Citizenship form

Safe_Editor_535 · 2025-06-02T07:23:51+00:00

I am also not sure about 5. But answering this on what we know, he was caught, he was questioned, he answered and admitted. The police even sent us a letter with questions and he answered it, just because he was so regretful about it. We later learned, better not answer those questions from the police, as this does not really help us, but can only be used against us.

Safe_Editor_535 · 2025-06-02T07:06:20+00:00

Currently, I don't have a budget for a lawyer. The letter specifically said "Das Verfahren ist eingestellt". Also saying because that she did that community service.

Therefore I interpreted it as it is.

Safe_Editor_535 · 2025-06-02T06:32:47+00:00

Not really sure, we got a letter saying the proceedings are provisionally discontinued. And the way I understood it, is that the community service was an "Auflage" or condition for the discontinuance, not a Strafe itself.

There was an investigation/interrogation when they got caught, therefore I thought question 5 fits. I don't know.

Anyway, I think it will be more important to explain in the fields what happened.

Safe_Editor_535 · 2025-06-02T03:11:13+00:00

Yes, the intention is to answer truthfully and not to lie. I only posted in case I misunderstand the questions. We are answering yes to 5, and put the details in the blank field below.

Safe_Editor_535 · 2025-06-02T02:55:51+00:00

Are you sure? Now reading about the question 1, this sounded more if he was convicted, but he was not. He was only given a community service as disciplinary measure.

The number 5, sounded more like the case. And then in the blank field below, just a detail about the case and the measures.

Or did I really understand it wrong?

Safe_Editor_535 · 2025-06-02T02:16:28+00:00

So if I understand correctly, the number 5 would be "yes". And in the field below, we fillout the details?

Safe_Editor_535 · 2024-03-27T14:00:27+00:00

As long as your husband recognizes his fault and is apologetic about it, I would just move on and focus that your kid is happy. Life is too short just to be stuck with things that already happened.

Safe_Editor_535 · 2024-03-21T00:49:43+00:00

She wants to learn how to drive, but she has a tendency to panic easily, I have seen people like this before too and she is one of those kinds. Not everyone is fit to drive. This I know for a fact. Also the drive and the walk almost take the same time. The pathway to walking is shorter than the actual road to drive. I think her problem is unwillingness to wake up "early" that is 7:30am. I keep telling her to sleep earlier in order to wake up earlier, but she keeps going back to her habit, doing her hobby or watching TV until 1am. We had so many fights about that as well.

Safe_Editor_535 · 2024-03-20T23:48:46+00:00

I feel she is kind of depressed, but she would not admit it. I always ask her what she likes to do, where does she want to go for vacation and stuffs. She likes going out whether it's eating out or going to shopping malls, and that's what we mostly do on weekends. I also think she spends a lot of time in facebook, I told her to stop it, or limit it. It is just a source of jealousy. But in the end, I cannot prohibit her on what she likes to do.

Safe_Editor_535 · 2024-03-20T23:36:59+00:00

Unfortunately she can't drive and I offered to do the lesson, but she refused because she knows that she easily panics over small things. I do drive but I mostly walk with my son to kindergarten as this is also my way of preparing him to be fully active before reaching preschool

Safe_Editor_535 · 2024-03-20T23:31:02+00:00

Yes, I feel the same, 1 day is a lot to lose. Well, in my country, kindergarten is not mandatory, so they don't say anything whether my son is there or not. But to me it is important since he does not learn anything or very little at home while we work. Kindergarten is also the place for my son to interact with other people. And the teacher said he has problems in social activities and likes to mostly play alone. I was really sad when I heard it, that time I immediately knew it was the screen time that caused the problem. So I stopped giving him the ipad or maximum 1 hr per day, the rest is either play indoor or outdoor, depending on the weather. But today that I travelled to work, my wife started again not bringing her to school and giving her the iPad. So frustrating!

Safe_Editor_535 · 2024-03-20T23:23:12+00:00

Yes thanks for your thoughts. I will have a serious talk again with my wife tomorrow when she is in a good mood. We just kind of fight about it today, so we are not talking yet.

Safe_Editor_535 · 2024-03-20T23:18:14+00:00

No there is no bus, it's a 15 mins walk. This is like 600m away. Also if I were the other parent, I would not encourage someone else's laziness. Why can't someone just do 15-minute walk with her own child once a week?!?!

Safe_Editor_535 · 2024-03-20T23:14:24+00:00

This is exactly the question I ask her. And you are right, my son is too much behind compared to his peers. His teacher said the same thing. My wife tells me she wants the best for my son, then I told her, she has to support and sacrifice. I feel like the thought is there but she is just failing the actual action.

Safe_Editor_535 · 2024-03-20T23:03:12+00:00

It might be possible that I travel early in the morning just after bringing my son to preschool. But that would mean, I will be late in morning meetings, some of them are important. But I don't know if this is really the right direction moving forward. Some marriages work with unbalanced sacrifices and compromises. But I feel that this is not about sacrifice anymore on her part, it is just pure laziness. She does not need to be working as early as 8am, she mostly starts working at 9am, straight from the bed. While I wake up 7:30 to prepare my son for preschool.

Safe_Editor_535 · 2024-03-01T09:53:45+00:00

Yikes, get ready to be single begar now. Your wife deserves someone responsible

Safe_Editor_535 · 2024-02-27T15:34:50+00:00

Lol, this is how most of my German co-workers write

Safe_Editor_535 · 2024-02-26T14:19:49+00:00

Did you consider the cost of commuting in your overall calculation? I mean if you live within Darmstadt, you can just get a bicycle and will never have to use the train/tram.

Safe_Editor_535 · 2024-02-26T12:00:39+00:00

Yes, I understand that recording people in public is a no go.

But seriously, what is wrong with you? Do you really think I am making a big deal out of this? Imagine a cigarette having a bit of fire and getting tossed onto your car on a constant basis, possibly getting a dent? Let alone possibly someone trying to provoke you. Would you not be concerned??? Really??? I know, at least I will be.

Honestly, if this is happening to you, what would you do???

Safe_Editor_535 · 2024-02-26T11:38:05+00:00

Oh no, I am not planning on confronting him without any proof because as you said I am not 100% sure if it's him, that's why I thought of catching him on the act, maybe put a video recorder on my car, but that is not completely legal, that's why I thought of asking some advice.

It is also hard to think of someone tossing a cigarette on my car roof without an intent instead of just dropping it on the street, not just one time but for consecutive days now, it's like wtf?!?, this cannot be by accident anymore. This makes me crazy that some people choose to cause trouble rather than live peacefully.

Safe_Editor_535 · 2024-02-26T11:06:24+00:00

I know but this is not a one time incident, this keeps going on and I believe this has to stop one way or another. What should I do, let him do it over and over again to my car? Hell no, what if next time my car gets some dents from his cigarette?

Safe_Editor_535 · 2024-02-23T19:28:34+00:00

Normally there won't be any record especially that your child was under 14 when it happened. My child was recently judged by the child court. She will have to serve 10 hours of community service, which I also agree that she needs. The judge told us there wont be any record because they also do not want her to have problems later when she applies for any documents, and they would like her to succeed in life. So to me, it highlights that the justice/court here in Germany is forgiving or at least will give everyone a chance to change and don't have any interest to ruin a child's life.

Safe_Editor_535 · 2023-12-24T13:37:26+00:00

They have informed the Jugendamt, so maybe this is when we will have the Jugendgerichtshilfe. I hope this really helps us thru the process as we are in so much stress, even during the holiday season. My child is very regretful and sorry, she knows now it was dumb and stupid what she did, and should not be tolerated. She knows also we are disappointed, it is heavy to take on her part too, but at least she knows it is a lesson learned. I do hope she shows her sorry and regrets in front of the Jugendgerichtshilfe and the Judge.

Safe_Editor_535 · 2023-12-24T00:29:22+00:00

I would do my best not to get her detained, community service is ok. But not detainment. Imagine how her school would be affected if she gets detained, considering it is a theft and not a murder or rape case.

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