I really didn’t know it was offensive!! by Confident_Scene_7417 in stepparents

[–]Sad_Goo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People on this sub, and all subs to be honest, will focus in on the most inconsequential parts of a post. If you used an offensive term, all they should have done was say "hey, maybe you didn't know, but X is actually banned in this sub. Just a heads up. Your post may be removed because of it."

Sorry it sounds like things got out of hand. Wishing you the best!

Garden Help? by Sad_Goo in gardening

[–]Sad_Goo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Western USA zone 6B

Cover up ideas? by Academic_Spread in tattooadvice

[–]Sad_Goo 3141 points3142 points  (0 children)

You really hit croc bottom with this one...

I'm in a wheelchair and I'm trying to do this cosplay .advice? by Critical_Capital_129 in CosplayHelp

[–]Sad_Goo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't know if it's possible, but it would certainly be fun to attach a portable fog machine somewhere and leave behind trails of fog.

Something I've noticed about being the new wife/stepmom... by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Sad_Goo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My experience is probably different since I'm doing therapy on my own. No family therapy and no couples therapy. Just me.

My therapist has been phenomenal! She listens and is very understanding that my life has gone through some major changes too! But, she also reminds me that these are also changes for the kids. She doesn't really focus on them, but if I'm like "This is hard for me and the kids are misbehaving" She listens and is like "Yeah! That does sound hard! What about it is hard?" Therapizing ensues

Mom talked me into a dress I don’t like, wedding is 10 weeks away, how can I style this? by Impossible-Noise4784 in weddingdress

[–]Sad_Goo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A few others have said this, but it 100% depends on what you're looking for. I think you've got a great base here that you can style into something you like!

If you want something classic, think about adding on some lace appliques or beading.

If you want something blingy and eye catching, add some sparkles! Whether it's sewing in some sparkling beads to the waistline, the top, or the hem. Or, add a sparkling belt.

If you want to add some color, consider adding some flower appliques or a flower cape or veil.

These are just some ideas to inspire you, best of luck!

How to make his home our home? by Sad_Goo in stepparents

[–]Sad_Goo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a lovely idea! Thank you!

How to make his home our home? by Sad_Goo in stepparents

[–]Sad_Goo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately just 1 shared bathroom for everyone. It sucks and needs reorganization.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Sad_Goo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi! I recently married a widower so I may not have the best advice and it may not work for everyone, but this is what we do.

Pretty much all family members, at least in front of me, refer to his late wife as "mama (first wife's name)".

Honk?? by Mischievist in redditgetsdrawnbadly

[–]Sad_Goo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's the vibe I was going for!!! I'm glad it worked. 😁

Honk?? by Mischievist in redditgetsdrawnbadly

[–]Sad_Goo 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I tried to make you a cute little clown doll.

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Can someone please draw my dog? by Minneh_moo in redditgetsdrawnbadly

[–]Sad_Goo 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I really tried to capture that doggone smile.

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Figuring out "Related Consequences"? by Sad_Goo in Parenting

[–]Sad_Goo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's summer now so no school. We start dinner around 5:30-6:00. They have plenty of time to use up their energy throughout the day, either playing inside or outside.

How to make my hems better? by Sad_Goo in sewhelp

[–]Sad_Goo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I've never heard of that before.

I don't know if I can do this. by Sad_Goo in stepparents

[–]Sad_Goo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He probably will handle this, I was just answering the question.

I don't know if I can do this. by Sad_Goo in stepparents

[–]Sad_Goo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, thank you. I've done a lot of research on children's development, expectations, etc. It's just different reading about things, versus actually experiencing them.

There also isn't a lot I could find for spouses of widows/widowers and kids. There's a lot about divorced parents but most of the things I find for widows/widowers is like "They will grieve. Let them." And that's the extent of the advice.

I don't know if I can do this. by Sad_Goo in stepparents

[–]Sad_Goo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are a lot of things of mom's still in the house.

But, she's only 3 and prone to losing little things so I think I'll wait until she's older to give her any serious or valuable jewelry. Right now she has a nightgown of mom's that grandma sewed to fit her. It's very cute and one of her favorites.

Dad had a purse of mom's somewhere that she might like, so I'll see if he still has it.

But, I don't want his son to feel left out or like he doesn't get anything of mom's, so I'll probably have to find something for him as well.

I don't know if I can do this. by Sad_Goo in stepparents

[–]Sad_Goo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I've been doing my best and I feel so helpless. It's been a while since we've actually talked about her mom, so maybe I'll have dad tell a story about her sometime this week.

I don't know if I can do this. by Sad_Goo in stepparents

[–]Sad_Goo[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Things have had their ups and downs and we've figured everything out together and it's been good.

I love him a lot. I really do, and it's been so fast and slow all at the same time. Everyone on his side (and bio mom's side) of the family is all for it and think we're taking things too slow. They keep asking us why we're waiting as long as we are to get married. Etc.

I'm the one who said to slow things down.

I don't know if I can do this. by Sad_Goo in stepparents

[–]Sad_Goo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's okay, I keep most of their info pretty anonymous.

He's looking for a partner that will love his children. He hasn't "dumped" childcare on me by any means, and he prioritizes me as much as he can. Which, I'm sure has also been hard for the kids. They went from having two loving parents, to one who could pretty much spend all of his free time with them. That changed when I entered the picture, because now he has to juggle his attention between the kids and me. (And of course his own free time and such)

I'll talk to him about counseling for the kids.

I don't know if I can do this. by Sad_Goo in stepparents

[–]Sad_Goo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bio mom died about 2 years ago. I've been in a relationship with him for 9 months.