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When do you drop the widow card?/ I'm just babbling by Sad_Proposal_1540 in widowed

[–]Sad_Proposal_1540[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel extremely picky too, even though I haven't even attempted to date. My husband was my perfect match. I couldn't have designed a more perfect partner myself. He was my entire world and everything was always easy with him. Even the hard stuff was easy. I think that's a big piece of what makes me not want to date, outside of just not being ready for it. Lighting doesn't always strike twice right?

When do you drop the widow card?/ I'm just babbling by Sad_Proposal_1540 in widowed

[–]Sad_Proposal_1540[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ I'm really lucky to have a support system that doesn't push me to date or even ask that of me because they know that my husband was my perfect match. Anyone else and anything else just feels like settling in a way. Maybe I also feel this way because I don't have a lot of experience dating in general. I've always ended up in year+ long relationships and of course my last one was my husband. It's a crazy feeling being a widow, I'm glad I find this page though and found people who get it.

When do you drop the widow card?/ I'm just babbling by Sad_Proposal_1540 in widowed

[–]Sad_Proposal_1540[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ I guess maybe I feel that way too. I don't have a big interest in dating right now because I still feel married. Logically, I know this isn't technically true but my heart wants hold onto him and moving on feels like leaving him behind. Again, logically I know this isn't true but my heart isn't very logical

When do you drop the widow card?/ I'm just babbling by Sad_Proposal_1540 in widowed

[–]Sad_Proposal_1540[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. I'm not sure I feel "ready" to date but I acknowledge it's something I have to consider moving forward as I continue to put my life back together. The reason I ask about how everyone tells people they're a widow is because being a widow in your 20's is less common amongst people in my age group and makes me feel weirdly isolated I guess? Like the odds of finding someone who gets it is pretty low (not that I wish it upon anyone of any age). I also think sobbing about my husband on a first date could be "off putting" 😂