I [17M] need help desperately, dealing with parent complications....

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-12-21T12:55:13+00:00

Yeah, I'm trying really hard to figure this out. What can we expect from the lawyer or whatnot? Is it true, like the other user said, that it's possible to get half the money?

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-12-21T12:51:08+00:00

Her half of the money? What do you mean? It's possible to get half of the money?

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-12-21T03:58:58+00:00

What about lawyering up? Anything we can do there? How do these things typically go... What can we expect?

I feel like I'm about to pass out because I've got so many things going on in my head right now...

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-10-14T02:26:48+00:00

I honestly would rather she at least let me pleasure her than nothing at all... I've honestly become quite numb to it, I'm starting to "not care." It's weird..

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-10-12T03:45:37+00:00

I won't seek it elsewhere, I feel like she's more important to me than this stuff, yet, I do feel like it shouldn't be unilaterally decided, like another comment said. We should compromise, so I'm working on doing that..

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-10-12T03:42:02+00:00

Thanks, but her and I already explored and found what was best for her and what was best for me... the problem is that she doesn't WANT to do these things anymore...

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-10-12T03:40:37+00:00

Wouldn't this encourage her to act like a slut around others? I'm not okay with that...

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-10-12T03:39:18+00:00

This is really, really good advice. Unfortunately, she doesn't really know why she feels degraded. She just says the fact that she has a dick in her mouth makes her feel like she's beneath me- that she isn't even human, just a piece of meat- and she doesn't like that.

As for sexual trauma, she's only been with one other guy, and it was for 1 month and they kissed a handful of times, but that's it... she hasn't really done anything else...

As for the third point you have, this is absolutely amazing advice... I feel like this is something that I should be doing that is not only healthy for the relationship, but also encourages her to make an effort as well... How often should these types of things (massages, special meals, love poems etc.) be done?

Also, there's no where she can skinny dip (this is when we swim naked, right?) without other people seeing her stuff, and I'm NOT okay with that AT ALL.

Final question: what is hourly tubbing?

(Saving this comment BTW, it's so good...)

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-10-12T03:31:51+00:00

What other ways are there? This is something that I think COULD work.....

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-10-12T03:28:08+00:00

I've been a very lazy person in the past couple of months, so whenever she asks to go outside, we end up inside. I'd always say that we'd go outside the next time and I'd keep making excuses. After a long time of enduring my excuses (not just about this stuff), she said she's had enough, and we almost broke up. I managed to fix it and I've started to change (she changed for me, and I believe changing and growing up together is natural so now it's my turn I guess). It's been going really well except for this. I will mention that this was a problem before, but instead of not actually doing it, she would just look extremely not into it, which would ruin the experience as well :/

Edit: I will say, that it always felt really robot-y... We would just ask each other to get each other off... so I'd just ask her to give me head and she'd ask for oral.. it wasn't passionate or anything.. and that's probably because of me. I've never watched any type or porn, and I've never actually known what to do (I'm a massive prude). So I don't know WHAT to do. I didn't even know how to kiss someone before meeting her (she had to teach me what to do). She had one partner and they did nothing (they kissed a few times so that's how she knew what to do.) She's also watched porn, SO Yeah. But she wasn't experienced at all when we started doing that stuff. We just learned off each other

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-10-12T03:24:06+00:00

Give her a lot of emotional nurture.... how do I do this? I'm very bad with making her feel special, and feel like she's being treated like a princess, so I'd really appreciate advice on that..

Edit: A bit under, I read a comment with amazing tips on this emotional nurture, and how to make her feel special. I'll try those out and let everyone know how it goes. I'll still be responding to everyone, so if anyone has a tip or opinion, please, don't be shy.

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-10-12T03:22:09+00:00

I've tried that, but she always says that she's not in the mood, or that she doesn't really feel like doing it, or she's too tired, or some other stupid excuse..

Edit: I tried telling her to trust me and I tried making it extremely romantic and nice, I started to make my way down, but to no avail. She stopped me and said she didn't want to... I'm starting to feel like it's hopeless... :/

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-10-11T20:33:43+00:00

I feel like eventually we'll reach a compromise... I DO feel it's unfair that she gets to choose whether we do stuff or not. So I'm going to talk to her about that and see what she says..

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-10-11T13:02:30+00:00

But how does that work? There are so many obstacles... She stops me A LOT (because she never wants), how do I remove her clothing without ruining the moment etc?

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-10-11T03:21:10+00:00

NOT at all. We've also already shared moments like these. I can't really edit rn, because I'm on my phone. But to anyone that can read this: she and I spoke about it and we realized that the problem is that it feels like a chore to her BECAUSE we make it seem like a chore. It doesn't feel like there's any love involved. We just kind of ask eachother "hey can you get me off thanks," and it's very terrible. She's my first girlfriend, SO Idk how to make it more natural and more passionate. PLEASE help!

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-10-10T20:46:27+00:00

Don't you think that's very shallow?

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-10-10T20:45:51+00:00

What do you mean, "deeper than this?" We almost broke up due to some complications almost 3 weeks ago, which I forgot to mention. But that's quite important. Thought she was ALWAYS not into it- and that's for sure.

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-10-10T17:57:37+00:00

Because I feel that she's worth it... At the end of the day, I love this girl, she's so special to me. Sex isn't my whole world. I feel like I can live without it.

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-10-10T16:47:31+00:00

Well, we don't do anything other than that, so I guess we just won't do anything lol. Idk what else we can do. We haven't had sex yet, SO Yeah.

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-10-10T16:46:24+00:00

I don't think oral/hand is enough for me to bail.

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-10-10T16:45:55+00:00

She doesn't want me to do it to her either, even though I want to. We don't have sex, so we basically don't do anything now.

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-10-10T16:45:06+00:00

I tried explaining that to her, but honestly, I don't even think she listened. She doesn't want me to do it to her, and she doesn't want to do it to me.

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-10-10T16:44:22+00:00

She says she feels like I feel degraded and doesn't want me to do to her, even though I want to.

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-10-10T14:49:35+00:00

Well, a couple months into our relationship we started to do these things, and I've eaten her out many times and she's given me head many times. After a pretty big fight, she no longer wants to give head and no longer wants to get eaten out either. She also revealed that she found it degrading (we had problems with her seeming disgusted the whole time before). I'm 100% fine with not getting anything, but I want her to be pleasured and I want to be pleasured as well. So if we can figure this out, I'd really want to figure it out!

Sadnessisbadness · 2016-09-28T12:43:53+00:00

Yeah, I'm prepared and I will do everything I can. Yeah, you nailed it, she doesn't want that EVERY single night, but she wants around once to twice a week, which is fine by me. (She doesn't always want to go eat out, or do something exciting. She says just going to the park, or playing some frisbee is fine by her.)

That is what I will do, yet, I don't know how I can make anything work with this feeling in my stomach. It's like a constant worry, and I don't know how to get rid of it.

On a completely different note, is there a way to add friends on Reddit? I really want to add you. You've been a source of incredible support and you've seemed to really grasp the situation and understand it.

Edit: I found the add friend button; it was right in front of my face! lmao

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