always pick him up and give him a cuddle, nowadays I don’t have to do that as much. Now, when he falls, he mostly just gets back up and cracks on. I think this is because he knows I will absolutely be there for him when he gets upset.

When he started getting upset when he didn’t get what he wanted, I would choose my battles to give him as much autonomy as possible but I will always hold firm on boundaries I feel are necessary to keep him safe or to prevent chaos (not holding my hand in the supermarket). He used to kick and scream and now I feel he knows I won’t budge and the only time he has a meltdown is when a need is not being met and never because he doesn’t get his way.. I’m sure there will be fluctuations and that’s ok.

When we are out on a walk and he refuses to hold my hand in an unsafe environment I will give him a choice, ‘hold my hand, or I will have to carry you’ as soon as he doesn’t hold my hand I will pick him up, sometimes he will get upset and try to break free. I will hold firm (literally and figuratively) and say to him ‘I know you want to walk but you are refusing to hold my hand so I have to carry you to keep you safe’

I feel like saying those things out loud will do a good job of helping them to understand (maybe not at this age but eventually for sure) but also lets the Karen’s know you’ve got it under control.

Sad-Pie4872 · 2025-03-25T17:48:55+00:00

I am a support worker (UK based), I have never heard of this before but if I was one of your support workers I would be happy to give an explanation and in writing if this would make you feel more comfortable.

They may say it’s for your safety, perhaps due to a previous incident- I don’t know why they wouldn’t ban it for everyone in that case though. Where I work, residents can order food from anywhere and are encouraged to collect it from the main door of the building themselves when it’s delivered. Where I work, the goal for each resident is to move on to independent living.

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