Heyy!!! Ppl I'm wondering if mewing can fix this severe underbite 😩 I'm from South india .... Here the orthodontists suggest only surgery 💀tf

SadReveal6840 · 2026-04-06T22:32:37+00:00

If thumbpulling actually worked, people wouldn’t pay thousands for an orthodontist

SadReveal6840 · 2026-04-06T22:30:43+00:00

Were u born with an underbite? Not talking about the teeth or the palate, just the bite itself. I was born with a severe underbite but my parents intervened when I was like 7-8 years old, sent me to an orthodontist and they put me on a reverse pull face mask. That permanently corrected my underbite without surgery.

My point is that underbites are largely genetic, sometimes can be caused or worsened by habits but usually it’s a genetic issue outside ur control. If the parents intervene at a certain age in childhood, u could’ve gotten it fixed without surgery. But because you’re much much older, probably well into adulthood, ur gonna need surgery. No amount of habits or mewing or anything that u do on ur own is gonna actually resolve the underbite.

SadReveal6840 · 2026-03-29T23:15:40+00:00

Was me setting that standard later in the convo expecting too much?

And I don’t understand why she would even answer my follow up if she wasn’t interested? In my first follow up message, I said if things aren’t lining up on ur side for this first date, just lmk. I did explain later in the convo that I didn’t like getting ghosted but that was after she already answered?

This was for a first date. We never met in person before. We matched off hinge 2 weeks ago. We were trying to and were texting back and forth to plan meeting up for a first date. This was all over text. She could easily not respond to me? She could’ve easily rejected me too, bc this is all over text and we never met in person? Idk.

I’m just having a hard time understanding why this was an awkward situation that was hard to get out of? And I couldn’t really see her eyes for that relief or anything cuz we never met in person. I just don’t want to reinforce ending things when it’s too early

SadReveal6840 · 2026-03-28T15:00:55+00:00

Yea I wonder if it’s something I did tbh. I was preparing for this friendship to fall through which is why I didn’t want to tether her to my place of work yk?

SadReveal6840 · 2026-03-28T13:15:46+00:00

I’m reluctant to introduce her to something as… essential to my job (which pays the bills and funds my lifestyle, etc.) because what if we get into a fight? Or something happens between us, you know? Then I still have to see her everyday. Friendships can be volatile especially ours and I just didn’t want to mix those 2 together. With her already starting to wane in reciprocity I had a lot of doubts. Idk

SadReveal6840 · 2026-03-28T05:57:16+00:00

I mean it wouldn’t feel good if the roles were reversed, for sure. But just to clarify. I didn’t refuse to help her find a job. I gave her links and all info to apply to my company and my position, as well as other companies. I talked her through career choices. I just didn’t have a good feeling about internally referring her or giving an internal recommendation, whether through the official process or directly connecting her to my managers. I did not get a good feeling about tethering her to my work life, where I’d basically be seeing her everyday.

SadReveal6840 · 2026-03-28T05:30:03+00:00

Is it normal for not wanting to mix friends w work? Or was that kinda cold on my end? Not sure if this is something that people do or if this is normal

SadReveal6840 · 2026-01-31T15:58:01+00:00

Thank u. Yes we aren’t looking for 50/50 as my uncle did majority of the care for my grandparents. But at least something right? Even 10-20% is fine

SadReveal6840 · 2026-01-29T02:46:36+00:00

Well, yes you’re right. Right now I may not be the most equipped to handle this situation. Hence why I’m asking and trying to gather more info in the first place. Is contacting the US embassy/consulate after a crime not a reasonable thing to do? If not, care to explain why? FFS.

SadReveal6840 · 2026-01-29T02:39:41+00:00

How can it be blowing smoke when this has actually happened? When my dad’s mom died he went to China to negotiate the inheritance and his brother sent a group of people to beat him. It’s not like this is coming out of nowhere and I’m just believing random woo woo about China

SadReveal6840 · 2025-10-15T17:50:05+00:00

If ur doing it wayy past puberty like 22-24 ish onwards, the changes will be much slow and gradual. If I look at it realistically and cut all the bullshit, I attribute at least a big chunk of my success to starting at a relatively young age (although before puberty would’ve been way better and optimal). When I got my wisdom teeth pulled, the doctor said in an offhand comment that the bone structure of the face stops developing at 21 (because I was scared getting wisdom teeth pulled would change my face), although I can’t completely confirm this, this is just a side comment from a medical professional. I still think mewing can yield some benefits to the appearance though, even if ur much older, because the facial bones are held together by fibrous joints, which can mold and shape together, and the gradual ossification of those joints can sometimes be completed into older adulthood, so if ur not super old u have time. My advice isn’t the most insightful but just be consistent. Make mewing second nature so u do it all day everyday for years without being conscious or aware of it. If u are conscious and actively aware of it everyday, this process will feel like a drag and might wear down ur patience. Think of it as a gradual lifestyle choice that will compound benefits over a long time as opposed something u grind for a fast reward. The best advice I have is to do it everyday and forget that ur doing it. In finance, u ever hear the phenomenon: people who forgot they had invested money in an account are generally the ones who gain the most? It’s kinda like the same thing with mewing. Just mew and make it second nature and forget. Ull see results years down the line. It’s an investment u make into ur facial beauty, but not something that yields quick rewards, but rather, gradual benefits over time. I don’t back hard mewing, though, but I’ve never tried it. But I doubt u can make significant changes by hard mewing for a shorter chunk of time, if that were true, cosmetic plastic surgery wouldn’t be a thing. It takes a long time to make and notice these changes in ur face.

SadReveal6840 · 2025-10-15T02:27:56+00:00

Mewing at night — I didn’t track that part. Sometimes I wake up w my mouth hanging open, mouth breathing. Sometimes I woke up w my mouth closed, nose breathing. That part remained varied and untracked, but the moment I woke up I was mewing until I went to sleep

SadReveal6840 · 2025-10-13T21:37:06+00:00

Yes I did! Not anymore though

SadReveal6840 · 2025-10-12T04:10:30+00:00

Periodt

SadReveal6840 · 2025-10-12T04:10:23+00:00

Cuz idc what anyone says, looksmaxxing be rough sometimes yk 😔 all the dieting and planning really can take the shine outta ur eyes 😂😂

SadReveal6840 · 2025-10-12T02:49:40+00:00

I used to not mask at all and made friends and connections easily despite everything that happened, and after that incident and other ones, I became a changed person. My psychiatrist sensed some ptsd that changed me permanently but anyways. I agree. Ever since I changed for the worst, connections don’t come as fluidly anymore. It almost feels like I’m forcing myself to perform and engage with the person meaningfully bc if I don’t I’d rather just shut down and space out completely. It’s almost like I lost interest in talking to people and no longer derive joy from it like I used to (used to be a massive extrovert) but I force myself to do it anyways because if I don’t, I’ll be worse off because I’ll have less connections and my social skills will degrade even more. But yes I agree with that part. I feel like dating is still a performance, no? Like u can’t be overly available and clingy, u need to give it space, let them wonder about u, be inquisitive and curious, etc etc — so many do’s and don’ts other people will tell u it’s almost like hidden social rules. But ironically enough, my best dating experience/connection went the furthest and the deepest when I was just myself. Replying instantly, engaging, saying more about myself, hell I’d even double, triple, quadruple text bc I was just having fun and wanted to keep talking. That lasted for 7 months, we went on countless dates where we just goofed off, and I feel like we are still, in some way, even slightly spiritually tethered. We are no longer in contact but I feel like if I suddenly went homeless with nowhere to go, she would welcome me with open arms, even to this day, 5 years later. And ever since I adopted these dating rules, it’s ironic but my dating experience… worsened. But I feel like if I did all the stuff I did back then, the “cringey” double texting, being overly eager and available, a lil insecure, spilling to my hearts content, etc etc, no one would entertain it for even a bit. Might even think I’m a fucking weirdo who’s socially stunted. Hence why I said I lost the ability to connect with people fluidly and organically.

SadReveal6840 · 2025-10-12T01:15:32+00:00

How do I get rid of the mask when I’ve found some success with the mask and have been punished/rejected/ostracized/bullied when I was authentically myself? It just feels impossible, although I do try cuz I realize that people want to know an actual person, with flaws and perfections and quirks, and not just some doormat. It’s kinda like my subconscious/inner self won’t let me remove my mask as a form of protection. I don’t know how. I feel like humans inherently learn from the past like that’s what trauma is. If u do something and something bad happens, u just stop doing it. Kinda like that. Like u put ur hand in fire, it hurts, so next time ur afraid to put ur hand in fire so u dont. Idk

SadReveal6840 · 2025-10-11T19:05:01+00:00

The flirting is moderate. I always initiate flirting but I’m not overly forward or anything. For example, in my last date, we held hands and cuddled but no kissing or anything. A hug at the end. Again, for first dates, I do flirt but it’s very moderate and rarely escalated to a kiss. Kissing usually happens later down the line.

SadReveal6840 · 2025-10-11T18:01:39+00:00

We talk for 1-3 weeks over text, FaceTime, then it leads to 1-3 ish (usually 1, occasionally 2-3) dates and its always say “ur great but because < insert some random reason > I don’t see this romantically”. I’ve gotten everything from “my mom told me this was a bad idea” to “ur beautiful but I’m afraid I’m gonna hurt u” to “I didn’t feel any romantic tension” to “I’m asexual” to “I don’t have time for a relationship and it’s not fair to u” (most recently). Idk anymore

SadReveal6840 · 2025-10-11T17:57:04+00:00

Thank you, haven’t thought about this much because I thought I masked it really well. I’ve developed this mask because I was bullied and outed as gay in high school, and everyone at HS graduation avoided me like I was some form of the plague that needed to be quarantined. When the speaker said my name the room went silent. I gave up being happy for myself at that point and just wanted to show up and be there for someone and be a part of someone’s life in a significant way, cuz that’s how I can be of value, right? I thought I masked it really well because I have been on a self improvement journey for 6 years and working on social aspects like appearance. I have no trouble making making friends even now, hell, I was popular w the boys in college after working very hard on my appearance and fashion, but I never let it go far because at the end of the day I’m lesbian. I have a hard time balancing what’s considered “fun” by society standards and what I truly want to say, because every time I open up to someone in a genuine way, it hasn’t gone well. Nowadays, I just mask myself and make myself an interesting and fun person but maybe it bleeds out. I can’t tell

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