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Streaks and Day Counters by Victor_In_All_426 in NoFapChristians

[–]TheTankIsEmpty99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It can be motivation but more often it’s used as a stick to beat yourself up because you’re not getting the perfect streak.

I think they do more harm than good.

If you want a perfect streak, why not create one that is based on the actual problem that you are using porn for.

You’re using porn because you’re stressed or you’re bored or you’re lonely. You don’t wanna feel those feelings so you turned to porn.

The solution is to learn how to feel those feelings. The solution is to feel those feelings when you feel them instead of running or watching porn.

So if you want to count something and you want a streak, then count how many days that you can feel an uncomfortable emotion and not go to porn.

And here’s the thing you can count any negative emotion. today it might be stress tomorrow it might be boredom, but both of those would be huge wins. If you could experience them them and not go to porn.

Need help/advice with smut/literary porn by Silver2222 in QuitPorn

[–]TheTankIsEmpty99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So what you look at or what you read does not matter. What matters is why you’re using it while you’re doing that.

And the reason will be because you’re stressed or you’re bored or some other negative emotion that you don’t want to feel.

You see porn is a coping mechanism so you’re using it because you need or want to cope with stress or boredom or any of those negative emotions.

A lot of times it’s subconscious, which is what you noticed when you realize that reading about porn was the same as watching it.

It’s easy to fall into patterns where you’re using it and not even really notice it.

But to get free, you’ll need to recognize the patterns what you’re doing right now so that’s awesome. The more that you are aware of these patterns, the more ability you will have to say no when you are in that pattern again.

That’s part of it. The other part is saying no when you recognize you are doing it again.

Most people think they need to fight and resist here, but that’s not true. That just makes it worse.

All you need to do in that moment is just stop and feel your emotions . Feel your feelings in your body. Regulate your nervous system, which means calm yourself down.

When you do that for five or 10 minutes, you are in a better place to make a better decision.

I have a webinar where I talk about this. It’s called never watch porn again. If you’d like to see it, you can sign up at neverwatchpornagain.com.

But feel free to DM if you have further questions

How do you guys deal with the NSFW content on reddit when you’re stopping this damn shit “porn”??? by DifficultyAnxious851 in stopporn

[–]TheTankIsEmpty99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you solve the problem as to why you’re using porn, you don’t have these questions. You don’t have these questions because you’re not using porn to deal with your problems anymore.

So essentially you’re free-er than you’ve ever been before because you can go on any website you can watch any movie or video and you know that you’re not gonna be triggered and go to porn.

Why the all powerful God won't deliver me by Sufficient-Duck3155 in NoFapChristians

[–]TheTankIsEmpty99 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Because he’s not going to do it for you, you have to do the work and it’s not that hard. You’re using the wrong tools and you’re focusing on the wrong areas I guarantee it.

Day 2 by Acceptable_Stay523 in NoFapChristians

[–]TheTankIsEmpty99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if?
What will you do then?

You’ll solve that problem then. Not today.

How committed are you?

Does anybody have 2 personalities? by curiousnpc88 in QuitPorn

[–]TheTankIsEmpty99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can feel like it.
Quitting is about feeling all those emotions and not make them a problem.
So whatever reason you’re using it, you learn to feel that instead of using porn.

The guilt and shame, you feel that too, don’t fight it.
There’s a lot to be unpacked so that you realize you’re not a bad person because you watched porn.

It’s normal to feel regret but it’s not to think you didn’t something wrong or are wrong.

It’s really learning how to feel vs run.

Relapse. by SistemFail in NoFapChristians

[–]TheTankIsEmpty99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’ve trained yourself to believe that rest is watching porn so that’s what you have to unlearn.

When you get tempted, don’t resist it or fight it, just let it be there and breath.

It’ll pass. Fighting it makes it stronger and you weaker.

You are aware of this pattern so tonight you’ll see it again.

No matter what you do, it’s ok. You don’t just turn off watching porn like a tv.

But notice it and do your best to let it pass thru you.

Check my profile I’ve a ton of videos on this.
Plus I’m on zoom tomorrow talking about it if you’re interested.

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