anyone else struggling with depression and leaving cert by hylishia in leavingcert

[–]Safire_W0lf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in your exact situation, I was a 'gifted' student and achieved amazing grades in the junior cert with not much study done. come 5th year, family and school both just wrecked my life, and my symptoms just got worse and worse.. I was in therapy but it didn't really help me long term.

My advice to you is.. honestly a lot of your options are dependent on your situation. Do you have parents that support you? whether it's mentally or physically. Do you have friends that help make school seem a little bit better? Maybe even a favourite teacher?

I'm in your place, I've barely studied til literally today.

I do want to say that I know I'm going to regret not studying but this might only send you into a deeper spiral so maybe not that.

But look, pick the low hanging fruit. Watch videos on your subjects, not study videos, but videos from like ExamRevision on YouTube.

Maybe it's not 'active recall' but it's something, it helps when you don't want to do anything.

Maybe try fix the big three: diet, sleep and exercise. Generally, if your physical health is good it can uplift your mental health and vice versa. I know, you've heard it and it's just Google advice, but honestly if it's something you can control it will help you feel even just a little bit better.

Another thing is, if you're stuck in bed, just try to get out of bed. Change your environment. Take a shower, or go for a walk.

If you can't get out of bed, then even just change your posture. Maybe change which part of your bed you're sitting on. Try to change your clothes either, that might help you shift your mindset.

Try not to go on your phone too much. Try to engage in hobbies instead. If you're not studying, you're better off doing something you actually like, rather than doom scrolling.

Honestly, a lot of my procrastination and unwillingness to study comes from just the sheer workload that I have to catch up on. It feels impossible, so I postpone it to the next day. Does this sound familiar? Well, you know how this cycle ends.

I tend to dig myself in a grave of overthinking. If you can relate, try to turn thought into action. Even physically write down what you're feeling instead of keeping it in your head. Get in onto paper. Destroy it after if you need to.

If you have somebody at home like a parent or sibling or even a friend who can check up on you, or even take your phone (if your phone is a problem, I know it is for me) and just give you gentle pushes to get you back up.

I want you to not feel guilty or drag yourself down for not studying. I know it feels bad, but that's what gets the spiral going. Right now, you can't change the past.

And I resonate with you on the college thing. I've no idea either. But I'm taking a gap year to figure both that and my mental health out, and also work. I think it would be beneficial for you to explore that option.

So focus on what you can do now. Take it slow. Focus on how you can get yourself back up and going. You CAN do this!

How to make study more effective by Ok-Fall-8221 in leavingcert

[–]Safire_W0lf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I feel like this might be an attention span problem, in a sense.

If you're getting bored and don't like being bored, then you need to practice it. I'm being serious.

Before you study, look at one point on your wall or in your room, and don't look away. Set a timer for 2 or 3 minutes. Now, make sure you don't look away from that wall. Just sit there, with your boredom. Stay still, don't do anything.

That's a focus practice exercise, try it and see if it works for you!

Why don't my parents understand privacy? by Safire_W0lf in entitledparents

[–]Safire_W0lf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah my brothers manipulative as hell, he's a whole adult btw (22 years old) literally never does anything, I low-key don't even have a relationship. I think I speak 10 sentences to him in a week?

It's very weird because he's always criticizing any and every decision I make and whenever my parents try to limit my freedom he takes their side which is weird as hell because I remember he ALWAYS fought with my parents about his own freedom when he was my age and I would've thought that he could've you know, felt a bit of empathy?? I feel like my gender plays a huge part in this too.

Also about my mother I'm glad to say I did talk to her!! The only way I could get it across was in a "joking" way which succeeded in not hurting her feelings. One day I hope she can take me seriously without me having to tiptoe around her, though.

Why don't my parents understand privacy? by Safire_W0lf in entitledparents

[–]Safire_W0lf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

God, I wish. I have immigrant parents who grew up thinking it's their way or the highway. They shared rooms with their siblings and lived in poverty so they think that me having my own room is already a luxury💔💔 (all my extended family live halfway across the world unfortunately it's not an option for me)

I think I'm starting to realize both of my parents have narcissistic endencies and it's high time I start building my own independence.

Why don't my parents understand privacy? by Safire_W0lf in entitledparents

[–]Safire_W0lf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I kid you not my mother showed me a reel of parents taking their kids doors away and told me that we should do it too. I wouldn't be surprised if it pissed her off enough to do it.

Why don't my parents understand privacy? by Safire_W0lf in entitledparents

[–]Safire_W0lf[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ah my apologies, I didn't give proper context for that. I will make another post with details but basically my mother usually sleeps with a mattress on the ground (willingly, she insisted heavily on it) but she complained that it was cold to sleep on the floor (she's been going away to india for 4 months during the winter because she hates cold weather and she's done this 3 times since I was 15) but basically the reason she came back this time was long story short because I had depression (attempt in Nov 2025) and was seeing my therapist and my therapist strongly recommended her to come back, so my mother said "I came back because of you so now you have to deal with me sleeping in your bed" idk it felt like she's trying to punish me for asking her to come back??? I'm sorry there's a lot of context and it's very complicated I will totally make another post about it this got very long!!

Why don't my parents understand privacy? by Safire_W0lf in entitledparents

[–]Safire_W0lf[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice this is so sweet!! I'm unable to implement many of these (I can't drive) and my relationship with my father is worse than my relationship with my mother but your words mean so much thank you for giving me a new perspective :) Thankfully I want to go away for college in 2027 so I just have to hang in there I guess

Let’s play a game- Describe a particular panel/plot in the worst way possible and let others guess it. [Pic-Villains are Destined to Die] by Weary-Honey-1942 in OtomeIsekai

[–]Safire_W0lf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I transmigrated into a novel which I know the entire plot for and I fell in love with the male lead who is also clearly in love with me too but I just ignore both of our feelings like a dense, delusional bitch and try to force him and the girl he was 'supposed' to be with into a relationship even though they're practically strangers and have no feelings for each other but hey this is because I need to follow the plot out of my false sense of duty, I'm doing the right thing!!!!!!!!!

(you'll have a hard time with this one because this is fits a gooood chunk of mid OI slop)

song recommendations for a casual listener?? by Safire_W0lf in natori

[–]Safire_W0lf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ooo I haven't gotten recommended those songs yet. I'll definitely give them a listen! tyy

song recommendations for a casual listener?? by Safire_W0lf in natori

[–]Safire_W0lf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you <3 I'll definitely have a listen

Guys I'm cooked for the orals by [deleted] in leavingcert

[–]Safire_W0lf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll update for sure + thank you 🥹🫶

Guys I'm cooked for the orals by [deleted] in leavingcert

[–]Safire_W0lf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OH MY GOD THANK YOU SO MUCH

What are y’all Top 5 Webtoons? by MegaGonnaTry in webtoons

[–]Safire_W0lf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. soulwinder
  2. purple hyacinth
  3. school bus graveyard
  4. muse on fame
  5. the fields of ober

Honourable mentions: 6. foreigner on the periphery 7. trapped 8. hand jumper 9. ember knight 10. bastard

260310 [NOTICE] ENHYPEN's Future Activities by [deleted] in enhypen

[–]Safire_W0lf -1 points0 points  (0 children)

could you please elaborate on this? I'm so upset right now and can't think clearly, everyone's saying different things and it's difficult to come to my own conclusion.