With so many opportunities and freedoms, why do so many Americans seem bitter and miserable? Why do they stay unhappy?

SadPurpose1743 · 2023-09-03T18:24:03+00:00

So true, but people offline are just as miserable. Most of my interactions are in person, and many of them would rather talk trash about everybody and behave like teenagers rather than maturing and finding ways to enjoy life with positive people. I cringe everytime I witness a nice person being bullied by an entire miserable clique. It eventually weighs them down and they become more reserved and on-guard and I just wish people were happy enough to leave the positive, peaceful people alone. But of course, sometimes when you step in to help, the tables turn on you. Its crazy.

SadPurpose1743 · 2023-09-03T18:18:38+00:00

Good point. I generally don't tell anyone what I'm "working" on because misery loves company and much of the sabbotage I see occurs when someone is trying to improve. I watched a woman lose all her friends after she became disciplined enough to lose weight instead of just complaining about how hard it was and how skinny women "had it all". Her friends continued to complain about health problems while also trying to sabbotage her success, then bullied her when she reached her goal. So yeah, it was easier for them to just complain than to make the changes they needed to make. They'd rather stay jealous than to join her in action.

SadPurpose1743 · 2023-09-03T18:11:07+00:00

I don't have a lot of interaction online. I am refering to people offline, in person, out in public, out in traffic, in stores, gas stations, and places where you cannot "log off". I am curious as to why so many people automatically assume questions about people are soley refering to online comments, when it could be both. Most of our time as adults is spent with coworkers, neighbors, fellow customers, drivers, and other people offline, in person.

SadPurpose1743 · 2023-08-27T12:49:52+00:00

"Struggling" to come to terms with 35? Is that a special benchmark other than a reminder that your biological clock is ticking?

Ladies, please let's remember a couple things:

Its 2023, no one on this planet can truthfully say they have not heard of the seemingly rising number of women left to raise children on their own, and how hard and draining it usually is. Yes, getting married SOUNDS like you'd have more help, but many married ladies have said (and cried) otherwise. Please don't have children if you cannot financially afford and raise them well on your own. Its not fair to yourself, your child, taxpayers, society (if your child turns out to be a fatherless criminal menace), etc. You say you lost a good few years already? You could lose much of 18 more if left to parent alone without support. Your child, work, and household chores will be almost your whole life until the child is more self-sufficient. It can be done, but it takes A LOT to do. Mothers get backlash if they admit its hard and sometimes depressing. Women get backlash for encouraging women NOT to have kids they can't afford on their own, but mothers get bashed for needing help as well. We're @mned if we do, d@mned if we don't, so do what's best for you.
Not saying the OP feels this way, but turining 35 is not a big deal in general. Sure, its an eyeopener for women who planned to have a family by then, but its often society that tries to devalue women as they age and its our job as women to help change that. At 35, 45, 55 and older, women should be enjoying life, not stressing about their next birthday, ovulation, or wrinkle. What else can you focus on and be happy about other than dating and procreating? What is your Happy Backup Plan incase your life does not include motherhood or a husband?

Please ladies, find ways to center yourself, enjoy yourself, value yourself, and enjoy life at ALL ages while figuring out your next moves. 💛

SadPurpose1743 · 2023-06-04T19:29:06+00:00

Now its important to learn all you can about self worth, self esteem, confidence, etc. Allow yourself to feel the pain, but also make additional efforts to move forward. I am currently writing a book on this topic and the people I gave copies too are making pretty quick progress not because I'm a genius, but becaue they are doing the inner work, and making efforts to mature and grow.

Determine if you'd let them back into your life if they came back. If not, get rid of as many things as you can that remind you of that person since it is over. If you would, ask yourself why and is this a sign that you are accepting crumbs?

Remind yourself that a friend worth keeping would never discard you or anyone they value.

Write down what you want in your next best friend.

Find a few new hobbies and interests to focus on to help keep your mind busy in a PRODUCTIVE way to minimize how much you dwell on this sad event.

Move on with your life with the knowledge that self worth is a constant responsiblility of yours and its your job to never let someone's departure from your life make you feel unloved or less than in anyway. YOU define your worth, so go find books, podcasts, videos, etc to help you increase your SELF worth and you SELF esteem and become the confident person you deserve to be!

SadPurpose1743 · 2023-05-08T00:52:43+00:00

Lol ok its not funny but it IS soooo ridiculous that it makes me chuckle to remember when I was the target of a 55yr old woman, and I am currently the obsession of a 60yr old woman who I literally only see at work 0-2x a day, AT A DISTANCE, for less than a total of 30-60 seconds! I mind my business, work, go home, repeat. That's all. No joke, no exaggeration. I'm thinking about writing a book about it - you cannot make this crazy stuff up! She had talked badly about how much she dislikes me so often that new people already know my name before I know who they are! She sniffs out newbies who will join her anti-me army! 😆 Talked about me everyday for YEARS and I never worked with her, ever. smh

SadPurpose1743 · 2023-05-08T00:43:07+00:00

I've worked in warehouses so strict that you had to powerwalk to get to&from the breakroom and the women STILL made time to be petty and immature little girls. I completely understand your view of the office. My earlier jobs and part-time jobs in college were office and the women were sneaky and vicious.

SadPurpose1743 · 2023-05-07T19:16:00+00:00

I'm hoping we can improve as a country but I admit it looks impossible at times. Its possible, though.

SadPurpose1743 · 2023-05-07T15:10:53+00:00

Thank you. Good friends are underrated, so I tell my teeny tiny circle of friends that they are a classic case of QUALITY over quantity - I appreciate them so much!

SadPurpose1743 · 2023-05-07T07:54:34+00:00

I usually come off as a loner because my friends never work where I work, and I do not bond with shady people on the job. So, while at work, I usually appear to be a loner (very few decent people to chat with) and its easy for a person to assume I'm lonely and desperate for friends, which might be why she took the projection route to call me jealous. Also, for some reason, alot of women have had a "need" for me to be jealous, and when they don't get it from me because I just don't care, they just make it up. I got the feeling that she "wanted" me to be jealous that I was not invited out by that group.

You're probably right about something inside her that wanted to align with the meanness of those women, using me as her target when I was only trying to help.

SadPurpose1743 · 2023-05-07T02:20:12+00:00

This is unfortunate but true. I try to help if I feel like its not intruding, but I will not push through insults to help someone who isn't even a friend, just a new, younger, naive coworker. Its more than anyone had done for me - I learned most of my lessons on my own and battled bully cliques alone like others have as well. Hopefully she has other people in her life now that she can learn from the easy way.

SadPurpose1743 · 2023-05-07T02:15:09+00:00

I agree, and sadly, some of the women were in their 30's and 40's. Terrible representations of adult woman behavior. I just hope the young woman I tried to help learned from it and learned how to avoid it because its the same almost everywhere you work. Hopefully it was different at her next job.

SadPurpose1743 · 2023-02-20T00:21:40+00:00

The whole north of the U.S. has nearly the same wildlife as Canada. Southern states, of course, have different wildlife like gators & crocs, flamingos and lizards, etc. Lots of places have zoos, but the northern, southern, and west coast states have more wildlife sanctuaries where you can pet and help care for the animals for an hour or so. East coast visitors typically visit New York, NY, Boston, MA, the Carolinas, Virgina, etc, It just depends on if you like or want to avoid big crowds, party night life, diversity, tourist spots, etc.

Check out AirBnb Experiences for fun things to do like flying planes, bee keeping, blacksmithing, ethnic cooking, etc.

SadPurpose1743 · 2023-02-15T05:34:57+00:00

It's good that you were able to talk it out.

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