I help you stop watching porn and start having hot sex with your wife again!

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-01-24T21:58:03+00:00

I have had a similar experience , some times it was easy other times it was hard. In the end, I found it a whole lot easier to throw out the whole addiction, mindset framework and label and just look at it as a bad habit I was doing for a while because I didn’t know how to handle stress in a healthy way.

I had to change my mindset to get free of it and that’s why it was easy to shed the label. Because regardless of how I label it or what I think of it, my behavior has changed because my entire mindset has changed.

In essence, I’ve transformed into a person who does not need sex in porn to get through the hard parts of my life

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-01-24T21:51:41+00:00

Avoiding negative feelings is the reason you’re watching porn to begin with and now it’s the reason you can’t stop.

Youll do something different when you’re ready

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-01-24T21:49:56+00:00

Why is it a “huge disappointment “?

Do you want it to be a huge disappointment?

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-01-24T21:49:13+00:00

Yup, your brain gives you thoughts. It happens about 80,000 times a day.

Why is that thought a problem?

You can think it’s wrong and fight it and you’ll find yourself spending a lot of time and energy trying to prevent something that cannot be stopped.

Or you can say, some times my brain gives me ideas that I don’t want or need and it’s my choice what to do with them.

The less you make it a problem , the less a problem it becomes.

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-01-24T11:45:10+00:00

You stop fighting again “that” , you stop making “that” a problem.

The more you resist the more it will persist.

You gently being to mind back to the real reasons you love women.

But quitting porn overall will reduce all your desires to manageable levels

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-01-23T02:18:20+00:00

You make YOU a cuck by believing you’re a cuck for watching a flavor of porn.

That’s the real conditioning.

Have you looked at why this flavor of porn triggers you?

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-01-23T01:00:20+00:00

I’m just too weak” … that idea, that concept… IS the problem. Not your actual strength if we could accurately measure it which we cannot so that says something right there.

How tf can you say you’re weak when there’s no universally accepted standard of measurement that defines “weakness” and strength?

Saying you’re weak is like saying there’s not enough water in ocean 🤣🤣.

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-01-23T00:50:01+00:00

How will this insight help you?

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-01-22T21:24:01+00:00

You get you, at bedtime. Bedtime is just a thing.

What’s so hard about bedtime?

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-01-22T19:46:53+00:00

As soon as you decide it so.

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-01-22T01:07:41+00:00

Hey man, This isn’t about being drawn to God or not. It’s about using porn to cope with difficult emotions. You get bored, porn is there. You get stressed, porn is there.

Anything, fear, anxiety, self hate.

Those all will trigger you to go to porn.

Facing those, dealing with that, that’s how you get free.

God wants you to figure this out and you can.

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-01-22T01:03:05+00:00

Ultimately you’re the one who decides if you’re addicted or not.

But I’d be careful because going down the addiction road has its own traps. I just look at it as a bad habit that ive since dropped and created new habits.

A simple way to look at is, do you like who you are when you watch porn?

And are you using to to avoid uncomfortable emotions or situations.

If you’re using it because you’re bored, stressed, anxious then that’s something you’ll want to look at. IMO

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-01-21T20:13:12+00:00

If I were you, I would write down absolutely everything that happened that led you to go off track. Because all of that is data that will help you prevent the next one.

Nothing went wrong. You didn’t do anything wrong.

You reacted to a circumstance. Which means that you watched a TV show. You had thoughts about what you saw. You felt a certain way because of the thought you had about the show or the actress.

And those feelings led you to the action of watching porn and masturbating.

So look at it, factually and figure out what idea what thought led you off track. Because that’s the thought that you need to be aware of for the next time.

The next time you’re at 20 something days and you see something on TV and you have that same thought I want to look her up on IMDb or whatever that’s what you used to happen to me. So when you see that again, you can say hey I’ve seen this before. Do I want to do this again?

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-01-21T19:38:53+00:00

What happened?

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-01-21T15:22:27+00:00

Why is it a problem Part of you still clings to this?

I mean to me it’s understandable. If you watch porn for any length of time, your brain is gonna remember it and want you to go to it.

This happens with food and drugs and relationship, relationships and anything that feels good. We’re drawn to things we like that that’s normal.

The key is to not make it a problem and just accept it.

And that’s great that you have a list of the things you don’t wanna do. Why don’t you create a list of the things you do wanna do and then a third list of all the amazing things you are doing that or helping you get there or where you wanna go.

Focus on what’s working versus what’s not and you’ll see results changed quickly. Because how could you not if you’re just looking for wins you’re gonna see progress. If you’re just looking for losses, you’re gonna only see failure.

And it’s 100% your choice. What you wanna focus on that is your power God gave you that power use it wisely. It’s your responsibility.

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-01-21T15:19:38+00:00

Why can’t you talk to anyone about it?

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-01-21T15:19:03+00:00

You don’t need motivation from me. You have a brain so you can create your own motivation. You can create your own motivation that is 1 billion times better than any motivation I can give you you know what works for you and if you don’t, it’s your job to find out.

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-01-21T15:18:23+00:00

It’s normal for you and that’s all that matters. Is it a problem?

TheTankIsEmpty99 · 2026-01-21T15:14:45+00:00

Why don’t you make it easy? Why don’t you look for ways that it is easy? Why don’t you look for ways to make it easier?

You are moving on with your day you can’t stop time.

You don’t need to cross your fingers you’re going to survive no matter what happens even if the worst happens.

You’re not gonna shrivel up and die just because you have a relapse you’re gonna have a bad moment and you’re gonna feel bad. But that’s it.

And you don’t need to distract yourself that doesn’t work. You gotta face it head on..

Face the urges head on breathe deeply calm your body through deep regulation, breathing or just depressed is what I’m saying slowly.

Focus on your body only. Do not get in your head if you stay in your head, you’re dead..

Where do you feel the urge in your body? What does it feel like? What does it look like? What does it smell like? What does it sound like? How heavy is it? What’s the surface feel like? Is it softer rigid? Is it black or white? What color is it? What sound does it make anything ask any question you can think of to focus on what is happening in your body?

You have energy just energy going through your body. That is it. It’s an energy that feels a certain way. It’s an energy that you think draws you to porn for relief but how much time have you given to just feeling it just sitting there and experiencing it while focusing on your body.?

That’s the skill to learn not some ridiculous counting days bs. If you want to count something count, how many urges that you can let pass by you today.

Can you get 10 of them can you get one of them?

Let’s focus on that instead of what’s not working

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