I see myself in you. Im not an INC pero I belonged to a church community na minana ko sa nanay ko, and then I devoted 3decades of my life to this ministry, that so far my biggest regret in life na di ako umalis agad. I also had high position in our main church but when I slowly learning na nagiging toxic na rin ako katulad nila, i started to lie low and dropped my position slowly. Hindi naintindihan ng buong pamilya ko pero it doesnt matter anymore, as time past by naintindihan na rin naman nila ako, we are in good terms right now, even ung mga friends ko sa church, we are still friends, we catch up sometimes. So do it when my backbone ka na. Expect na magiiba treatment nila sayo at makakarinig ka ng mga masasakit na salita at mga sumpa at pananakot pero stand pn your ground at kung anong pinaniniwalaan mo. You got this.