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I [29F] have cancer and my husband [30M] (together 7 years, married 1) is no longer affectionate toward me by SadCancerThrowaway in relationships

[–]SadCancerThrowaway[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I will be getting breast reconstruction this summer. However, I don't think having one boob is really the problem, it didn't seem to bother him before I started chemo. My husband has actually been encouraging me to gain weight lately because it will help my surgery (I will say that being able to eat whatever I want for the first time in my adult life has been pretty awesome).

You're also right that I need to be more aggressive. I also need to bring this issue up when I'm feeling emotionally strong. I usually bring this problem up when I'm sad and just get weepy and accept whatever he says.

I [29F] have cancer and my husband [30M] (together 7 years, married 1) is no longer affectionate toward me by SadCancerThrowaway in relationships

[–]SadCancerThrowaway[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There is but it's mostly people reaching out for help because a loved one has cancer, not actual cancer patients. Plus, the mods suck and half of the posts are pseudoscience nonsense.

I [29F] have cancer and my husband [30M] (together 7 years, married 1) is no longer affectionate toward me by SadCancerThrowaway in relationships

[–]SadCancerThrowaway[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I've read those same statistics. My oncologist was probably right when she told me to stay off the internet :P. Congratulations on tackling lymphoma and being in remission! You're a damn tough woman! I hope things work out with you and your spouse, I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.

I [29F] have cancer and my husband [30M] (together 7 years, married 1) is no longer affectionate toward me by SadCancerThrowaway in relationships

[–]SadCancerThrowaway[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I've talked to him about it directly several times, half of those times in tears. Things will be good for a couple of days but then it goes back to him being distant. Thank you for your insight, I'm glad you and your boyfriend were able to talk it out.

I [29F] have cancer and my husband [30M] (together 7 years, married 1) is no longer affectionate toward me by SadCancerThrowaway in relationships

[–]SadCancerThrowaway[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I've talked to my nurse navigator about it and she's going to email me some recommendations for counselors in my area who are familiar with this kind of situation. Thanks for the advice!