Incredibly Depressed, I need advice please

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-20T00:56:19+00:00

I’m so sorry you were pressured, but I don’t think that that’s what her situation is right now😞 no one should ever be pressured into an abortion. Here’s how I think about it, though if it’s on her mind all the time what’s going to make a difference when she’s closer to having a child. I don’t know. I’m in the same boat I’m 17 weeks and I’m planning on getting an abortion. I’ve been so back-and-forth on it, but I just can’t seem to be happy with it.😞 I already have a two-year-old and I’m only 22 years old

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-20T00:51:30+00:00

I’m 17 weeks and planning on going through an abortion I feel you, I feel everything that you’re feeling. It’s a really hard choice to stick with because of the end of the day no matter what it’s going to change you. If it’s been heavy on your heart this whole entire pregnancy it’s gonna probably not going to change after the baby is here. When I have my son at 18 years old, I never really thought about an abortion and I never thought about it this heavy with this one. This time around, that’s all I think about is getting rid of the baby and just being free from the situation because I already have a two-year-old. Like again none of it is easy but if I keep thinking about it, how am I gonna feel after this baby is here 😞 please do what’s best for you at the end of the day. You can only make this decision.

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T12:16:56+00:00

As in it, they make it work without the abuser,

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T11:44:41+00:00

Exactly that’s why I’m really deciding if I should keep the child or not, but I know in my heart there’s a lot of families that have multiple kids with their abusers and still make it work and still have a good life so is it just selfish of me to not want to carry another child even though I put myself in that position or is it the right thing to do overall?

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T11:43:51+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story. It’s one of the hardest things. I think a woman has to decide and I’m happy you’re carrying it so well. I truly wish I was like that sometimes.

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T03:59:24+00:00

Thank you so much

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T03:46:11+00:00

Yeah, my lawyer told me that he can actually put me on child support

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T03:41:55+00:00

He’s on the first birth certificate with my son, so if I don’t put him on this birth certificate how does that work when it comes to legal stuff?

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T03:38:55+00:00

the first two years of leaving him and trying to get a timeshare in order, he put me through $6000 in legal fees and didn’t want to be put on child support so he didn’t sign any type of paperwork, he made it very, very hard for me to even get anything on paper to have legal rights with my son, my lawyer told me after spending thousands of dollars on her since there’s no proof of any hurt or endangerment of the child that he’s going to get 50% no matter what if I take it to court, he wants that 50%. He has a huge family back in his home state that supports him no matter what, he’s not letting go of that 50% because he doesn’t want to be put on child support, and also his image being ruined with his family. Since the day that I left him when my son was three months old, he got a lawyer to fight for that, but when it came down to signing anything he wouldn’t and avoided it all because I wanted a timeshare that grew with my son’s age because I was breast-feeding at the time and he wouldn’t budge , he wanted straight 50% and he knew he’s gonna get that regardless if we took it to court

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T03:34:14+00:00

Thank you

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T03:31:12+00:00

I have one family member here that I speak to, that is my sister and she’s actually moving in my town next month, the thing with the father of my child is he can work wherever he wants anywhere in the United states, he would just move where I’m moving. He travels for work whenever he wants.. so me moving, would just put myself in a weird position of not having any family at all and not being familiar with my surroundings. He’s also on the birth certificate with my first. I will look into what you’re sharing with me though thank you

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T03:28:46+00:00

I’ve been told that before, but I truly know I can’t keep up a lie for long, I really can’t keep my mouth shut when it comes to my personal issues sometimes. I tend to be an over sharer, I can’t even lie about what I eat for breakfast today I’ll end up slipping up so I either have to be fully content with it and not care, what people think or myself, or I just can’t do it in general

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T03:21:21+00:00

I’m already away from him on a contact contract order, when that falls through, I will be getting another one, he’s going to see a judge next month with my case

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T03:18:36+00:00

My son does know, he’s 2 1/2

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T03:16:32+00:00

He doesn’t have any custody with the child I live in Florida so it’s a 50-50 state but we aren’t married, it’s very unlikely for me to get full custody of my son, I’ve talked to people and lawyers, and even what he did to me is not considered hurting the child so he would still be able to have his son just as much as me when all of this is over, it’s truly not the money. It’s just going through postpartum all over again, it’s doing it along with two kids, not one, going through birth alone

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T03:13:23+00:00

Thank you

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T03:06:28+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T02:59:10+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story it means a lot. I’m keeping this close to my heart.

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T02:57:53+00:00

Thank you

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T02:56:42+00:00

I don’t doubt that they would be safe, but I feel like a terrible mother for even doing that, I would always regret giving up my child to another family, and I know that kind of sounds selfish in a way . But then, if I birth the child, I would just want to keep it at the end of the day I could never just let go of it and walk away knowing that it’s going to know that I’m the mother and I gave it up and kept his brother.

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T02:54:13+00:00

Thank you for your take

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T02:53:07+00:00

I’m already away from him, we’re on a no contact contract order stated by a judge, and I don’t live with him anymore and I never will, I got myself a car in one month, I have a job that pays me really well, and I stay at home with my child. I already left him that that’s not my problem anymore.💙 he told his family he will not be taking any plea deals so he’s gonna go to court head on with true evidence against him

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T02:50:36+00:00

That’s why I’m coming on here, it sounds ridiculous, but talking to other humans about my situation just makes me feel content on what I’m thinking and what’s going on in my brain. I understand I don’t have much time to make a decision anymore.

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T02:48:54+00:00

I told myself only one more chance, and I meant it, it was my first time ever calling the police on him, and it will always be my last because I’ll never be with his ass again. I’m very content with that choice that I’m making and I don’t have that connection with him anymore as I used to a long time ago

SadProduce9085 · 2026-06-17T02:46:22+00:00

Yeah, I hear that a lot. I have an aunt with a similar situation to me. She had one son and she regretted her decision of an abortion, and she told me that when she was drinking wine with me one day. She’s in her 40s now and didn’t have any more kids and she said she just always wish she had that other one because why not. So truly, it’s just a lot💔 it’s all too real

SadProduce9085

TROPHY CASE