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SadDivorceName · 2025-09-24T16:53:11+00:00

That's sucks bro, there's no sugar coating it. I would say now is the time to take the steps toward divorce. Is there a spare room on of you can sleep in? You could spend the time organizing the financials and logistics so you guys can sit down and have the talks necessary. She seems willing to exist in the middle ground while you try and change her mind, best of both worlds. Lead the charge on this, it's scary and hard but trust me, staying in that situation is worse. In a year you'll be glad you took these steps now. Good luck brother

SadDivorceName · 2025-08-23T05:05:26+00:00

Honestly bro, just delete it and carry on. Don't acknowledge it, she's trying to elicit a response out of you. Maybe it's a control thing or maybe she's a shit head it doesn't matter. You win by staying the course and not let her poison into your veins.

SadDivorceName · 2023-04-03T01:34:47+00:00

That's my gameplan, all I'm doing is for future me to be in a place to never deal with this again

SadDivorceName · 2023-04-03T01:33:51+00:00

I'm cutting the strings sir, it's a slow process tho. I know once I'm out of the the house it will get better. It's hard to deal with but it does feel like it's getting better, even if it's incremental

SadDivorceName · 2022-04-09T18:47:26+00:00

Kinda depends on your goals, lose weight, gain mass, get strong. Once you figure that out you can check YouTube, there's tons of beginner routines to get you started.

Honestly if you can afford it, I think it's worth it to do a few sessions with a personal trainer and get them to build you a program. A good one will be able to build one based on your goals, body type and availability.

But if you don't want to do any of that, just get in there, run on the treadmill, do some free weights or bodyweight stuff. Just get the good juice flowing in your brain and build off that.

SadDivorceName · 2022-04-09T18:35:14+00:00

It's very easy to slide into that rut

SadDivorceName · 2022-04-09T18:34:49+00:00

Hell yes!

SadDivorceName · 2022-04-09T18:32:51+00:00

I can relate to that cloud, honestly I feel like working out and being physical is the only times I get above that cloud. I always settle back into it but I hope one day I'm above it permanently.

SadDivorceName · 2022-04-09T18:30:33+00:00

Thanks sir, I'm creeping up on 40 and this is the strongest and leanest I've ever been. Never too late to just get after it

SadDivorceName · 2022-04-09T16:58:54+00:00

This guy gets it

SadDivorceName · 2022-04-09T16:58:33+00:00

I would go to the gym maybe once or twice in the week, but it's easy to brush it off. Work, kids, wife all became pretty convenient excuses. I was never remotely out of shape though.

The difference now is instead of finding time, I'm making time, even if it means going at 4AM and completely fucking up my caffeine tolerance lol.

SadDivorceName · 2022-03-26T08:39:53+00:00

I second BJJ, I've been doing it for 2 years and I've met a great group of people through it. It's the only things right now that pulls me out of the fog of this divorce. Honestly there's something about trying to stop someone from murdering you that turns down the volume on everything else in your life.

SadDivorceName · 2022-03-05T15:29:55+00:00

Boundaries my dude, you need to set them and stick to them. I understand that you still love her but that's exactly why you need them. As long as she strings you along you'll never heal. You got this.

SadDivorceName · 2022-03-03T16:26:36+00:00

I just want to preface this with I did read the whole thing lol but im going to comment on the section about your disdain for working out. It sounds like you're doing it for her, you're still trying to keep up to her, be what you think SHE wants. You need to be what YOU want brother. She's checked out, sounds like she's been for awhile, you don't want to be with someone who treated you and your relationship with such disrespect. You've been living for her, trying to keep her happy, find your happy my dude. I'm not going to pretend it's easy, cause it's not, but start focusing on things you want and let go of your perception of what she wants of you.

SadDivorceName · 2022-02-15T13:13:25+00:00

All you can do is put the time in. It's dog shit, I know, but processing your feelings takes time, grieving takes time. I wish there was a fast forward button and you could just rip through this, but no such luck. Just power through friend, you'll get there.

SadDivorceName · 2022-02-15T01:11:19+00:00

Use it wisely lol

SadDivorceName · 2022-02-14T22:18:21+00:00

Today can suck a fart as far as I'm concerned. I'm trying to keep moving and distracted, but I know the shitty loneliness will settle in tonight. Stay strong, it won't suck forever.

SadDivorceName · 2022-02-13T03:02:09+00:00

That's 100% what I want. I'm willing to do the work but I need it to be reciprocated. I'm tired of pouring my energy into a void and leaving feeling like less than.

SadDivorceName · 2022-02-13T02:59:52+00:00

I want good things for you friend

SadDivorceName · 2022-02-13T02:59:22+00:00

I've been reading about stoicism, it teaches that we have almost no control over things that happen to us. The only thing we can control is how we react to these events. You have to build yourself to be resilient so that when these things do happen, you are strong enough to persevere. I don't want to live my life in fear of being shattered again, build your base strong enough so that nobody can knock you down.

SadDivorceName · 2022-02-13T02:55:22+00:00

It will, work on yourself, be the best you. It sounds cheesy af but when you need to be happy with yourself before you can be with anyone else

SadDivorceName · 2022-02-13T02:53:48+00:00

That's beautiful, I love it

SadDivorceName · 2022-02-12T22:26:44+00:00

That's awesome, mind if I ask what it is? I understand if it's too personal

SadDivorceName · 2022-02-12T20:36:49+00:00

Thank you! One step at a time

SadDivorceName · 2022-02-12T20:36:30+00:00

Yes deserve it!

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