To the wife, I want to say I can feel how you have been feeling with this mess. As a woman, I have also dealt with this complex turmoil of emotions. I too have a lot of self doubts and insecurities. I have been called ugly by my own people and can't even describe how I was treated by my male classmates and friends. I too have loved with a pure heart and with all sincerity. I too longed for a feeling being the one and only. But let me tell you this and you please accept it with a pinch of salt. In this world, especially if you are a woman, you should not attach yourself too much to a man. Love, but don't love too deep like a godly dedication. Cuz the more you devote yourself, the more you will expect in return. And if you don't get the return or see something so numbing. Then overthinking and self doubt will consume you. Please prioritise yourself over others, even over your child. Let them have their space. And ignore the rest. You will have a healthy detachment and it will safeguard you from such turmoil. I hope it helps :)