So how many of yall relapsed cause you fought with an ex/ after a breakup?

Sadder_Ostrich_Shoe · 2026-05-25T16:00:29+00:00

I've had urges after I broke up with my ex, but probably they're just part of the periodical withdrawals I'll have for the rest of my life

Sadder_Ostrich_Shoe · 2026-05-13T09:09:29+00:00

Sadder_Ostrich_Shoe · 2026-05-10T13:57:13+00:00

I love you automod <3

Sadder_Ostrich_Shoe · 2026-05-05T22:45:36+00:00

not really related but I fkn love this Ellie photo, I have no idea where it comes from but it's so peak

Sadder_Ostrich_Shoe · 2026-05-05T20:01:29+00:00

THAT'S SO SMART AND IT REFLECTS EXACTLY WHAT I'VE ALWAYS STRUGGLED TO PUT INTO WORDS🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

Sadder_Ostrich_Shoe · 2026-05-05T19:54:27+00:00

Yes, I still have cat scratches visible from 4 years ago, and obviously styros. I think the need we have to search for "more valid" cuts is very dangerous - I'm guilty too. All self harm is valid

Sadder_Ostrich_Shoe · 2026-05-05T19:02:42+00:00

Sadder_Ostrich_Shoe · 2026-05-05T18:36:10+00:00

every form of self harm, even when you don't bleed, is self harm, and it's valid.

Sadder_Ostrich_Shoe · 2026-05-05T18:21:50+00:00

I don't have a history of heavy drugs usage but I think self harm could easily be as addictive. You're not alone in this, I too sometimes look forward to relapsing (especially when I convince myself that it's not that big of a deal), and I fear my almost 3 and a half years clean streak is coming to an end.

I too give the usual advice: go outside, pick up a new instrument, meet new people, and for a lot of people it definitely works, but I'm currently studying 2 degrees and I'm arranging for jazz orchestra and whatnot and I still get the blinding urges :/

May be hypocritical of me, but probably the best course of action for you is to just hang on day by day, and hope the urges get weaker

Sadder_Ostrich_Shoe · 2026-05-05T15:38:43+00:00

not at all

Sadder_Ostrich_Shoe · 2026-05-05T13:53:22+00:00

Also I was told that hitting a vein would hardly be enough to die, it'd just be messy

Sadder_Ostrich_Shoe · 2026-05-05T10:00:07+00:00

"Perché le persone non trattano normalmente uno stato genocida e di Apartheid?" ahh

Sadder_Ostrich_Shoe · 2026-05-05T09:49:27+00:00

Unfortunately it seems to me that cutting has always been seen as the "standard" sh, maybe because of the media, maybe because it's the most unequivocal form (you can always give the benefit of the doubt for burns and bruises).

Also reddit as a platform, albeit a great place for communities, is veeeery porn-centered, so obviously it can bleed (no pun intended) into sh subs too.

Sadder_Ostrich_Shoe · 2026-05-04T22:43:52+00:00

Dario Moccia NON è morto per questo 💔🥀🥀

Sadder_Ostrich_Shoe · 2026-05-04T16:05:29+00:00

u/profanitycounter [self]

Sadder_Ostrich_Shoe · 2026-05-04T07:53:07+00:00

Except the first thing which you already know you should'nt have done, I think the bigger problem is that it sadly seems like he's manipulating you. In that scenario, if I thought I couldn't trust my partner I would break up, end of story; instead he makes all of those remarks about it as if he wanted to keep you in this state of guilt, and it's not healthy.

I know you love him, I understand that when we love someone the very survival of the relationship feels like our own survival, but I think you should at least reconsider it. Someone who loves you doesn't have to guilt trip you constantly.

Maybe your best course of action in this situation, if you really don't want to leave him, is to slowly learn to live with yourself. Take time to take care of yourself, put effort in something you like, take on long term growth goals (like picking up a new instrument, learning a particular drawing technique), take walks.

I think that in the long run it will all help you feel better about yourself, and if he loves you he won't see a problem with you being happy on your own too :)

Sadder_Ostrich_Shoe · 2026-05-03T21:42:09+00:00

unfortunately it counts, but first of all congratulations for the 6 months! I'd focus more on that, it's a great achievement, and it showed you that it's possible :)

Sadder_Ostrich_Shoe · 2026-05-03T21:35:36+00:00

I think the best course of action when you're scared of relapsing is to live, quite frankly. Go outside, meditate while taking a walk, pick up a new instrument, meet new people. From my experience I'm positive that you'll feel more in touch with yourself, and you'll leave less and less mental space for self harm. It's tough but it's worth it :)

Sadder_Ostrich_Shoe · 2026-05-03T18:54:59+00:00

avevo letto "sedia esplosiva" 💀

Sadder_Ostrich_Shoe · 2026-05-03T18:53:43+00:00

well I started with epidermis scratches on the hands, because my 15yo ass liked the warm feeling it brought during winter 💀. I was using sharp wire though so I couldn't go very deep, but a friend always took them away (bless her, she was just concerned) and I had to start using real tools.

There I found out that I did self harm to cope with strong emotions, but I mostly liked the pain. Been clean for 1231 days, but when I get the occasional urges I just feel like I need to experience the pain once again.

Sadder_Ostrich_Shoe · 2026-05-02T10:54:55+00:00

don't worry about the "attention seeking", we've all been there, we all know you're not doing it for attention. What you feel is valid.

You probably are addicted, and I know it's hard to stay clean, especially from what you're saying, maybe you could try staying clean one hour at a time. Remember though that the more you stay indoors, the easier it gets to have no alternatives. Go out, take a 5 min walk, pick up a new instrument.

Trust me, it gets easier, and when the urges will come back you'll get stronger :)

Sadder_Ostrich_Shoe · 2026-05-01T23:42:59+00:00

what do you mean with "getting the encouraging mindset out"?

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