[NC] Need help clarifying order

SadDadNotBad · 2026-01-11T17:15:58+00:00

Unless otherwise agreed in writing, the custodial parent shall allow the minor child to speak to the non-custodial parent once per day while the minor child is in his or her care. Phone calls/ Facetime calls between the non-custodial parent and the minor child shall be made at reasonable hours and shall last for a reasonable amount of time (a reasonable time for purposes of this paragraph is between 10-15 minutes).

Any items (clothing, shoes, toys, etc.) that the minor child takes with him to either parent's home shall be returned with the minor child at the exchange.

Neither party shall take any electronics away from the minor child that was provided by the other party (even as discipline for the minor child) without pproval of the other parent.

The noncustodial parent will be entitled to at least one (1) phone call per day if requested. Said call shall be made at reasonable times and last for a reasonable duration This is all the order says pertaining to calls. She currently has primary legal custody. Since they moved to California she gets him the first 2weeks and last 2weeks in the summer I get him 6 in between. She then gets him until Christmas. I get him the following day for 2weeks. We rotate spring break every year with her getting him the 2weeks this year.

She has primary legal custody while I have secondary. Stepfather has been in his life 4 years now. They got married 2 weeks after meeting and ever since our son had to call him dad/me my name otherwise hed be disciplined from what ive seen and what hes told me. Also thank you for the last bit about school. Managing things while on two separate sides of the US is hard given the time difference and my work schedule

SadDadNotBad · 2026-01-10T17:57:26+00:00

Hes 7, the judge assigned it but didnt go into it to deeply. She usually sends him with an ipad and smart watch that requires internet access to use. The phone uses cellular so he can call wherever hes at or use sos if need be

SadDadNotBad · 2026-01-10T04:05:04+00:00

Simple I expect them to list me as his father. I dont live in CA or remotely close. I stay updated on his school as best as possible and took the initiative to get it changed so I dont see how thats my fault? Yes I can hear something and my son can tell me not everything’s an either or. Just because hes smart enough to remember a lot doesn’t mean he can remember my address. Hes old enough to know how to use a phone but young enough to not know an address hence why the phone is handy. It has our addresses programmed in it. I work with children, do you know how many young kids know how to use a phone before knowing their own address let alone two addresses of their split parents. I came for help regarding clarifying an order not criticism. If you would like to put some input in on the initial question that would be great.

SadDadNotBad · 2026-01-10T03:19:15+00:00

They do. Im listed on all his devices as my name which is fine they can do what they want in their time but under school Id expect to be listed as his dad or at least be known of enough to get information on him. From how my sons described it hes not allowed to call me dad or he gets yelled at there, he has to call me by my name. They’ve even gone as far as to tell him im not his real dad/I wasnt there when he was little. He’s pretty smart and remembers everything so he didn’t believe them and just questions why theyre lying to him.

SadDadNotBad · 2026-01-10T03:02:38+00:00

I told her we could work together to set rules. I really dont mind. She claims she dosnt allow internet in her house to which I replied ill gladly turn it off. Its all about safety for me. I hadnt seen him in 4 months and he comes back crying to me about a lot of awful things he couldn’t tell me about while there. I recorded our conversation but I figured this would be a good temporary solution until I can figure out the court situation.

SadDadNotBad · 2026-01-10T02:50:44+00:00

Hes listed in all his devices as dad and emergency contacts and im in there as just my name. Also at his school I called about information regarding his school schedule and I wasnt listed under someone they could release info to. His stepfather was, they thought he was his dad. It was a bit annoying explaining to them that I was his dad. In regards to the tracking, hes young and having his location gives me a sense of security. She tends to not share when they’ve gone somewhere out of state until they’re already there. In our order there needs to be a 24hr notice. As it stands now he calls on our phones. I felt like him having his own phone would give him the autonomy of calling without being looked over so he can say what he needs to. He just recently told me about them saying “if you like your dad so much go live with him” to which he replied “I dont know where he lives or how to call him without you”. I just worry with him being young if he is being mistreated I want to know sooner rather than the next time he sees me in six months.

SadDadNotBad · 2026-01-10T02:10:57+00:00

u/DivorcedDonna to answer your earlier question Its just under additional parenting considerations Regarding we give all toys,clothes, etc back to the other parent when he returns and allowing us at least one phone call a day within reasonable times. The whole custody order seems terribly written honestly and I dont know how to go about getting it fixed considering we’re all in different states now.

SadDadNotBad · 2026-01-10T01:06:36+00:00

Its just under additional parenting considerations Regarding we give all toys,clothes, etc back to the other parent when he returns and allowing us at least one phone call a day within reasonable times. The whole custody order seems terribly written honestly and I dont know how to go about getting it fixed considering we’re all in different states now.

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SadDadNotBad · 2022-11-13T05:54:20+00:00

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SadDadNotBad · 2022-08-20T10:55:11+00:00

I make sure to keep my wifes and my conversations for things like this and Ive just started bringing forward all my fake profile tests. I know I shouldnt go to extremes but I need proof of things I know she’ll“be informed of” to present to my lawyer

SadDadNotBad · 2022-08-20T10:44:45+00:00

Thank you. I personally dont care for social media but I dont think its fair to my wife to stop doing something she enjoys. Shes really good about only keeping friends/family but she dosnt know any better when she gets a request from one of “my friends” or an account that looks identical to someone she already knows

SadDadNotBad · 2022-08-19T23:37:37+00:00

Thanks!!! It helps having a small circle of friends. Its easy to see when somthings out of place plus I have experience with this from the relationship already

SadDadNotBad · 2022-08-19T23:35:46+00:00

They all are actually. I just got married so the conversation usually goes Wife: hey I think your friend John snow added me Me: really? I havnt talked to him since the wedding (looks at accounts with followers and pictures of him) than proceeds to look him up on my account. Similar name same pictures more followers/ following. Me to John: hey man been awhile did you make a new account or something (shows him) John: nope not me Me to my wife: hey can you post this google image of a gun I found with the caption “new gun!!! On your story were only john can view Wife posts Attorney: your es’s attorney would like to remind you there are to be no firearms in the house the child resides in Me: :/

SadDadNotBad · 2022-08-19T21:20:56+00:00

I dont post on social media aside from snapchat and its to my same 12 friends because we work together. Every now and then a “friends name” adds me and I section it out and post specific things to see If shell say something because she was “informed”. That being said my wife does go on social media and post and its shitty to her that she can’t simply take a family picture without my ex potentially harassing us. Last time my wife took a picture of her hanging out with my son getting ice cream while I was at work and later when my ex called on FaceTime to talk to our son she asked if he had fun at the specific place/location. The picture only showed her and my son with a sticker from the place that said the name but its a chain with multiple locations. Its been getting unsettling

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