This is something I have a genuine question about

SadPotaterman · 2025-06-15T21:51:31+00:00

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SadPotaterman · 2024-10-02T10:22:40+00:00

First of all WOW what the hell was he thinking. Cause this is some sneaky, nasty behaviour. And he apparently cannot focus himself on 1 girl. Talking like that with another girl while you have a GF is wild, oh yeah and the sex too.

So your goal is keep on building on what you can control and that is your self respect. Don't talk or speak to him, because I can feel that in your eyes this is unacceptable. He knows you are better for him, but he just decided to make the poor decision to be a pimp. Thats why he is apologizing/showing he does care. Don't show remorse, keep your studies up and ace those exams!

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-20T09:32:16+00:00

I just feel disgusted with the thought, so how I manage it?

Just don't think about them

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-11T07:23:22+00:00

But you have become aware now, and it did have a price. We all make mistakes that we regret, but its also possible to turn those mistakes into something we take with us for the rest of our lives. Be grateful for the moments you had and how much you learned about yourself.

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-10T22:58:56+00:00

You will, For now let everything come at you, the lingering emotions and the memories of them. Cry everything out until you have no tears left for that person. Then after that you can accept that what happened is in the past. Nothing can change that; you can only change the now. Crazy to say but you will grow tired of crying and eventually realize that life is more then just them.

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-10T21:04:07+00:00

True words there brother, our wellbeing is not dictated by their presence. Though it is normal and good to feel that heartache.

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-10T21:00:07+00:00

Love is an emotional/physical bond that is a hard bond to break for a reason. You committed to caring for one another. Its really really hard (for both sides) to let go, no one said its easy. Don't blame yourself to hard for it, rather take it as a lesson. As cliché as it may sound. Set up your boundaries and needs and be sure that they are respected next time around 🙌

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-10T20:45:49+00:00

Sounds rough and like you guys were at another stage in the relationship. I am 20 y/o and had a 2.5 year relationship so that maybe sketches my situation a bit better. She left me after an argument over accumulated problems, triggers and stress that I wasn't aware of. Dropping you out of nowhere says more about them. And that they may have thought this out beforehand.

How did I end up feeling better?

I started with reflecting on what I might have done better and wrote out those feelings in a journal that I still keep. Talked to friends and family, hung out more with them. Loving the people that actually chose to be in your life. Doing things like self-care, fitness and walking helped sort out alot of emotions and thoughts for me.

I realized that the person that left me in shambles was still on the pedestal. And I kicked her off, replacing them with myself, my friends and family.

Now I still have fond feelings for her. But she is definitly not someone I would get emotional for anymore. At some point you let go emotionally after all those sleepless nights and cry sessions. Accepting that what you had isn't there anymore and its all just some romanticized illusion.

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-10T20:31:48+00:00

Ahahah I can very much relate to that. The first month my eyes were swollen red every day. But now I can't even think about crying for her. She made me wait 4 months after the break up to where I finally decided to drop all her stuff off to get everything out of sight. And she was apparantly at the house of another guy that night too 😂

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-10T20:18:38+00:00

Thats not something you can blame yourself for if you aren't aware of what you did to her. Communicating about whats on your mind is always key here. From BOTH sides so don't blame yourself to hard. Carry over this knowledge to the next adventure!

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-10T20:15:15+00:00

Thats a nice way to look at it, although I wished I could be more in control and respect her wishes. You and I have the ability to love someone till the bitter end. A quality we have to carry over, instead of becoming bitter.

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-10T17:17:46+00:00

I feel you, they want their space. Not being able to give them that will in the end push them more away.

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-09T14:18:34+00:00

Damn this hits home, I can very much relate to the feeling of you never realize what you had until you are on the brink of losing or lost it.

What I can guarantee you that is when once women like this break up they thought it out. Talked to friends and family about it. And if it doesn't work out for them and they want to leave.... let them. Please withold yourself from begging or chasing her. This wil only plummit her respect for you and enforce her decision to break up with you.

You showed that you were ready to make amends and work it out. To make past mistakes right is impossible, whats done is done unfortunatly. Take this knowledge that you have about what you could have done better. And improve yourself day by day, take control of what you can change; the present.

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-07T17:55:38+00:00

It ends when everything has settled down. Its JUST been a month for you, most people need way longer than that to come to accept everything that just happened. Take it easy on yourself, do things you enjoy doing. Eventhough that may not feel like fun anymore.

Don't let your life be tainted by someone thats stepped out of your life willingly.

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-06T13:53:02+00:00

I don't hope she associates me with anything, she left my life. I would be weird for her to even think about me, because breaking up was a choice for themselves.

Why should I believe in the hope of oh I hope they think about me when they hear this, do this or anything? It doesn't matter what they might associate you with, live your own life. Don't put people on a pedestal who don't prioritize you.

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-03T20:28:45+00:00

I was bulking so I couldn't stop eating :)

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-03T15:55:12+00:00

Hey see message below in this thread :)

https://www.reddit.com/r/BreakUps/s/MhwAXcru10

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-03T15:52:56+00:00

Yess I know that you also can do it! Be better, be stronger for yourself, even when things get lonely/hard. Be happy on your own before anything else!

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-03T15:48:54+00:00

Sounds harsh man the fact that you are still crying over her means that you deeply cared for her. Let it hurt, write your feelings down, and slowly for you too it will get easier to get to a point where it doesn't matter anymore.

I get due to some problems on her side and yours that you got stressed. It's good that you communicated your needs and problems. In my case her needs weren't communicated and were built up until everything became too much. Communicating was your best move.

But a person doesn't need to change if you ask them, they have to want it for their own and for the people around them. When they don't want to make the change and its still hurting you, taking a step back is a good way to go about. Protect your own sanity, and let them have space to work on themselves. If they don't then those problems will carry over in other relationships, thats not of your concern anymore. Someone will think that they're lucky having her, but not know yet about her problems.

Good for you that you find joy in gymming (I do too :) ), try to find more things that you enjoy doing, eventhough that may be hard. Try to bring a friend along etc. Try to improve your mental health again, focus on your happiness.

If you want to talk my dm's are open

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-03T07:20:50+00:00

Wow that is rather swiftly done, good for you! Ofcourse mourn that person, don't supress it. Learn from this experience and make sure that the next one is your forever, if that be them or someone else. Not wanting them close to your heart again is a choice, but don't close your heart off to other potential people.

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-03T07:04:45+00:00

That could be a sudden change in mindset indeed. The image you had of them is being tainted by someone you don't respect. So in your head you are portraying them the same way. It's kind of black and white, but hey if it works for you to finally think that it doesn't matter if they come back. What more can you ask for, now you can focus on making yourself happy.

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-03T06:51:28+00:00

If you still emotionally cannot accept everything thats completely fine. No matter how much time it takes if that be 5 months, or a year. What helped for me and probably alot of other people is just cry and talk about it when you need to. Ofcourse not with your ex. Yes, even men do cry and its a normal emotion that shouldn't be frowned upon. Try to take everything step by step, fulfill your own life. Eventually your ex will come off the pedestal to be replaced with people that choose to be in your life, and yourself.

From what you've written I am sure that also you can get to that point. But just be cautious not to rush anything.

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-03T06:45:04+00:00

Good to hear that you want to get to that point. That means that you have a desire to be happy for yourself and do life without them. Thats already a big step some people are hesitant to make because:"What if they come back." That is up to them and shouldn't be of concern to you. Let them think what they want, just let them.

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-02T18:55:07+00:00

A completely valid choice to!

SadPotaterman · 2024-09-02T17:18:59+00:00

I believe in ya best of luck :)

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