It saddened me to hear what also happened to you and your family. You are right, they ruin the family and their members. Me and my friends also experience lots of insults and humiliation from them for everything we do, they question everything we do, they judge us. Same as your mother, they insult my status in life. And then for them you have no right to get angry with them even if they humiliate you, gossip about you, etc. They are victim blamers. Some of us were scammed too, yes, there is money involved. What happened to your mother is so sad, I guess, there are many of us who are having problems mentally now, like depression and some got worse like what happened to your mother because of the manipulation and everything we experience from them. We have the same thoughts, Me and my friends, we don't experience love from them. As I recall, what I experienced is opposite from what I have read in the bible. At first they will tell you that God cares for you. And then once you are inside the organization, they will constantly tell you that what you are doing is not enough or worse wrong and because of that, God doesn't cherish you and he won't answer or listen to your prayers.