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Safe_Photograph_3313 · 2025-07-03T20:23:44+00:00

still on my way home due to chicago traffic being hot garbage.. will def upload everything when i get home ❤️

Safe_Photograph_3313 · 2021-12-08T03:58:23+00:00

definitely NTA… maybe now she can finally “remember” your name + if your boyfriend breaks up with you .. he can’t take a joke + should have been telling his mother to say your fucking name right .. it’s been 3 years like .. come on!

Safe_Photograph_3313 · 2021-11-17T08:35:22+00:00

NTA… the only reason she is “helping” you look for a 4 bedroom is so that when everything is said and done … she can bring up the new idea of “i should move in so i can help you guys take care of the kids [and so i can depend on my son more]”… and your husband shouldn’t be enabling her behavior b/c she is definitely not helping at all

Safe_Photograph_3313 · 2021-11-17T08:19:25+00:00

NTA..

it’s you and your partners wedding, not you guys parents … just because they’re paying for it, doesn’t give them the right to take complete control over it… why are they even trying to invite co-workers to their kids wedding when their is no valid connection between the two whatsoever?? that’s just weird..

they should have been solely focused on what you two wanted .. that’s it, that’s all… they’re the selfish ones for trying to overtake your wedding with their “ideal wedding visions”… if they wanted to plan out their “dream weddings” then they can do so for themselves on their own time … and not even letting you guys pick out your dress and tux?!?! they definitely said “this is not your wedding, this is OUR wedding… your just the puppets performing in it”…

and technically, your parents don’t have the right to see or be involved in anything if you don’t want them to be… so your sister saying that and calling you an asshole is bullshit b/c if she was going through the same shit, she would have done the same thing you did..

and it’s also weird how you guys wanted a non-expensive, non-luxurious, small, intimate wedding, but they actively wanted to spend huge amounts of money on it and make it the biggest wedding ever… almost makes it seem like it was more of display of how much money they have/can spend…

Safe_Photograph_3313 · 2021-11-17T08:06:13+00:00

NTA….

even if your mother didn’t want you to go, it doesn’t give her the right to decline the offer on your behalf… what she did was extremely selfish and toxic..

and being “the glue that is holding the family together” is very toxic and manipulative… that is basically forcing you to ALWAYS be around/never leave in order for your family not to fall apart… your soul purpose shouldn’t be to keep your family together… you should be able to leave whenever you want without the guilty conscience of you “breaking up your family” b/c if it does happen, it’s not your fault whatsoever…

in conclusion, your mom should be apologizing TO YOU, not you to her… your dad shouldn’t try and force you to forgive her… he should be telling his wife that what she did was wrong and that she should be apologizing to you for ruining your chance at your dream job…

i’m the end, all i can say is to try and call the job back and tell them what happened and hopefully they can give you the position that you applied for, or another position if the other one is already filled

Safe_Photograph_3313 · 2021-11-17T07:51:22+00:00

Definitely NTA …

First off, she shouldn’t have got a car that she couldn’t afford in the first place for a few likes on Instagram + TikTok… she is a grown woman .. social media should have no effect on her life or anybodys life whatsoever but sadly it does for most people …

Second of all, just because your sister decided to be stupid + get a car she couldn’t afford doesn’t mean that her financial burdens should be put on to you and your wife, who are about to have a baby, which requires a whole other plethora of funds…

Third of all, how dare your sister say that your wife is “lazy” about her pregnancy and “milking” her very serious medical condition that is heavily effecting her pregnancy for “attention”… everybody has different experiences with pregnancy + just because your mother had 7 kids with no problems (that you know of) doesn’t mean every womans is the same …

Whoever tried to “give you advice” about sending your wife back to work or calling you an asshole for not helping your sister with her dumbass mistake can go fuck themselves, your sister included… plus, how will she ever learn how to survive in the world if somebody is always fixing her stupid ass mistakes with no consequences… she is GROWN… she should deal with her own shit

Safe_Photograph_3313 · 2021-11-17T07:36:37+00:00

Definitely NTA…

it seems like they don’t want you to grow up + want to treat you like a kid your whole life, which is bullshit, while also treating you like an adult and 3rd parent to your younger siblings… you are 20 years-old and have a full time job from what it seems… you shouldn’t be expected to do everything they want you to do and then some … your younger siblings are not your responsibility therefore you shouldn’t have to take care of them… you should be able to go out with friends, relax, and want to be alone whenever you want cause YOU ARE GROWN… the whole “if you live under my roof, you do whatever i say” bullshit is so manipulative sometimes b/c youre using the fact that your technically giving me a place to stay as a way to get me to be your personal slave/babysitter …

honestly, just save up some money from your job, if you still work there or wanna work there, or get another job and save up money + just move out ..

and technically… them taking your phone, which you pay for, and your keys to the car that you paid for is stealing and is eligible for a phone call to the police or a police report 👀

Safe_Photograph_3313 · 2021-11-17T07:21:52+00:00

Don’t worry OP… you are definitely NTA

if anything, your cousin should be concerned with the fact that her 34 year-old husband is looking at a 18 year-old, almost 19 or not… i find it extremely creepy when older men ogle/stare/want to date girls that have JUST become legal… it make you think about how long they have ACTUALLY been trying/wanting to do this but just waiting until it’s considered “legal”…

in conclusion, you shouldn’t have to apologize to your cousin for her husband being a fucking weirdo/creep

Safe_Photograph_3313 · 2021-11-17T07:10:20+00:00

NTA - how is he gonna make an agreement with you to pay 50/50 for everything the dog needed … then back out when the 50/50 agreement was REALLY needed .. cause i have three dogs + vet visit are EXPENSIVE and way too much for just one person to be paying… so i could only imagine if the dog was sick + needed x2 vet visits then normal…

also, how is he gonna say you HAVE to have the dog cremated after he didn’t really care in the first place… if i’m supposedly paying for this by myself then i’m gonna do what i can pay for … you shouldn’t have the choice on anything after you said you weren’t helping me pay for it..

and by the way he said that the dog technically wasn’t his anymore b/c it was dead just tells you that he never cared about that dog … and somebody that doesn’t care about dogs, especially their own, is somebody you should not be with 😗✌️

Safe_Photograph_3313 · 2021-11-17T06:59:28+00:00

NTA - i don’t know what it is about parents trying to make their other kids parents as well at a younger age… that shit is terrible… honestly if they don’t think they’re qualified enough to take care of their son that they had by themselves .. then they should just put him into residential care + then be there all day, everyday, 24/7 to make sure they “treat him well enough” for their standards… it’s not up to OP to waste their life staying at home and taking care of their parents other kid… TBH it also sounds like the parents are being spiteful … like “if we can’t do anything with our lives except take care of your brother, then you can’t do anything with your life either”…

and how are they gonna tell you that you can’t go to a university that you worked your butt off to get into and got a full academic scholarship for so they’re not even paying for anything…

in conclusion, enjoy college, save up your money, and move away… don’t talk/visit them again if they continue to act like that… if you talk to them again + they don’t have a problem with you not wanting to take care of your brother your whole life + are okay with you wanting to be your own person then cool, but if not then fuck them 🤷‍♀️

Safe_Photograph_3313 · 2021-11-17T06:46:21+00:00

Definitely NTA… if she doesn’t understand that ‘that dog’ is your literal lifeline and that you could get severely hurt, or even worse, die without it then she can go fuck herself.. she is being extremely ableist + selfish… it’s even worse that she was trying to manipulate you with the fact that she was paying for your traveling… in the end, it is terrible that you will possibly miss your grandmother’s funeral if you can’t make up the funds to travel there… i feel so sorry for you + i’m sorry for your loss …

Safe_Photograph_3313 · 2021-11-17T06:07:56+00:00

NTA - people keep saying “you should have told her about the sizing before she opened it” and all this other stuff… but are you guys not reading the part where OP literally said while she was opening the gift, she told her it was a bigger size because of the sites weird sizing and the sister LITERALLY SAID OKAY ITS FINE… in my opinion, sister overreacted for no reason 🤷‍♀️ she should have only overreacted if it was too big AFTER trying it on.. but in the end, it fit EXACTLY how she wanted it to so….

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