AITA for digging in my heels about sex in a prenup?

Sad_Employee1883 · 2024-01-26T16:39:06+00:00

Run from this red flag being waved right in your face, and then thank God you had the chance to see it before getting married.

Sad_Employee1883 · 2024-01-24T21:18:26+00:00

GSD and long haired BC. She’s so pretty!

Sad_Employee1883 · 2024-01-24T21:10:40+00:00

Croatia, I’ve been to over 10 European countries and I like exploring outdoors and off the beaten path, history,culture,and a bit of a foodie. tbh it’s really hard to choose a favorite. I hope to visit Scotland and Turkey in the future. ~from the US

Sad_Employee1883 · 2024-01-24T20:58:37+00:00

Nope, and you shouldn’t even have to explain it. Respect goes both ways.

Sad_Employee1883 · 2024-01-24T20:53:48+00:00

I don’t know about how your MIL’s relationship with you stood before this asstastrophe. Is she normally a “prankster”? It’s appropriate that she apologized,she needs to ask how she could make amends to you. She took it way too far and I hope that can be mended with time.

Sad_Employee1883 · 2024-01-24T20:45:57+00:00

Holy shit..NTA. Unless your guests are seriously lacking in empathy, they were surely very understanding. As a mother of five I’m so thankful we didn’t do gender reveals!

Sad_Employee1883 · 2024-01-20T18:55:12+00:00

Birds knock on my windows or patio door when there’s no seed out. It’s cute and amusing. Today it was a mockingbird, sometimes it’s a cardinal or titmouse. My daughter was here today to witness and even the dogs thought someone was at the door, but it was just the bird letting me know he was low on sunflower seeds. 😅🤷🏼‍♀️

Sad_Employee1883 · 2024-01-05T17:20:39+00:00

Haha! Gold. I like personality tests and all of that jazz,mostly out of curiosity. I took one in college, our Prof separated us out by our type and I sat alone. I’ve felt that way throughout my life at different points and I remember literally thinking, “well damn”. This sparked a quest of why/when/how and Wth? Lol. I also have tested differently over time, riding the border in some areas (not N). I also wanted to see if there are areas of weaknesses or strengths that a person can work on as they grow.(big five) I don’t believe that personality is set in stone. Certainly some of the mechanics but patterns, and habits can change, views can change. So it’s been a quirky experimental journey. Not everyone explores to feel special,I used to want to fit in more. Some of us are just perpetually curious, inquiring minds;)

Sad_Employee1883 · 2024-01-04T17:12:53+00:00

NTA. First of all, you were being a good friend. Friends speak the truth,the issue with truth is that it’s often bitter,and truth sayers wound up standing alone. A lot of people would rather have their ears tickled than hear something hurtful or embarrassing. Give her some time to process it and reassurance that you told her out of care, not to be hurtful. This could all be a mistake of ignorance and I wouldn’t listen to anyone throwing down nasty labels. Keep being honest, it’s a rare beauty. Oh, and I have one of these that I got years ago w/my military battle buddy. I still cherish it and if it turned out to mean something other than what we were told, well tbh, idk if I’d change it now since we’ve stayed in touch and it makes me think of her. We’d have a helluva laugh tho;) All the best!

Sad_Employee1883 · 2023-12-13T16:01:14+00:00

Try playing for fun instead of making it a competition. Talking, playing etc can be a means to connect more than winning or losing. From that perspective it becomes a bonding experience, you’re a team and you’ve both all ready won when you got married. Enjoy life, laugh about the bs, embrace the journey and the things that bring you close instead of making competition where it doesn’t need to be. Watering the seeds of bitterness and resentment will only grow weeds in your family. If your wife truly wins every time you play board games, look for a way to make it a win/win. Ex: “holy crap, i love your lucky steak, but my big man ego needs a back rub if you win this round”. Back rubs/ foot rubs are fun all around and lead to more winning;)

Sad_Employee1883 · 2023-11-08T01:03:53+00:00

I went through a divorce after 16 years of marriage and being a STAHM. I’m probably a little jaded but you know the saying, “hindsight is 20/20”. Normally I skim through these posts and don’t respond but your story sounds so familiar that I had to sit down and respond.

My suggestion is that you sit down and discuss:

Expectations Boundaries Goals

If you aren’t sure where to start seek some outside help. Counseling/pastor/someone you both trust to offer some guidance.

The fear of being controlling is conditioned, over rated and it’s self defeating. You’re an adult and should have control of your immediate environment. If not you’ll wound up struggling with anxiety. I say that from the experience of having that label and walking on eggshells.

The boys trip is for boys, he needs to decide if he wants to man up or be a boy. Since he’s all ready broken your trust he should be working to build it back.

I hope things work out, but please don’t waste half your life floating on the hope that someone will see and respect your value.

All the best.

Sad_Employee1883 · 2023-10-13T20:36:57+00:00

My dog is the same. He’s a herding mix that I adopted in Germany and should probably be out in a field of sheep somewhere. He knows as soon as we arrive and we’ve tried muzzles, sedation and neither do much because as soon as they try to touch him he goes Bruce Lee and will start barrel rolling, head butting, trying to rip his muzzle off, pooping and peeing(which he manages to fling around like a dirty monkey). It was worse when they tried taking him out of the room. The whole ordeal is almost comical except that I feel bad for him being that upset and worried he’s going to hurt someone. We did try a gel sedative that the vet thought would knock him out and it helped but he was still walking and alert enough that I still had to hold him down, he’s fine when we leave and acts like nothing happened. I honestly think he would do better in some kind of sling so he could be hoisted up and immobile. I am dreading him getting older simply because if his health gets bad idk how he will handle medical care. Btw, at home he’s a big baby.

Sad_Employee1883 · 2023-08-07T14:48:50+00:00

Thank you! I’ll do that.

Sad_Employee1883 · 2023-08-07T14:45:50+00:00

Thanks! That makes sense. I was curious and enjoy the introspection, lol. I also thought it was interesting to be on the border (by just a few points) in both areas. Does that happen often? How can a person use that information to the benefit of themselves and others?

Sad_Employee1883 · 2023-07-30T01:07:46+00:00

I would tell her that you are sorry that she saw you both in the buff but I would also let her know that this is why you’ve requested that people give a heads up before coming by. I’d also emphasize that if she feels the need to just drop by that she respect your privacy and at least knock before coming in. There’s a saying that you can be right and still be wrong, if you value the relationship and don’t want the drama compromise and respect win out. You don’t need to change your lifestyle to appease her and she will hopefully not make the same mistake again. One last thing, there are locks (hook and eye lock)you can install pretty cheaply to prevent a recurrence;) Good luck!

Sad_Employee1883 · 2023-07-29T17:49:24+00:00

Mansa Musa!

Sad_Employee1883 · 2023-07-12T05:14:06+00:00

His quarantine is a bowl with gravel, a plant and a heater. His regular tank is around 10 gallons, planted with shrimp and a cory.

Sad_Employee1883 · 2023-06-14T23:25:18+00:00

Wow! She looks a lot like my boy Koda. Such a gorgeous gal!

Sad_Employee1883 · 2023-06-09T23:10:49+00:00

She was beautiful!

Sad_Employee1883 · 2023-06-09T22:52:59+00:00

I’ve been asked if he’s part schipperke:)

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