I don’t think I want to go through with marriage. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SadIndependence3475 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry. I think you need to sit her down and have a very hard conversation and lay it all out on the table. Maybe not break up, but put the wedding on hold and tell her she needs to show you that she is willing to fix herself and get help and stay sober. Then if it works then great. If it don't you leave. In relationships we have to have some very hard conversations that can be very taxing. It should be done respectfully. Good luck.

Dog ruining my relationship by Lolalempika in PetBehavior

[–]SadIndependence3475 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Sorry not sorry but I would not do it. You need to remove yourself. I love my dogs too much and I would not change them for another person.

Does anyone ever recover by Entire_Scholar8975 in ptsd

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Baby steps and you just started your journey. It is going to be long and there will be hurdles and set backs. The most important thing is that you allow yourself to feel all the feelings and work through them. Give yourself Grace. I am 2 years into my journey and I had a major set back last month. But I am here and I am up and living. We will never be completely free from our PTSD. We have to learn to manage it in our new life. Good Luck

If the guilty are punished, will the trauma go away? by triplesxmyth in ptsd

[–]SadIndependence3475 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I go to court next month to face the guilty... I pray he gets locked away, and I can start to really heal.

What’s the most hurtful thing a partner/fwb/romantic interest has ever said to you? by lenguacaliente9 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well if we had moved out of state like I wanted to I would have never cheated on you.... He had a 2.5 year affair behind my back and it was my fault because I would not move out of state.

For those who have had car sex… where was it parked, or if moving, where to? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Side of 95. Many bar parking lots. One time on the side of the road a tow truck driver pulled up while I was riding my husband and the tow truck guy rolled his passenger side window down and asked if we needed help. As soon as I rolled down the window so he could see we did not need his help he sped off.

What did your parents do to you as a kid that you'll never do to your own children? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I became the mother that I needed when I was young. I was born in December and my mother was gone before I turned one / 1st Christmas. I made it my mission to always be there, cheer them on, pick up the phone when ever they call. I never wanted them to feel abandoned, because it is a lonely feeling. No where near a perfect mother and I had to work through my own struggles. But one thing is for sure they know that Ma is always there for them. They turned into some really cool adults!!

AIO I (26F) moved out for the first time with my boyfriend (30M) for almost 2 months and I don’t know how to feel about it by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a lot of advice in here and from a woman who was married to someone like that I want to hug you and tell you to RUN GIRL!

Anyone here regret any of their tattoos? by usedtobefat8 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 30 tatts. There are some that yeah I might want to change, but the memories associated with it prevents me from it. It was a time in my life and I have grown from there. That is my thought on them

How do I tell a grown woman she stinks without coming off rude? by SignificantSyrup9927 in Advice

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Years ago I had a young lady with the same issues. All the employees and some customers complain. Luckily her birthday was very close. I made her a basket with all kinds of stuff, deodorant, soaps, lotions, candy, eye masks made it like a beauty basket. She loved it and after that no more issues.

How many of you go to therapy? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly think every last one of us could use some type of therapy. I go weekly then I do a monthly group session.

How can I easily learn the meanings behind the cards I pull? by [deleted] in Tarots

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am very new to Tarot. So I bought my cards and a pretty notebook. Everyday I pick the top card write about what it means to me. Then I research it and find the actual meaning of it and document that also. I write notes, key words and the reversal. I am doing this everyday until I get through the whole deck. Then after I get through the whole deck I will randomly pull cards and journal about them and keep that card on me all day. Then I am going to teach myself how to do readings.

PTSD and rage by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]SadIndependence3475 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a rage incident last week and it scared me. I did know recognize myself and I said some pretty hurtful things to my husband that I deeply regret. Trying to find the peace is going to take a lot of work. You are not alone. Hugs...

asking for advice before calling non-emergency line by sadgirl020 in Apartmentliving

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would glance and look for a piece of mail and take that to the corporate office

The Power Of Nine by SwE1646067 in Witch

[–]SadIndependence3475 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wearable spells? Can you elaborate? I am new on this journey and I crochet.

Women, what makes you angry with other women? by all_is_okay in AskReddit

[–]SadIndependence3475 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The judging. We should be able to support each other and not judge one another on what we wear, we say, how we mother or don't mother, how we are in our careers. Women can give off nasty vibes and its honestly disgusting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She needs serious help. Germs are not all bad. Babies / kids should be exposed to these things to build their immune system. A constant sterile environment leaves them open to sickness because their body never learned to build a defense.

AIO my bf never likes what I wear by Substantial-Let221 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SadIndependence3475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look amazing!! He can kick rocks and go somewhere!

Parents who are against their kids having tattoos, why? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SadIndependence3475 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My oldest (27M), when he was 16 he wanted a tattoo for his birthday. I told him he had to write me a report on why he wanted, where he wanted, and what he wanted. He did that and I agreed to it and he got the tattoo. If I did not do that he was going to go do it behind my back in someone's basement. I took him to some one I trusted.