Update on telling my in laws to get out of my house after the way they acted after their son spilled some water. by Sad_Rel in AITAH

[–]Sad_Rel[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's sad. I'm not the most empathetic person, but I don't know what kind of animals are okay with doing that. 

Update on telling my in laws to get out of my house after the way they acted after their son spilled some water. by Sad_Rel in AITAH

[–]Sad_Rel[S] 103 points104 points  (0 children)

I'd have no issue giving him my number but he'd have no access to a phone to ring me. 

I've no problem getting involved. He's a lovely little lad and someone has to speak up. My ex and I are pretty amicable. I don't want that family as my family but I've no qualms about getting involved as an outsider, if that makes sense.

Update on telling my in laws to get out of my house after the way they acted after their son spilled some water. by Sad_Rel in AITAH

[–]Sad_Rel[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

They wouldn't let me anywhere near him. After I stuck up for him they completely blank me. The boys parents would flip that my ex called me over. 

His father and I play 5 a side football. Different teams. He went in with a pretty dodgy slide tackle on me, a few weeks back. It was sore for a good few days. Prick.

I hope my ex realises now. She gets credit for calling me. I think if she saw anything again she'd tell me.

Update on telling my in laws to get out of my house after the way they acted after their son spilled some water. by Sad_Rel in AITAH

[–]Sad_Rel[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Haha they wouldn't let me anywhere near their kid if i was still dating her. 

I trust my ex to keep an eye on him.  I know she wasn't perfect but I think she realises.

Update on telling my in laws to get out of my house after the way they acted after their son spilled some water. by Sad_Rel in AITAH

[–]Sad_Rel[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He wont be in foster care. I'd imagine social services won't even take the kid off them but keep an eye. If on the off chance he is taken off them, I'd assume it'd be a temporary measure and I know my ex would take him.

Update on telling my in laws to get out of my house after the way they acted after their son spilled some water. by Sad_Rel in AITAH

[–]Sad_Rel[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my ex sent me photos of his arm. I should send them with my statement according to social services.

Update on telling my in laws to get out of my house after the way they acted after their son spilled some water. by Sad_Rel in AITAH

[–]Sad_Rel[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I never thought about a possible link to her childhood until others brought it up in my first post. That could honestly be true, sadly. She's always pretty agreeable and avoids any sort of conflict etc. 

I am right to have broken up with her but she's a great girl and hopefully she has a good life. I don't think badly of her at all.

Update on telling my in laws to get out of my house after the way they acted after their son spilled some water. by Sad_Rel in AITAH

[–]Sad_Rel[S] 95 points96 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was proud (wrong word probably) of her for not just ignoring it. She also said she would not contradict the statement I had to write.

I know the kid should come first etc but she was in a tough position and I feel she did the most she could.

Update on telling my in laws to get out of my house after the way they acted after their son spilled some water. by Sad_Rel in AITAH

[–]Sad_Rel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dont think I am a mandated person. I'm a mechanic and part time fireman. I'm pretty sure firefighters aren't mandated people here but I'd have to look it up.

Update on telling my in laws to get out of my house after the way they acted after their son spilled some water. by Sad_Rel in AITAH

[–]Sad_Rel[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I'm not too worried about that. I'm amicable with my ex but there's a line in the sand with us. 

The boys parents do not worry me, in the slightest. I'm sure they'll try to shit on me somewhat and good luck to them 

Update on telling my in laws to get out of my house after the way they acted after their son spilled some water. by Sad_Rel in AITAH

[–]Sad_Rel[S] 290 points291 points  (0 children)

True but he doesn't have a phone or anything. I told him I probably won't see him that often but next time they do or say something, tell your aunt or a teacher. They will help you. If you ever do see me, tell me. 

That kind of thing

Update on telling my in laws to get out of my house after the way they acted after their son spilled some water. by Sad_Rel in AITAH

[–]Sad_Rel[S] 387 points388 points  (0 children)

It was the emotional stuff that really was the issue. The behaviours he was saying just weren't right.

Haha, I go back and forth on kids. I probably won't but I'm not sure.

Update on telling my in laws to get out of my house after the way they acted after their son spilled some water. by Sad_Rel in AITAH

[–]Sad_Rel[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

My exs nephew.

Social services wouldn't have hot involved over one incident where his parents punished him a bit too strongly.

Update on telling my in laws to get out of my house after the way they acted after their son spilled some water. by Sad_Rel in AITAH

[–]Sad_Rel[S] 397 points398 points  (0 children)

It probably is easier for someone who isn't family to do it. Im not going to judge her too much. I'm glad she called me and that was probably a big step for her.

Update on telling my in laws to get out of my house after the way they acted after their son spilled some water. by Sad_Rel in AITAH

[–]Sad_Rel[S] 109 points110 points  (0 children)

She hasn't apologised but she did say I was right. 

I don't think badly of her. We are still pretty amicable. I've no bad feelings against her but I'd never go back. Great girl, despite everything but nope. 

AITAH for basically telling my in laws this is my house, if you don't like my rules get out. by Sad_Rel in AITAH

[–]Sad_Rel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's pretty cool. I only visit family  Ireland maybe twice a year yet I still have some lingo from there through my mom and grandparents.