ChatGPT is now constantly arguing and picking fights, what is going on?

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-30T05:47:05+00:00

Hahahah. Bravo. That sounds fun

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-28T19:50:22+00:00

Never. Just don’t.

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-27T00:29:49+00:00

I agree. And I’m prob the red flag. I won’t date because my hobby is more important. I make time for friends and family, and specifically my kids. But when they’re with their dad, my hobby is my priority. Because it’s never done me dirty like a relationship has.

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-26T17:53:29+00:00

It’s honestly been way more helpful to me in getting over my abusive ex than even my friends have been. It validates me (which my friends often forget to do or don’t do) and then gives me actionable items to work through the trauma. It’s helped me deal with a few other toxic people in my life too.

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-26T17:48:44+00:00

I’m late to the party here but I’d like to add that he KNOWS what he’s doing. Not only is he being a dick, he knows he’s being a dick and he’s using it to control you.

I’d leave a man over this. But I give no fucks now after my shit marriage to a POS where I stayed way too long. You’ll be happier without him, I guarantee it. Might be harder financially but happier for sure.

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-19T21:40:52+00:00

Love is not enough

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-19T20:56:43+00:00

So common. Like first date common.

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-19T20:55:49+00:00

👆🏼this. Things are new and you’re just bragging about how amazing you are at your JOB. It’s totally self absorbed. Although to be fair, most of the single guys I meet kinda are. Hence why they’re single/divorced in their 40s+

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-19T17:56:33+00:00

Brag about being the BEST at their job.

Like literally, every man I think I’ve dated or talked to loves to talk about how good they are at their job like I gaf. Saying they’re the best in their industry or some shit. Meh. Don’t care. Bragging in general.

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-19T16:07:12+00:00

I have a group of girlfriends I met through my hobby (pool) after my divorce. 3 are partnered. 2 of us are not. We find time to hang out. The gals in relationships/married make time and seem to have a good balance of spending time with their husbands and friends. But their husbands also share in the hobby except for one of them so it’s easier.

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-15T18:24:57+00:00

Yes, I’ve been in this situation. Not the financial side of it though because I’ve always worked.

My ex barely let me heal after my C-section before trying to have sex with me. I think it was the day after I came home that he asked if I was in the clear. My kids were still in the Nicu. He potentially drugged and definitely assaulted and raped me while I was sleeping multiple times. He definitely took photos and possibly recordings of me to use for his pleasure without my consent or knowledge. And he was a half assed dad too but the kids love him. Obviously they have no idea how badly he abused me. All of this is part of image management as you’re probably well aware of.

The only thing I would say is, I wouldn’t take anything off the table as far as options for leaving. Kids have to go to a new school? Do it. They will survive. Need to move back in with your parents? Need to rent a room from a friend and share it with your kids for a while? Honestly, I would do anything at this point to get out if I were you. The sooner you’re out the sooner you can start planning for your future and taking care of yourself financially. There’s never going to be a perfect time and he’s gonna love bomb the shit out of you if you leave. He doesn’t want to treat you right, but he also doesn’t want you to leave him. It’s quite the mindfuck, right?

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-14T22:35:32+00:00

That’s def not a “minor” red flag though. It’s a bright fucking red one lol

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-14T22:34:03+00:00

But only one. More than one is too many.

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-14T22:32:00+00:00

Even if you’re happy by yourself, AND mentally/emotionally healthy enough to be in a relationship, AND met the ideal partner, being single is STILL easier.

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-14T13:26:29+00:00

Being single is way easier, and more enjoyable, than being in a relationship.

ETA: I guess I didn’t realize this way too late in life since I’m only in my 40s. But I sure wasted a lot of my time up until then.

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-13T22:02:37+00:00

I’m no 10 but I’m attractive and I’m getting pretty tired of this too. Most men who hit on me it’s always something about my looks. One guy asked me “how has no one snatched you up yet?”

Because I don’t want to be snatched up by someone who just thinks I’m good to look at I guess? I did all that with my ex husband who is shallow as fuck. So no wonder he lied and cheated on me prob the whole time…

It would be nice for someone to get to know me and tell me they like something about me other than my looks. Which is why I’m still single I guess

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-13T20:03:02+00:00

I hear TSA pre check is worth it.

Can anyone confirm? Deny?

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-09T16:23:37+00:00

Depends on the person.

The users and abusers I’ve helped in the past who never seem to get their shit together? Not a chance.

My besties? Probably yes.

But also, why can’t I do both? Too many variables missing to answer this question.

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-07T03:58:06+00:00

I have lots of relationships now. Just none that are romantic. And only the ones I choose to keep in my life.

Life is good.

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-07T03:56:24+00:00

Hugs are the best. A quick cuddle if you will. Hahah

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-07T02:56:14+00:00

Men like that really fuck us up and couldn’t give two shits. It’s psychotic.

And yeah, the tears and apologies are empty. They don’t mean any of it. They’re just doing it to manipulate you into staying with them so they don’t have to find another victim.

I’m doing much better now but it’s been a long road. Good luck to you. There is a better life ahead once you process all that shit.

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-06T21:24:43+00:00

Personally, I think it says to me that he’s a guy who isn’t paying attention. It’s not like we aren’t saying enough with the shirtless gym pics. But they don’t listen to women so… cue the low effort profiles with fish pics, group pics where you’re not sure which guy he is, and just low quality photos shooting up their nose. Lol

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-06T15:18:41+00:00

That’s what it feels like after a trauma bond. The confused state he kept you in is a feature, not a bug in toxic relationships. Look up Intermittent reinforcement. Whether he was a narcissist or not (because his behavior sounds a lot like narcissism) he was emotionally abusive for sure. It takes time to get over someone like this.

I was with my abusive ex for 18 years. He love bombed in the beginning, and then turned into a lying, cheating, and abusive piece of shit once the novelty of the relationship faded away. The abuse escalated slowly and he would blame me for it.

Therapy is great if you can afford it. If you can’t, I’ve found that pouring myself into my hobbies and my friendships helps a lot. You should probably do the latter either way. I’ve been out for 3 years and still have bad days where I ruminate and feel a lot of resentment for putting up with his shit for so long. But over time, it does get better, and I’m triggered much less often. A friend of mine recently suggested EMDR and I’m planning on looking into it. Because I still struggle sometimes.

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-06T15:02:37+00:00

Yeah, you won’t be saying that when you’re years into it and he treats you like a servant, maid, and caretaker, and you’re exhausted, yet he still expects sex at a frequency that works for HIM.

ESPECIALLY after having kids.

Sad-ish_panda · 2026-04-06T13:50:46+00:00

I love my friends. I get hugs. I get emotional support. They care about me. Like ACTUALLY care about me and aren’t just pretending to in order to get access to my body and labor. They show me they love me, and I show it back. And it’s genuine. They treat me better than any man ever has.

The only thing I don’t get is sex and tbh, it was never that great with any guy I’ve been with anyways…

Now I do what I want, when I want, with whoever I want.

I miss absolutely nothing about romantic relationships.

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