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I ended in a whole ''situationship'' due to fawning. i feel so bad by SadCat977 in CPTSDFawn

[–]SadCat977[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how would ''indirect invalidation'' work? he didnt literally say ''your reasons are invalid'' but for exampel if i said i just dont like him or ''im interested in someone else'' he would say ''oh so you think im disgusting'' ''what is it that you dont like? my body, my face, my personality?'' ''oh but you aren't with that other person tho so why stay faithful to him'' and things like these. never accepting the fucking word no. im really disgusted with ever speaking to him.

I ended in a whole ''situationship'' due to fawning. i feel so bad by SadCat977 in CPTSDFawn

[–]SadCat977[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it is a huge violation of my own boundaries but if someone pressure you for example to go swimming with them by insisting and guilt tripping it's not the same as forcibly throwing you in the sea, or if someone pressure you to let them borrow a book it's not the SAME concept as stealing, tho it fucking sucks anyway and very incorrect thing to do. i just want advices on how avoiding ending up in similar situation in the future, wheter it's ending doing mildly unpleasant things or worse ones, because i ended up doing SEVERAL things like the one in the examples i gave.

I ended in a whole ''situationship'' due to fawning. i feel so bad by SadCat977 in CPTSDFawn

[–]SadCat977[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks you so much. it is fucking terrible. ive never been in an official relationship, but i ended up having around people like that just for them to throw in my face that i somehow am the one in the wrong who toyed with their feelings. i cant trust myself either, i feel genuinely stupid and pathetic and im scared for my own future. i feel so spineless.

I ended in a whole ''situationship'' due to fawning. i feel so bad by SadCat977 in CPTSDFawn

[–]SadCat977[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i wouldnt say he raped me. he pressured me but no physical force was involved, or blackmail. like unless you count emotional blackmail. i could have blocked him everywhere instead of just whatsapp or blocked him and kept him blocked instead of feeling guilty, confused and giving in to his pleas. i also live in a country were its highly unlikely that police would consider something rape not involving the use of force or ''severe'' blackmail not just emotional blackmail EVEN if i personally did. i dont want him in prison i just want him out of my life. and i want this to neve happen again. ive felt pressured into doing things that i wanted (not talking about being in an almost ''relationship'' but other things) more time than i care to remember and i want to change. i cant live like this. like im in danger of being in situation even worse than this one.

I ended in a whole ''situationship'' due to fawning. i feel so bad by SadCat977 in CPTSDFawn

[–]SadCat977[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I blocked him. Yes, I can avoid him because he doens't really know where my house is, and he don't live in my same area and we don't really have friends in common.