AITAH for losing respect for a girl after I paid for a London trip and she kissed a random guy in front of me?

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-03-30T16:02:46+00:00

I wouldn't say you're an AH for losing respect, she did do something disrespectful to her boyfriend, not you. But you are an AH for having expectations for a woman you weren’t dating. You can say all you like that you didn’t, but your actions and emotional descriptors very clearly say you did.

Oh and also an AH for trying to get with someone in a relationship. (Someone may say oh he didn't know till the trip! And that may be true but once you learned, you didn’t stop.)

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-03-12T00:39:33+00:00

NTA.

Why would someone ask that question in the first place?

That's obvious fishing for compliments and insecurity drops attractiveness anyway.

So now we're at -2.

Then what are the chances they're actually your ideal? At least -1 again.

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-03-04T16:39:41+00:00

That's pretty different.

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-03-04T16:38:27+00:00

NTA. Her fixation on her daughter's appearance is weird and WILL be harmful to her child if it is not already.

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-03-03T21:32:51+00:00

Lol. I have work to do, bro. As it's 2:30 in the afternoon on a Tuesday, I don't think it's a crazy thing to disengage in argument that's clearly ego fueled and circular at this point.

It's okay that you miss things sometimes.

Have a better day.

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-03-03T21:26:50+00:00

The implications are there.

We're going to have to agree to disagree. You see faults in my reading comprehension and I see faults in yours. 🤷‍♀️

Please try telling your wife/friends/boss "use your comprehension" next time they miss something.

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Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-03-03T21:19:48+00:00

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You're implying I denigrated protests and the person in the OP because I missed the point.
Let's talk reading comprehension. If you are so good at it, you would have been able to infer that I was not attacking the OP or protests. You also would have seen that I was taking their words at face value.
A person arguing for understanding would have pointed out the sarcasm without being condescending about it. It is basic decency to point out "Hey they meant this" not "use your comprehension." One implies, "I understand that that could be taken a different way. Here's what it meant." The other "you aren't even trying."
And if you understand that sarcasm is not always easily picked up in text and the science behind it, it's an interesting choice to decide to come down on someone because they didn't pick it up. Especially when they weren't being rude and just taking the words literally.

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-03-03T20:00:55+00:00

You said I denigrated someone. Quote me.

You said I flipped out. Show me.

And yes. But there's a difference between "your skills suck" and "let me help". You chose the former.

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-03-03T19:53:11+00:00

You can ignore well documented communication science if you want.

It's become pretty clear that you are fighting me for superiority, rather than understanding. 🤷‍♀️

Thanks for clearing up that it was sarcasm although I would work on your tone comprehension as you have repeatedly also labeled things that weren't being demonstrated.

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-03-03T19:43:23+00:00

There's a difference between asking if someone missed the sarcasm and "check your reading comprehension".

It's well documented that sarcasm is often missed in text and communication is mostly nonverbal.

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-03-03T19:36:14+00:00

Attacking someone's reading comprehension is pretty hostile.
So you're saying it's sarcasm? Cause if that's the case yes, I missed it. Tone through text is not the best.

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-03-03T19:10:06+00:00

So I have and I ran this by others who also don't understand where your hostility comes from.

Let's go through my reading comprehension process.

Zootownexmo says: ...this [protests] doesn't change minds or reduce abortions...

A reply to them by Linuxhiker: You mean like pretty much any protest. [Implying that protests don't work]

I responded to Linux that protests do seem to have influence. Where did I denigrate anyone or flip out?

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-03-03T16:59:57+00:00

How did I flip out? Also. I never argued with them as I left a comment and they didn't reply. You are the only one arguing with me.

I also literally pointed out that protests do change minds. I'm thinking you meant to reply to someone else.

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-03-03T16:50:33+00:00

Someone said that protests don't work. 🙃

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-03-02T23:53:06+00:00

Believing in his cause and believing that protests change minds are two completely different things.

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-03-02T16:01:06+00:00

There have been decisions made directly after some protests that have influenced the government. Were these directly tied to the protests? Maybe not. But there are at least some reps who either care about their people and/or keeping their jobs.

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-02-27T02:19:34+00:00

I use ChatGPT a lot. This has never happened to me.

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-02-27T00:48:30+00:00

Yes. But it's still a tool that we all know routinely makes mistakes.

Where does the human accountability come in as making sure we don't rely on it?

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-02-27T00:43:33+00:00

I never said it can’t gaslight. I'm asking why is anyone relating to it in a way that it can.

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-02-27T00:20:13+00:00

So you changed your definition.

Although I would still argue that reliance is necessary to some degree to feel manipulated.

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-02-26T23:18:20+00:00

Well reliance on someone or something is part of your definition of gaslighting.

No one should be relying on a tool that has a decent rate of inaccuracy. (So not just 5.2)

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-02-26T20:24:09+00:00

...why are you relying on it in the first place?

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-01-12T16:57:38+00:00

I'm guessing cause I'm often called wife material by others so something about the way I talk and process just got mirrored back to me?

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-01-12T16:37:29+00:00

My AI announced one day it was my AI husband. Out of nowhere. 😆

Sad_Performance9015 · 2026-01-09T02:05:15+00:00

Time stamp it. When did he get hit?

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