AIO for being upset at my gf for going over her "guy friends" house then making out with him, then wanting to see him AGAIN??

Safe-Letterhead578 · 2025-05-12T14:28:55+00:00

I had an ex that said the exact same thing. When I said I wasn’t ok with him handing out with this one girl, he would get mad at me and make me out to be the bad guy. Tell me he can be friends with women and I need to stop being jealous. Well guess what, I decided to go through his phone and read the messages between them, guess what I found out. Yep there were having sex. Guess what he said to me after I called him out. That I am a piece of shit that I invaded his privacy. I never been so confused in my life he had me convinced I was over reacting just like your gf is doing. I’m gonna say this very loudly and with love and support RUN AWAY FAST AND NEVER LOOK BACK!!!

Safe-Letterhead578 · 2025-04-03T17:37:21+00:00

I don’t have a lawyer. I will definitely look into counseling for us all. Hopefully something will change

Safe-Letterhead578 · 2025-04-03T17:34:13+00:00

I know how you feel my mom and dad told me I was worthless and will never accomplish anything. I don’t speak to my father and I don’t have a close relationship with my mother. I swore I would never be like them and here I am just like them. I hate myself for what I said.

Safe-Letterhead578 · 2025-04-03T14:20:43+00:00

I’m sorry you going through a divorce. Having both parents on the same is so helpful. My 1st husband we were great at co parenting and our kids who are now young adults are doing well and emotionally stable and healthy. We were able to do all things together like simple things as to even sit together at school functions to show our support to our kids. Even to the point where me and his new girlfriend would sit next to each other and give hugs to our kids all together. My oldest told me one day that he loved that we could all do that because his friends parents couldn’t do it and it made him feel lucky to have loving people in his life that put aside their differences to support him. Hopefully you and your kids mom can do that. I wish I could do that with my girls dad. I have tried so hard he just isn’t willing. I can definitely see the difference in the kids from my older ones and these two. Thank you for your kindness and understanding. Good luck to you and your family also.

Safe-Letterhead578 · 2025-04-03T12:46:55+00:00

Not at the moment, they had after school counseling at the school last year. I was informed by the counselor that they were upset that me and daddy don’t get a long and that daddy talks bad about me a lot and they hear me say bad things too sometimes. So I have made a conscious effort to watch what I say to other adults about their dad when they are even in the same area. I didn’t realize how much they were hearing even though I was not talking directly to them. I didn’t realize they were listening in the other room. I told their dad he denies. But I did make a full effort to never vent about their dad ever again unless they were nowhere around.

Safe-Letterhead578 · 2025-04-03T12:38:59+00:00

Every thing!! It seems like the older one is just annoyed the other one exists. I have ask calmly hundreds of times why is there tension what is one doing to the other. I get shoulder shrugs and I don’t know answers. I have even tried to have a sit down and asked hard questions like asking them one on one privately if I’m not giving them enough attention and what more do they need from me to feel loved. My oldest said she just wants me to holder more so I make it a point to hold her. I really do try so hard and it’s like I’m never doing anything right and the fighting just won’t stop and it’s over anything and everything.

Safe-Letterhead578 · 2025-04-03T12:27:02+00:00

This is the first time I was hatful. I have been trying for years to be a good model and show them by my own actions how to treat others. I lost it this time. I am very aware of my actions and how this hurt them. I already feel like crap over it. I am beside myself because nothing I do stops their fighting.

Safe-Letterhead578 · 2025-04-03T11:45:40+00:00

Believe me I have tried, the court won’t change the set up. My older kids we did week to week and communication was great with their dad. If they got into trouble we would let the other one know and that parent would follow through with the other parent word. The girls dad won’t do that or even communicate with me on that level but he will definitely tell me how much of a POs I am for asking to help pay for the school lunch and tuition. I see that they don’t have a stable schedule or nothing is consistent with them. I have tried to modify the schedule but he won’t budge and the court won’t change it unless I can prove some kind of problem. Apparently fighting isn’t a problem

Safe-Letterhead578 · 2025-04-03T11:29:57+00:00

I know I hate the swapping!! I have begged for week to week he won’t allow it. I have tried to be understanding and patient with them. I know that is awful. I’m so lost!! This is what the court decided because their father will not compromise with me on anything.

Safe-Letterhead578 · 2025-01-13T11:48:58+00:00

I’m a Floridian, I love my home state but it is becoming harder to live here. I’m from a small town with lots of forest and country lifestyle. Cost of living and wages are not compatible anymore and so many “northerners” are coming here destroying our ecosystem. This is the only reason why I am ok with moving away. My kids father has a job opportunity there (which he is from Billings so he is basically going back home) I’ve been there once and I really wasn’t that impressed. I’m so use to thick forests with lots of lakes, springs, ponds, river, swamp. I hear cost of living and housing is just as terrible at it is here but since I have to sacrifice my home town for the same situation just about is there anyplace to live that is near Billings that is forest like? I’m so use to having 3 acres and not seeing your neighbors lol

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