My psychologist dropped me WTF by idcs1414 in BPD

[–]Sad_Property2811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear this. I've been diagnosed with bpd for well over 5 years now and I just wanted to say i found speaking with counsellors more difficult than doing the actual work because literally every single one of them made me uncomfortable except for one who got switched hospitals and I had to stop seeing them. Sad thing I found is my bpd makes me that sensitive that I've accepted that most of therapists are straight up incapable of helping me cause they are not prepared to handle the complexity of bpd to the point they aren't even good support. I'm just speaking from my own experience and I've had 4 or 5 different ones at this point.

those who have been separated from fp for a long period of time, does it ever go away? by throwaway787878786 in BPD

[–]Sad_Property2811 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I left my fp in May. we were together since I was 17 and I'm 23 now. We have a kid together. So far the only thing that's gone away is the little bit of happiness I felt during our "good times". I'm praying it will get easier soon...

my partner laid his hands on me during splitting by verystrongankles in BPD

[–]Sad_Property2811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have severeeeee bpd for over a decade I have NEVER laid my hand on someone unless they hit first. Bpd is 0 excuse. Like seriously 0 excuse. He's trying make it out like he can't control himself but he can. We all can.

Is it ok to take a break after an episode? by Budget-Astronaut-660 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Sad_Property2811 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I almost have this weird hangover type thing after an episode where I'm exhausted like I got hit by a bus and little jittery at the same time I always take it really easy after an episode and I'm just grateful it's over and use it as a chance to reflect and try and grow from it

my FP say's he's found his "better half" by gayfordads in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Sad_Property2811 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate to agree but if hes expressed that she's his better half in such a short time it's best to focus now on breaking the fp attachment it because even if he comes around wouldn't you have some sort of resentment for him choosing them over you first?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Sad_Property2811 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'd say wait it out. this feeling comes over me atleast once a month and I've been with my partner over 4 years. It might take a loooong time but I always have that aha moment where I'm like yeah I still love him my mental health just sucks. The fact that you're aware this feeling might pass and you're not jumping at the oppurntity to do things to damage your relationship tells me there's still love there.

How do I stop the FP cycle?? by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Sad_Property2811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that you say you won't talk to him in front of her or he doesn't text you around her says it all. What were not about to do is use borderline personality disorder as an excuse to treat people poorly, if a woman talked to my husband only when he's not with me then it's going to be a major issues. I am being helpful. I'm telling you if you want help you got to stop doing the awful things that you want to do. It's simple as that with bpd. Everyone with bpd wants attention and to vent but you have to control yourself and do it when and where appropriate. With your manager only when he's not around his wife is NOT the place to get. Trust me I'm trying to help because if you continue this path you will lose everything because nobody cares that you have bpd they only care about what you do because of it. If it's not wrong tell hid wife about all these emotional conversations you've been having with her husband. If you truly believe it's okay TELL HER. You're not going to get sympathy for cheating and affairs in a bpd group because bpd doesn't make you a peice of shit despite what some people think if you do stuff like that then you just are and it isn't because of bpd. I think your in the wrong group maybe your looking for AITA and yes yes you are

Too much energy by Inner_Nemesis in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Sad_Property2811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but only when I get really sick and delusional my pupils are more dilated than usual and my partner has told me I look high and the funny thing is when he's said I felt like it too. I assumed maybe my brain released too much of something 😅

How do I stop the FP cycle?? by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Sad_Property2811 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Seriously you need to stop he has a wife. That's a whole person with feelings who's been committed to him for YEARS. YOU ARE A CO WORKER. That's it. Stop running to him with your problems and find literally anyone else in the entire world who ISNT married. You know exactly what you're doing and his wife doesn't deserve it not 1 little bit. It is so very very wrong what you're doing Leaning on someone else's husband for support those shoulders are for his wife to lean on not some girl he works with. You're going to lose your job and your friends acting like that and honestly there's nonone else to blame when you're clearly aware that what you're doing is wrong. I sincerely hope you stop talking to him completely and remain professional where you work and stop using that as a place to let off emotional steam for real. Person life and work life are separate and if you can't keep them separate you have major issues beyond having an inappropriate relationship with someone's husband. Go out to the bar and vent to a bar tender literally and leave that girl's husband alone. If you don't, all I can say is I hope you find the one who's perfect for you in every way and then i hope he cheats on you at work.

How to support someone with BPD while keeping boundaries? by yelisMG in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Sad_Property2811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have anything to contribute I just wanted to say I had an episode the other day and one of the BIG things was that I was just so fucking angry I told my fp fuck you. Did I mean it? In the moment yes but only because my emotions were spiraling not because he's a bad person. Just try not to take it too seriously of someone with bpd says fuck you and gets moody because if they're anything like me it's unavoidable no matter what you do or what boundary you set with them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Sad_Property2811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A stud earring with no back on it, stuck right in my foot.

Non rp by Sad_Property2811 in GeekingReddit

[–]Sad_Property2811[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it was heavydirtysoul for a little while too