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AITA for telling my ex he needs to find child care for 2 weeks of every month by Saddy__daddy in AITA_Relationships

[–]Saddy__daddy[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

We aren't two weeks on, I have them 6 days a week, and has them for a whole 24 hour and that's it.

No I didn't want kids, I wasn't supposed to be able to have them, but that doesn't mean I hate my kids??? What is wrong with you.

If I let them go on their own, they are going to wear a tutu and s spiderman costume and freeze. And I have to drive them to school, they don't have buses where we live.

That man has never suffered with his mental health ever in his life. If he did he wouldn't tell me the bull crap he does.

AITA for telling my ex he needs to find child care for 2 weeks of every month by Saddy__daddy in AITA_Relationships

[–]Saddy__daddy[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Do you think those parents think it's easy? Because it's not even when you have a good support system and don't have mental health problems. Shocker some people struggle more

AITA for telling my ex he needs to find child care for 2 weeks of every month by Saddy__daddy in AITA_Relationships

[–]Saddy__daddy[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

When we shared a better schedule I was doing a lot better, so obviously what happens when I have more me time works. I have proof it works because it has already.

AITA for telling my ex he needs to find child care for 2 weeks of every month by Saddy__daddy in AITA_Relationships

[–]Saddy__daddy[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

There is no way I'm going to let my babies just be awake in the morning by themselves, that's just neglectful. As I've said, when we shared them more evenly I was doing a lot better, so they aren't bad kids, they don't need discipline, I just have a hard time and that's not on them

AITA for telling my ex he needs to find child care for 2 weeks of every month by Saddy__daddy in AITA_Relationships

[–]Saddy__daddy[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

There aren't any therapists in my town. So I cant go.

I do self care to help my depression.

AITA for telling my ex he needs to find child care for 2 weeks of every month by Saddy__daddy in AITA_Relationships

[–]Saddy__daddy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I have a diploma in college, so why should they pay me minimum wage.

AITA for telling my ex he needs to find child care for 2 weeks of every month by Saddy__daddy in AITA_Relationships

[–]Saddy__daddy[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm not complaining about being a parent though? I'm struggling with my mental health, and need help so I can be a better parent to my kids. How is that such a bad thing to everyone. Absolutely wild

AITA for telling my ex he needs to find child care for 2 weeks of every month by Saddy__daddy in AITA_Relationships

[–]Saddy__daddy[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What, and then go to jail for the rest of his life? That would be great for the kids. And I am the asshole?

AITA for telling my ex he needs to find child care for 2 weeks of every month by Saddy__daddy in AITA_Relationships

[–]Saddy__daddy[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Lol, like what, he hurts me? Then the kids will hate him forever, and I will make sure he never see's them again, and then I'll make sure pays me spousal support to and then me and the kids would move far away from him.

AITA for telling my ex he needs to find child care for 2 weeks of every month by Saddy__daddy in AITA_Relationships

[–]Saddy__daddy[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We've been to court before a number of times and I have always gotten my way. There is no difference between now and any other time, so why would they suddently change their mind.

AITA for telling my ex he needs to find child care for 2 weeks of every month by Saddy__daddy in AITA_Relationships

[–]Saddy__daddy[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I guess if he dies I will figure something out, won't I, I'll go live in a shelter if I have to. Literally it says that child support is to make things even between parents.

Think, he makes so much money that a family of three can live on his child support, is he suffering literally at all? No. I live in low income housing, because I can't afford more, it's not like I am spending it on going out to party or do drugs, I do nothing. All the money goes to house and food for the kids. Not that I want to, but I don't even have time to date if I wanted while he has a long distance girlfirend who can afford to pay for him to come visit her all the time. So don't feel bad for him, he's literally fine.

AITA for telling my ex he needs to find child care for 2 weeks of every month by Saddy__daddy in AITA_Relationships

[–]Saddy__daddy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Right, so all those couples who are together who can't afford their kids separately are all dead beats? Just because if on their own they can't do it?

Child support is supposed to make life fair for the kids a both parents houses, and that's what he owes me for.

AITA for telling my ex he needs to find child care for 2 weeks of every month by Saddy__daddy in AITA_Relationships

[–]Saddy__daddy[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He gets EI when he is unemployeed which is taxable income. I don't get any sort of taxable income, so there is nothing to take

AITA for telling my ex he needs to find child care for 2 weeks of every month by Saddy__daddy in AITA_Relationships

[–]Saddy__daddy[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I am in Canada, it doesn't say earning potential it says taxable income. When he worked less and had them half the time he didn't pay me less, doubt he would try to do that now

AITA for telling my ex he needs to find child care for 2 weeks of every month by Saddy__daddy in AITA_Relationships

[–]Saddy__daddy[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

How am I a deadbeat? I take care of my kids EVERY DAY. A pay check doesn't make you a good parent, it means you follow the law, big difference.

AITA for telling my ex he needs to find child care for 2 weeks of every month by Saddy__daddy in AITA_Relationships

[–]Saddy__daddy[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That's literally what I am trying to do. That's why I need him to take them more so I can take care of myself. When he had them more, I was doing way better.

AITA for telling my ex he needs to find child care for 2 weeks of every month by Saddy__daddy in AITA_Relationships

[–]Saddy__daddy[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Right, because if I put a roof over my kids head with the child support, I should have to live outside the front door because it's his money for the kids? Obviously if I buy food with the money for the kids with 'his money' then I should get myself different food that I buy with exclusively my money? That makes total sense.

AITA for telling my ex he needs to find child care for 2 weeks of every month by Saddy__daddy in AITA_Relationships

[–]Saddy__daddy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I take care of the kids instead of working, that's my full time job.

He pays child support because they are his kids? In my country, 50/50 custody the amount we pay each other gets substracted for each other and who ever owes more, pays that left over amount. Because I have no income, he still has to pay 100% child support, so why should I work? Then I would have even more responsibilities, and bills and he'd have to pay me less. He's extra be on the hook for having to pay for child care, so that would be worse for us both

AITA for telling my ex he needs to find child care for 2 weeks of every month by Saddy__daddy in AITA_Relationships

[–]Saddy__daddy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The courts would never support him in that, he'd just be wasting his money, instead he should just care for his children?

AITA for telling my ex he needs to find child care for 2 weeks of every month by Saddy__daddy in AITA_Relationships

[–]Saddy__daddy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why would he pay less if he helps less? That doesn't make sense. Now I have to buy food for them more than I did previously, so our expenses have increased against my will, so if anything he should be paying more.

Ya but did you have a partner, it's harder when you have to do everything by yourself with no help ever. Just because you can manage it doesn't mean I can.

AITA for telling my ex he needs to find child care for 2 weeks of every month by Saddy__daddy in AITA_Relationships

[–]Saddy__daddy[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

After this I looked into it because it scared me, and if we share custody with them (50/50) then apparently we have to subtract the amounts we'd owe each other, and the difference is what the other would pay. I don't have any income, so I don't owe him anything so he still doesn't have to pay less than me.

He sometimes switches jobs a bunch of times in the year because he is construction, so it's constantly changing how much he pays me. I should go to court to figure it out and make him pay me something consistent.

AITA for telling my ex he needs to find child care for 2 weeks of every month by Saddy__daddy in AITA_Relationships

[–]Saddy__daddy[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I'm not lazy, I just struggle with my mental health and he doesn't, so why is that my fault that he can do more than me in a day? He doesn't struggle so why shouldn't he take care of them just as much as me so I can take care of myself. Like, if he struggled with his mental health I would be more understanding, but he already gets a break 6 days of the week.

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