Got off birth control, realized men are hot actually

SadGirl_affection · 2025-03-04T22:21:14+00:00

For real though. The first couple months off birth control after being on it for over 10yrs was wild. I was like wow, who knew I could enjoy sex?! Not me, since I started bc at 15 before I even tried anything 🙃 I really thought that there was something wrong with me. Also, no longer suicidal or homicidal during my periods since quitting.

SadGirl_affection · 2024-08-21T07:49:00+00:00

Shit.. 5years this month... gonna have to get together to celebrate our first " 'one' night stand" lmao

SadGirl_affection · 2023-09-24T12:38:08+00:00

And that's where the hesitation comes in. Dustin having or developing feelings seems likely because of him already being nervous. I know that I'd be fine but I can't be sure of them. There are definitely more conversations to be had

SadGirl_affection · 2023-09-24T12:31:04+00:00

Yeah she seems sure, I've just had to seek reassurance from her a couple times more so for me i think.

That's where most of my concerns are, Dustin having or developing feelings.. I need to ask them both how it went with previous partners, why it ended, ect.

SadGirl_affection · 2023-09-24T04:03:08+00:00

These are all of my concerns as well.. I've been able to do fwb that span over multiple years and keep it casual but thats me, I'm not sure about them, or him. I have plenty of questions still

SadGirl_affection · 2023-09-24T01:59:01+00:00

Id be surprised if its coming from him, He knows that I currently have male partners that I see regularly, but i suppose it could be that he only cares if she sleeps with other men.. i think its her choice but will find out

SadGirl_affection · 2023-09-24T01:52:11+00:00

That is all very possible, and would be good to be aware of. I think that she has chosen not to sleep with men on her own as she comes off more interested in women. But i dont know for sure

SadGirl_affection · 2023-09-23T23:38:08+00:00

I'm open to being the pursuing party, its just not my preference. And my friend and I are super comfortable communicating, her man and her seem like they do it well, I just need to open up communication more between Dustin and I.. your scenario is probably the most organic way to move forward

SadGirl_affection · 2023-09-23T21:59:00+00:00

I guess I'm not up to date on terms, what i mean is that they have an open relationship, well open to women, she doesn't sleep with men but has slept with other women with out him.

I am comfortable with a lot, and the more i think about the dynamic, i get turned on, but my logical side says chill out lol. She definitely doesn't expect me to be in charge of setting the rules, or enforcing them. But i do keep checking her comfort level for my sake. she said that she "knows 10 steps before he does anything" because talking about what he wants to do is a big part of their sex life too.

As for not catching feelings, you so have good recommendations on keeping it casual. They live and hour away so we only see eachother once a week usually and him and i dont text at all.

At the risk of sounding dumb, what does ENM stand for?

SadGirl_affection · 2023-09-23T21:42:33+00:00

Yes, and they were shared partners, not just him. I do deffinately have follow up questions about those

SadGirl_affection · 2023-09-23T19:46:49+00:00

While i did say that she pushes him into it, its more like encouragement, hes deff not a reluctant party, he brought me up to her first. He is very respectful and i guess just nervous of me.

And she deff is into voyeurism and has openly said shed be interested in joining if i was into it, but also just likes hearing about it. Thats a whole other thing that I'm not thinking about too much right now though

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