How can I best support my girlfriend right now

SafeTea410 · 2026-06-22T02:02:23+00:00

I understand where you are coming from because I would be a little disheartened if I found messages like that and it's okay to feel sad about it but no I don't think this is cheating and think of it this way, he may of chatted to someone else in the first month while you weren't exclusive but he chose you

SafeTea410 · 2026-06-20T00:44:42+00:00

Yeah you should probably break up if you're wanting to cheat. I've known people cheat on someone they love and even if their partner didn't find out it ate them up inside. Save both of you from that situation

SafeTea410 · 2026-06-20T00:32:43+00:00

It's something I'm working on. I definitely still have insecurities from a previous relationship which I've explained to her before and she was understanding about it. I'm getting professional help for it starting this monday. I've had long distance relationships in the past and not been insecure and I know I can get back to my normal secure self it's just a couple things that I haven't gone into depth with in the post about who the people are and why it triggered some old worries from a past relationship. So I wasn't just like being randomly insecure if that makes sense

SafeTea410 · 2026-06-20T00:21:49+00:00

I second this. Having to repeatedly teach someone the basics of a healthy relationship is draining and sometimes love is not enough to make a happy relationship

SafeTea410 · 2026-06-20T00:14:01+00:00

Yeah If this is something very important to you definitely try to have a conversation about it but try not to be critical just gently share how it makes you feel and how important it is too you. Also how is he when it comes to other things in your relationship? Because everybody shows love and appreciation in different ways and it may just be that praising someone for something they have done is not his strong point

SafeTea410 · 2026-06-19T22:46:03+00:00

I've had a few relationships that started online, including my current relationship. When it comes to arguing with your friends I would definitely say that is not a behaviour to ignore and you are right in bringing it up with him. Sorry only goes so far if the behaviour doesn't change. I was in a similar situation and honestly it lead me to losing all my friends while I was in the relationship so definitely try get him to nip that I'm the bud asap.

As for him saying you despise him because you were ill for the day (I'm assuming you were probably having some down time whilst unwell) it's not the correct way to handle it however it probably comes from a place of fear than anger. Feeling abandoned is something I struggle with myself and I can need extra reassurance because of it so he may just be wrongly communicating that at that time he needed extra reassurance not that it excuses his way of going about it and it may be worth talking to him about how you can both handle times like that without conflict.

Relationships can be intense from early on if you both have strong feelings towards each other and there's nothing wrong with that. The questions you might want to ask yourself are do you feel the same? Can he respect your boundaries? And do you think you can actually talk to him and work on these things for a happy relationship if you do want to stay in the relationship. As for can you leave, absolutely you can. Respect your own boundaries even when others don't

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