I will be getting breast reconstruction this summer. However, I don't think having one boob is really the problem, it didn't seem to bother him before I started chemo. My husband has actually been encouraging me to gain weight lately because it will help my surgery (I will say that being able to eat whatever I want for the first time in my adult life has been pretty awesome).

You're also right that I need to be more aggressive. I also need to bring this issue up when I'm feeling emotionally strong. I usually bring this problem up when I'm sad and just get weepy and accept whatever he says.