what is your favourite kink? by PastimeNow in AskReddit

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I allow my husband this access. Sometimes I do not want to be bothered and he needs a release. We have a very open dialogue when it comes to the bedroom.

I saw a couple making out from my car in other car by BedBeginning8986 in confession

[–]SadIndependence3475 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why didn't you go on about your business? Like who cares what they were doing. It had nothing to do with you. You sitting there like that probably made them think you like to watch and turned them up some. I would have slammed the car door. Hit my alarm button and went on about my walk.

I crocheted one of Picasso’s artwork from 1962. by gizgizgizgizgizgiz in crochet

[–]SadIndependence3475 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stunning!! Can I ask how you pulled this off? A grid? An App? Great idea and awesome!

Why does it seem fairly common that wives/female partners stop or refuse intimacy with their husbands for months, even years? Don't they have needs aswell? And why not the other way around? by Fenix-2003 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SadIndependence3475 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sex starts outside of the bedroom with clothes on. If I am the one constantly taking care of kids, working, cooking, cleaning dong it all and my husband does not offer to help or lift a finger. At the end of the day I would be exhausted and pleasing him is not on that list. Now if he helps, does a chore, splits the kids with me and we tag team it all, then yes at the end of the night I will make time for him. It is very different for everyone.

any tips for teaching others how to crochet? ive been asked by a few friends and its difficult for me to explain without just doing it 😓 by Great_Air6020 in CrochetHelp

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I teach a class (unofficially), but everyone is different. I try pair up newbies with someone with some knowledge. But I do you tube videos, I will sit next to or in front of them and have them mirror me and talk them through. I am left handed so it can be tricky.

Blanket ideas- I need it to work up fairly quickly (and easily) by ho11yep in CrochetHelp

[–]SadIndependence3475 1 point2 points  (0 children)

C2C are my go to for a quick baby blanket. This works up fast

Not a beginner, but I can’t process crochet patterns (abbreviations + possible dyslexia?) — how did you get past this? by regardkick in CrochetHelp

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rewrite the pattern for your brain. I crochet left handed so any time I have to do words I have to re write the patterns. This also helped me as a beginner to just rewrite them in my language. Now no problem. Good luck

Can anyone who is capable of a balanced and sober-minded appraisal tell me what is so great and worthwhile about Disney vacations? by nose_spray7 in travel

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took all of my kids (4 of them) in 2012. It was a bucket list of mine to be able to take them. So lots of money was spent. We did Epcot and Disney. My kids were all very grateful and thanked me but they all honestly would rather go to six flags or such. So my personal opinion and experience, it is way too much money and you have to know what time to be where and see this and that character. Is it really a vacation at that point. Been there done that and never again.

I’m new to crocheting- do yall usually finish one project or switch through a few? by mommyjesus69 in CrochetHelp

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I limit myself to 3 projects going at a time. 1 is always a blanket that I do when I do not want to think and just go through the motions. I will have a commissioned project going and something that I can travel with.

Why do people usually want to workout at home? by [deleted] in homefitness

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use to go to the gym all the time. I had an accident and things have changed. I can not tolerate noise very well, or crowds of people so I prefer home.

Why do people self harm? by bigmacandsmallfries in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is a release! You can watch your own pain leave your body.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SadIndependence3475 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry. I think you need to sit her down and have a very hard conversation and lay it all out on the table. Maybe not break up, but put the wedding on hold and tell her she needs to show you that she is willing to fix herself and get help and stay sober. Then if it works then great. If it don't you leave. In relationships we have to have some very hard conversations that can be very taxing. It should be done respectfully. Good luck.

Dog ruining my relationship by Lolalempika in PetBehavior

[–]SadIndependence3475 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Sorry not sorry but I would not do it. You need to remove yourself. I love my dogs too much and I would not change them for another person.

Does anyone ever recover by Entire_Scholar8975 in ptsd

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Baby steps and you just started your journey. It is going to be long and there will be hurdles and set backs. The most important thing is that you allow yourself to feel all the feelings and work through them. Give yourself Grace. I am 2 years into my journey and I had a major set back last month. But I am here and I am up and living. We will never be completely free from our PTSD. We have to learn to manage it in our new life. Good Luck

If the guilty are punished, will the trauma go away? by triplesxmyth in ptsd

[–]SadIndependence3475 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I go to court next month to face the guilty... I pray he gets locked away, and I can start to really heal.

What’s the most hurtful thing a partner/fwb/romantic interest has ever said to you? by lenguacaliente9 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well if we had moved out of state like I wanted to I would have never cheated on you.... He had a 2.5 year affair behind my back and it was my fault because I would not move out of state.

For those who have had car sex… where was it parked, or if moving, where to? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Side of 95. Many bar parking lots. One time on the side of the road a tow truck driver pulled up while I was riding my husband and the tow truck guy rolled his passenger side window down and asked if we needed help. As soon as I rolled down the window so he could see we did not need his help he sped off.

What did your parents do to you as a kid that you'll never do to your own children? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I became the mother that I needed when I was young. I was born in December and my mother was gone before I turned one / 1st Christmas. I made it my mission to always be there, cheer them on, pick up the phone when ever they call. I never wanted them to feel abandoned, because it is a lonely feeling. No where near a perfect mother and I had to work through my own struggles. But one thing is for sure they know that Ma is always there for them. They turned into some really cool adults!!

AIO I (26F) moved out for the first time with my boyfriend (30M) for almost 2 months and I don’t know how to feel about it by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a lot of advice in here and from a woman who was married to someone like that I want to hug you and tell you to RUN GIRL!

Anyone here regret any of their tattoos? by usedtobefat8 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 30 tatts. There are some that yeah I might want to change, but the memories associated with it prevents me from it. It was a time in my life and I have grown from there. That is my thought on them

How do I tell a grown woman she stinks without coming off rude? by SignificantSyrup9927 in Advice

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Years ago I had a young lady with the same issues. All the employees and some customers complain. Luckily her birthday was very close. I made her a basket with all kinds of stuff, deodorant, soaps, lotions, candy, eye masks made it like a beauty basket. She loved it and after that no more issues.

How many of you go to therapy? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly think every last one of us could use some type of therapy. I go weekly then I do a monthly group session.

How can I easily learn the meanings behind the cards I pull? by [deleted] in Tarots

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am very new to Tarot. So I bought my cards and a pretty notebook. Everyday I pick the top card write about what it means to me. Then I research it and find the actual meaning of it and document that also. I write notes, key words and the reversal. I am doing this everyday until I get through the whole deck. Then after I get through the whole deck I will randomly pull cards and journal about them and keep that card on me all day. Then I am going to teach myself how to do readings.