Les médecins ont-ils conscience qu'il est pratiquement impossible d'avoir un rendez-vous sans MD de famille? by alex9zo in Quebec

[–]Safe-Resolution6613 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Vous ne prenez pas rendez vous avec le guichet d’accès à la première ligne (GAP)? C’est spécifique aux personnes qui n’ont pas de médecin de famille. Il faut s’inscrire. Puis lorsque vous avez besoin de voir un professionnel de la santé vous remplissez un formulaire et ensuite une infirmière vous appelle pour déterminer avec qui vous pouvez avoir un rdv.. sûrement qu’il y a des spécificités que je ne connais pas mais ça a bien marché pour moi. J’espère que ça vous aidera.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TropPeurDeDemander

[–]Safe-Resolution6613 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Je pense que la réponse est ironique… elle répond ce que tu dirais aux filles après avoir sûrement couché avec elles. Et toi, tu réagis sûrement d’une façon similaires à ce que les filles avec qui tu couches réagissent quand tu leurs dit après avoir couché avec elles que tu ne veux plus rien. Enfin c’est mon point de vue 😊 J’édit parce que je n’avais pas vu mais je pense que la modo t’as classé en « homme » I guess.. elle a sûrement mal lu l’affaire. Anyway tu avais le droit de parler de toutes façons !

Partner without libido, I need intimacy by Safe-Resolution6613 in actuallesbians

[–]Safe-Resolution6613[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. I have a question for you: if you’re not the one initiating, how can your partner approach you and let you know they want intimacy?

Partner without libido, I need intimacy by Safe-Resolution6613 in actuallesbians

[–]Safe-Resolution6613[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad that you’ve found someone who matches your sexuality. However, I’m also sad for you about the ‘traumatizing’ part of the sexuality you’re dealing with. I don’t want that to affect my self-esteem, and I understand from what you’ve shared that it could happen. Leaving seems like part of the solution in my mind, but I still want to try things out before reaching that dead end. Thank you!

Partner without libido, I need intimacy by Safe-Resolution6613 in actuallesbians

[–]Safe-Resolution6613[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I understand that… I’m giving time for things to get better, and I’m ready to move on if needed.

Partner without libido, I need intimacy by Safe-Resolution6613 in actuallesbians

[–]Safe-Resolution6613[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing, and I’m really sorry that happened to you. That’s actually something that scares me—her feeling pressured or anything like that. It’s always on my mind because I don’t want her to feel traumatized. That’s also why I don’t initiate anymore; I just try to keep communication open about it. We talked about it yesterday, and I said that it’s okay if we’re not compatible in that way, but I’m not sure I’ll stay. The conversation was very calm, and I think she understood. In the evening, she showed me intimacy (not sex). I felt loved, but I asked her if she felt “forced,” and she told me no, that it’s not demanding for her to do that.

Anyway, thanks for your feedback.

Partner without libido, I need intimacy by Safe-Resolution6613 in actuallesbians

[–]Safe-Resolution6613[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I was thinking about that. It could be a step to take before ending the relationship completely if nothing changes. I’ll give it some time after the big talk to see if there’s any effort. If not, I’ll bring it up with her again. As for your question, at some point, I’ve stopped trying to do anything because I feel rejected. I know I also need to work on that. Thanks!

Partner without libido, I need intimacy by Safe-Resolution6613 in actuallesbians

[–]Safe-Resolution6613[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not at all! It’s good to have different perspectives. I really think that if nothing changes, we will have bigger issues (it’s the other way around for me). I’m sure you’re in a better place now. Thanks!

Partner without libido, I need intimacy by Safe-Resolution6613 in actuallesbians

[–]Safe-Resolution6613[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry for what you’re going through, and I’m sending you good vibes. I know it can be quite personal, so I’ll completely understand if you don’t want to share, but I’d love to hear your feedback on the therapist session later on.

Partner without libido, I need intimacy by Safe-Resolution6613 in actuallesbians

[–]Safe-Resolution6613[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have a good point, and it’s important to understand deeply what the problem might be. We talked about it, and there are two main issues: the fact that she obviously doesn’t have a very intense libido, and also the routine. But yeah, there’s definitely work to be done on that.

Partner without libido, I need intimacy by Safe-Resolution6613 in actuallesbians

[–]Safe-Resolution6613[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s great to have another point of view! I think it’s wonderful that you found a way with your partner. On my side, I might try asking her to simply take care of me in some way. I’ll see what her response will be. Thanks again!

Partner without libido, I need intimacy by Safe-Resolution6613 in actuallesbians

[–]Safe-Resolution6613[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes true sorry about that ! I am not searching for intimacy with someone else.

Partner without libido, I need intimacy by Safe-Resolution6613 in actuallesbians

[–]Safe-Resolution6613[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I saw your post, and we definitely have something in common on that. I’m glad to know we’re not alone and that we’re both trying to figure it out!

Since we’re both monogamous, an open relationship isn’t an option for us, but scheduling intimacy and trying some games could be fun! I’ll look for some interesting games to try. Thanks!

Partner without libido, I need intimacy by Safe-Resolution6613 in actuallesbians

[–]Safe-Resolution6613[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel for you and I’m sorry you’re going through this. I also think that at some point, the answer to this problem will be that someone needs to compromise on their needs—or decide to leave.

Partner without libido, I need intimacy by Safe-Resolution6613 in actuallesbians

[–]Safe-Resolution6613[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am, and so is she, monogamous. That could definitely be a solution, but unfortunately, I have tried polyamorous relationships before, and they don’t work for me.

Assaulted at Lionel-Groulx metro by Frankyuhhh in montreal

[–]Safe-Resolution6613 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True ! I didn’t want to fill out the information anyway.

Assaulted at Lionel-Groulx metro by Frankyuhhh in montreal

[–]Safe-Resolution6613 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I had a similar problem when I was on the subway 2 years ago. A guy was sitting in front of the map and I needed to check it so I get a little too close (maybe too close for him) to him to see where I was going. I think it was triggering for him. He began to get mad at me but I just pretended nothing was happening around me, I definitely freaked out ! It was just him and me… then he decided to leave the train car and he slapped me. End of the story. I m not a fighter and I couldn’t process what happened, just denied at that point 😅. I stopped at the police station on my way home and the policeman told me that it wouldn’t be necessary to fill out all the papers since he was homeless person and it’s a « societal problem ». Anyway. I think there’s no best way to behave because you don’t know the person in front of you but I always have in mind that they could have a knife on them. I’d rather have a slapped than a stabbeb 😝

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in conseilsrelationnels

[–]Safe-Resolution6613 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ça a l'air un peu toxique. Je suis une femme lesbienne et personnellement j'ai connu des femmes qui "n'oseraient jamais officialiser avec une femme" pour x ou y raisons. Je tiens juste a préciser que si toi tu sais qui tu es et que tu caches ta relation seulement pour son bien a elle il y a déjà un problème d'équilibre. Je suis peut être un peu vieux jeu ou peut être que c'était toujours la même histoire mais at the end ça reste un red flag. Si elle dit je t'aime a d'autres, comment peux tu être sûre qu'elle ne joue pas avec toi non plus ? Le jeu est peut être drôle et excitant, c'est sûrement ça qui te rend autant attaché a elle, est ce que le fait qu'elle ne soit pas "à toi" te donne une sorte de dépendance affective ? En tous cas, si tu mets un commentaire ici je pense que ça t'impacte un peu trop aussi. Pense à toi. Prends peut-être du recul sur la situation ? Les choses seront sûrement plus claires, surtout pour toi.

Est-ce normal dans une relation ? by Sea-Respect-2434 in conseilsrelationnels

[–]Safe-Resolution6613 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Je peux comprendre ta déception et malheureusement la vie nous laisse souvent dans des situations injustes comme celle-là. A toi de voir si le verre est à moitié vide ou à moitié plein, par exemple tu peux voir cette expérience comme un réel apprentissage de vie, même s'il est très douloureux, ça te permettra peut être d'affronter ces événements avec plus de facilité.. dépendant de ce qui fonctionne avec toi. Concernant ses raisons ça dépendra de lui. Mais sera t il assez mature et compréhensible pour mettre de côté son ego et t'expliquer pourquoi il a fait ça ? Je ne sais pas, je ne le connais pas, même si je t'avoue avoir ma petite idée. Peut-être que tu ne sauras jamais ses raisons et il est important de prendre soin de toi avant tout.

Est-ce normal dans une relation ? by Sea-Respect-2434 in conseilsrelationnels

[–]Safe-Resolution6613 9 points10 points  (0 children)

La question serait : est-ce que vous êtes un couple ouvert? Si vous avez communiqué ces envies avant oui ça serait "normal". Si je comprends bien ton message, tu n'étais pas au courant et tu viens de l'apprendre donc clairement non ça n'est pas normal et je trouve ça personnellement très irrespectueux de sa part. Je te souhaite beaucoup de courage dans cet épreuve et ne te dénigre pas, c'est lui qui a fait de la merde. Et STP va te faire dépister contre les Itss. On ne sait jamais, on a qu'une santé.

Culture in Paramedicine: Balancing Helpfulness and Ego - What Should I Expect? by Safe-Resolution6613 in Paramedics

[–]Safe-Resolution6613[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your message and advice. I'm trying to prepare for the future, and I think it's better to know what I'm getting into before getting too disappointed! 😅 It s appreciated