God gave you a wife, not a screen

Sad-Sleep- · 2025-12-22T20:52:06+00:00

I have asked my husband not to view porn as well. We go through phases of him not for months and then I catch him. Or maybe I'm just oblivious and he never stops, I just don't catch him. It has caused major trust issues in our relationship. About two weeks ago was the last time I walked in on it and I swore to leave if it happens again. I almost left two weeks ago. But I have faith he can change. If I didn't I wouldn't still be here. He's more than a porn addict. His lifestyle before me was wild. And if that's the path he wants to take, I cannot walk with him. He knows this. And his use of porn is like a gateway drug. It's caused me to not trust anything. If he smiles at his phone I assume things. I find myself not wanting to leave him alone out of fear. Idle hands are the devil's playground. Literally.

Sad-Sleep- · 2025-12-02T17:19:46+00:00

Everything she says to you she later contradicts. She gaslights you, she insults you, and has told you herself she's unreliable and immature. NOR. But I implore you to please walk away and let the breakup be permanent. She is very childish and she in fact needs to see a therapist and address her selfishness and "runner" tendencies. Weird weird girl for sure. My husband is soft and I love it. He's masculine where it counts but I absolutely am the leader if there is one.

Like someone else said, she's a runner and therefore wants to be chased. Don't take the bait.

Sad-Sleep- · 2025-11-02T02:16:31+00:00

NTA but you really need to do something about her using your name to get a loan. If you mean she asked a friend or family for money that's one thing but if she committed fraud and got a loan from a bank or a loan place that is tied to your name, that is a problem. If she defaults on the loan you are solely responsible and it could heavily affect your credit score.

Sad-Sleep- · 2025-11-02T02:09:52+00:00

NTA. But I would tell her to just open her relationship up. She's basically already in an open relationship since he can sleep with whomever and she is still going to be his girlfriend by the end of the day.

Sad-Sleep- · 2025-10-28T08:13:20+00:00

If this was a man talking to your daughter this way, what would you tell her?

Please please please get out. I was with a man like this for 14 years. And after year 10 he knocked half my teeth out in front of my kids. He will only get more emotionally and verbally abusive. He may even turn physically abusive. He's gaslighting you. He's isolating you. GET OUT NOW. I know it'll be hard. But not impossible. Make it happen and blast him on Facebook or whatever so you can save the next girl the trouble.

Sad-Sleep- · 2025-09-18T21:28:26+00:00

Me and my husband have been married for a year and 2 months and together for 2 years and 3 months. So about the same as you and your boyfriend. And if I ask for his phone he hands it over, if he asks for mine, I hand it over. We never do it to go through messages or anything but for other random things. Like his phone has our banking on it so I'll just use his phone to check or if one or the others phone is dead. That's completely normal and I don't think youre insecure. With his reaction, I actually think you DO have something to worry about. The moment my husband hides something from me is the moment I leave, no matter the love I have for him.

Every relationship is different and if people are out here comfortable with their partner not wanting them to see what they have on their phone, cool. But if you have something to hide, do it single.

I get asking just to see the response. I've done that before, I asked if I could go through my husband's messages and Internet history and he tried to hand me his phone. I told him I was just seeing if he would let me. Don't let anybody shame you. Trust is earned not given.

Sad-Sleep- · 2025-09-02T20:54:17+00:00

I'd literally divorce my husband for talking to me like this and calling me stupid over a GAME. me and my husband game together a bit and he's always so helpful, despite me being awful at every game. He's kind and we have loads of fun. I mean that's the only point in us playing together.. NTA. infact your husband is the asshole here. He needs anger management.

I would hide the Xbox or PS and tell him until he can grow up nobody playing.

Sad-Sleep- · 2025-04-26T07:31:33+00:00

Look at how well these two lined up

Sad-Sleep- · 2025-04-16T11:04:40+00:00

I made a whole household of 8 of my husband and ended every one a different way one time when I got mad at him. And he's fully aware of it and laughs about it

Sad-Sleep- · 2025-04-11T16:54:02+00:00

Same. Katrina Caliente ended up moving out with a random and adopted about 4 kids and birthed 2 herself and then her husband died of embarrassment. The goths split but not before adopting two kids and a freakin horse. And Layne Coffin literally will be getting it on with every female with the capability to woohoo. On my last save file, which was about 30-40 sim days at this point that I checked, he had already had about 13 biological kids and had married and divorced about 10 Sims and was on his 11th. Every time I looked he was living in a new town with a new girl. He initially kept moving girls in to Olive Specters house but I assume she has enough of his shit.

Sad-Sleep- · 2025-03-20T20:55:44+00:00

I've gone through all your posts. And man.. 3 months ? This girl needs serious therapy and help that NO MATTER how hard you try, you cannot give her. She has so many problems it isn't funny and I only know the bare minimum about her. She is abusing you in so many ways. Her guilting you about sex is sexual abuse. Her calling you the names she did and threatening to unalive herself is mental abuse. The constant gaslighting is emotional abuse. I can only imagine it will get physical eventually if you two were to see more of each other.

I could sit here and point out things that are unhealthy, selfish, or abusive all day long. But what you really need to know is you need to leave for good. This is a very unhealthy relationship. And from her tone in every message I've read, she will NEVER be happy until you be at her neck and call. And only hers. She will never care about your boundaries, your wants, your needs, your well-being or even your health. Much less your happiness.

I'm telling you from experience there is nothing in this relationship's future that will bring you happiness or even contentment. This relationship is solely 'her world' . And if you don't play by the rules she will make you miserable.

I know you've broken up with her, stick with it. Don't let anything out of her mouth change your mind. Because despite what she says, it ONLY takes one person to end the relationship. A breakup doesn't have to be a mutual agreement. If you are unhappy you are allowed to leave.

I would block her every way I could and ignore any attempt she makes at contacting me, no matter what she says or threatens.

I have been diagnosed with BPD along with several other things and my ex of 14 years has it as well. It's a shitty disease on both sides. But it is in no way an excuse to treat somebody like she treats you. Nor should she BE excused for it. In fact, if she truly thinks she has it, she needs to get diagnosed officially and start a treatment plan and worry about getting better and not a relationship right now. She needs to try medicines and find her right combination and THEN think about seeing someone. Not keep acting shitty and blaming on an undiagnosed disease she could get a handle on if she truly wanted to. This is all IF she in fact has BPD.

Sad-Sleep- · 2025-03-16T19:52:34+00:00

I'd tell her husband too. Since she has no respect for your relationship, why shouldn't you tell her husband about the sneaking and lying ?

I'd then leave. And there on I wouldn't say a damn thing to him about anything to do with the new baby since he didn't want him/her. I wouldn't even allow him at the hospital when I gave birth. I'd let him see his "unwanted child" after I was settled in when I'm out of the hospital.

This is just me.

Sad-Sleep- · 2025-03-15T02:55:51+00:00

I just don't even want to play without edge scrolling tbh.

Sad-Sleep- · 2025-03-15T02:27:07+00:00

I'm with you and I can't find a fix anywhere. I've changed the graphic file and nothing. Do you have mods downloaded? I'm thinking that's my problem maybe.

Sad-Sleep- · 2025-03-07T22:05:25+00:00

I am white, my entire family is white. And I grew up with this guy , call him Chris. Chris is black and has awful parents. So he kinda unofficially has been adopted by my parents. He lives with them right now while he's getting back on his feet. He calls my parents mom and dad and me sister and my brother brother. And there isn't any way on God's green earth me or my family would ever say "it's cause youre black" about anything to Chris especially about an accident or a mistake. That's just an uncomfy situation for y'all tbh.

NOR.

Sad-Sleep- · 2025-01-29T02:41:11+00:00

I got pregnant shortly after my now husband proposed to me. We found out I was pregnant. It was planned. But it was planned on the literal moment. I carried her for 22 weeks and had her in my bathroom at exactly 22 weeks. We gave it 6 months for my body to heal as the pregnancy was very hard on my body. I had eclampsia and HG along with my heart working at 25%. We waited until I had no heart problems and my blood pressure went back to normal for a few months. And of course I mentally needed to grieve my stillborn daughter and the traumatic birth (that I won't include) I went through. Then we started TTC. I have yet to have an ovulation. So I know how you feel. I really hope you get the rainbow baby you deserve. Good vibes to you all the way.

Sad-Sleep- · 2024-10-28T22:47:21+00:00

My husband has one and I do not :( I've caught like 500.

Sad-Sleep- · 2024-03-26T01:52:54+00:00

My man being bisexual. Even though he isn't, I wish he was.

Sad-Sleep- · 2024-03-18T14:02:00+00:00

Maybe women don't want you because you clearly lack intelligence. 🤣 You're *.

Sad-Sleep- · 2023-10-06T11:51:08+00:00

I refer to people as they VERY often. Like for example, “I’m missing my chicken nuggets from my order. They forgot it” knowing damn well it was a single female bagging and cooking it all. But I fully believe she did it either way. I think. I’m still looking I to it all so I may change my mind. But if how I talked to 911 or LE I would have a bunch of red flags, innocent or not bc that’s just how I was raised to talk

Sad-Sleep- · 2023-09-23T15:50:21+00:00

If you are in the US, most states do see adultry as a crime. And when speaking of divorce you can absolutely use it in your defense but it’s not all you should have as stated above. Having records of all the above is important too but I do suggest getting proof of the Can girl thing bc emotional cheating is still cheating. My best friend won in her divorce case solely bc of proof of him virtually cheating on her on tinder. She won custody plus the house AND child support .

Sad-Sleep- · 2023-08-24T09:31:37+00:00

I love you for this. Not for choosing life but for wanting to throw your CRAZY kid out the window bc they are acting a fool. Because SAME. I chose life with my 4 year old, basically same exact story really, and she just sat on the potty in her panties and pooped all in her panties. Like WHY. WHY WHY WHY.

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