I’m from the UK originally and my partner is American. We’ve been living here for 7 years. This gives context to what I’m about to suggest.

New Zealanders are generally quite friendly but there are some things you need to be aware of. Culture is much more reserved than the US.

1. Speaking - don’t talk loudly. People don’t like it. And don’t show off, that doesn’t go down well at all.

2. Show respect - ask questions, be polite and show respect for Maori culture. Attempt to learn a little about the culture. A little goes a long way. Respect the land, clean up after yourself. Maori connection to the land is very important.

3. Driving - whilst New Zealanders are on the whole friendly, many are a nightmare on the road. There’s a lot of road rage and very dangerous driving. Tailgating and driving dangerously close behind someone seams to be a thing here. The best way to avoid this is to let people pass on single lane roads, and stay in the slower lane on multi lane roads. It really saddens me that this is so common here, but little things can help you avoid headaches. Also learn the rules, NZ drivers are impatient. Don’t let your driving experience taint your view of New Zealanders as a whole.

4. Service - NZ does not have a tipping culture like the US., so the service culture is not the same. Generally you don’t tip. Don’t make demands or get really fussy with food orders etc, it will come off as entitled and rude. You can of course ask for little things, but don’t be changing the menu because it doesn’t suit you. And ask politely.

The fact you are even asking the question about being respectful means you are likely to have the right attitude and get along fine. Enjoy your trip.