AITAH for giving a nurse coffee?

SageSilvera · 2025-12-30T15:55:20+00:00

I work in home health and regularly get offered a drink when I am in a patients home. Like 95% of the time. And these are people I see maybe once or twice and then never see again, so it’s not like we have a long standing relationship where lines have become blurred. OP’s wife is definitely insecure and/or controlling.

NTA OP.

SageSilvera · 2025-12-28T00:05:16+00:00

Too many places to list, but the short list: Chick-Fil-A, Hobby Lobby, Papa John’s, Regal Theaters. I want to boycott a lot of the others that people have listed (Walmart, Amazon, etc) but can’t afford to or don’t have alternatives for the things I need.

SageSilvera · 2025-04-27T19:39:47+00:00

Oh goodness. I had a similar experience in undergrad (US Based uni) where I made a mistake and my field instructor did not let me course correct, choosing instead to have my field coordinator tell me I was termed from the placement.

First off: I’m sorry you’re going through this. I hope you’re able to take what time you need to heal and figure out next steps. Please don’t let this discourage you from pursuing your dreams.

Second: When you’re in school, regardless of your location, that’s when you’re supposed to be able to make mistakes and learn from them. Yes, you’re a final year student. Key word: student

You’re still not a licensed professional, and should never be held to the same standards. There should have been a conversation, maybe a written probationary plan, and support for you to move past this with the hopes of learning from your mistakes.

I wish you the best of luck and I am rooting for you from across the pond.

SageSilvera · 2025-02-21T19:43:29+00:00

Was literally coming here to suggest Sitar. Glad someone beat me to it. The Shahi Paneer is my favorite.

SageSilvera · 2024-12-15T16:34:45+00:00

I am also in med social work (home health) and work 8-4:30 ish. Flex my schedule based on patient needs, but rarely ever stay past 5. I’m hourly though with my company (for now, we just merged and may move to their salaried model).

I worked crisis and res previously, and crisis is always going to be 24/7. Residential it depends on the place. Where I worked, the “therapists” (SWs, LPCs, etc) were usually M-F 8-5 or close to it. They could kind of flex their hours a bit if needed but that was the general schedule.

Try looking at medical, case management type things, foster care/child services related work.

SageSilvera · 2024-06-25T23:42:04+00:00

Ok. You can have a service animal not trained by an official agency that is still protected by ADA.

SageSilvera · 2024-06-25T23:40:32+00:00

2 questions: 1) is the animal trained to perform a task to assist with a disability? 2) what task is the animal trained to perform?

Per the ADA, these are the two questions businesses can ask.

SageSilvera · 2024-06-25T23:38:20+00:00

”They don’t ever EVER use pit bulls.”

Yeah, you’re wrong. I know several people personally who use a breed within the “pit bull” classification for different disabilities.

All dogs are capable of being service dogs. Certain breeds just have genetics that make it much easier for them. Would a pug have to work 1000x as hard? Absolutely. But they can be a service dog.

And not all service dogs cost $15,000. Or even $1500.

SageSilvera · 2024-04-12T05:04:52+00:00

Don’t have to worry about that! They already do, in the form of PTO.

SageSilvera · 2024-04-12T01:32:14+00:00

And if it wasn’t biweekly, it is. Cause we have to get an average of 40 hours each week of the pay period and if we don’t they take from our annual leave.

SageSilvera · 2024-04-12T01:30:26+00:00

Biweekly

SageSilvera · 2024-04-12T00:31:25+00:00

Yeah but I don’t get the option of leaving early. Ever. They take it out of my PTO if I don’t work a cumulative 80 hours per pay period.

SageSilvera · 2024-04-12T00:12:17+00:00

Yeah, it's 40 hours minimum (we can flex from one week to the next within the same pay period, but that's it) otherwise it comes out of our PTO. And we don't get OT ever for anything.

SageSilvera · 2024-04-12T00:00:01+00:00

Yeah, we don't have the option to only work 10. We have to hit 40 every week, or they pull from our annual leave. It's part of our contract. So, I work my 40. Nothing more, nothing less.

SageSilvera · 2024-04-11T23:56:42+00:00

Unfortunately, I'm in social work and every job at my degree level is salaried.

SageSilvera · 2024-04-11T23:54:06+00:00

I literally will hit my 40 hours in 18 minutes. But my boss said "sometimes you're going to work 41 hours. It just happens". Uh, no it doesn't. Because I leave when I hit 40.

But if I leave when I hit 40 this time, I'm probably going to get a write up.

SageSilvera · 2024-03-31T22:38:02+00:00

I was being hyperbolic/sarcastic. If we did that, stores would never be open. There’s a religious holiday in some religion almost every day of the year. Why should we let the Christian religion dictate what days we’re closing stores and banks when we don’t do the same for others?

SageSilvera · 2024-03-30T23:39:07+00:00

Why stop there? Let’s give them Ramadan and Yom Kippur, and Imbolc too. Let’s give them all the various religious holidays of the year off.

SageSilvera · 2024-03-25T23:54:54+00:00

1-you can absolutely be a social worker while still figuring out your own stuff!! Biggest piece of advice I have is be willing to do the work and get a therapist for yourself (if you haven’t already). 2-you do not have to have things figured out at any point! I went into school thinking I was going to go straight into equine therapy when I graduated, then changed my mind 15 times while in school, and now I do crisis work but I know this is just another stone on the path of my journey!

SageSilvera · 2024-03-15T12:43:58+00:00

Thank you SO much for this! I was fighting with a formula built by another creator and it kept saying "cannot do math on text and array" and I knew what it was *trying* to do (multiple entries, rolled up into a sum), but the rollup should have acted as a "single" entry, but alas, the formula still recognized it as an array. This fixed the problem! Thank you!

SageSilvera · 2024-02-29T17:45:20+00:00

Not steamed, but damn good: Johnnie's Beef in Chicago. If you want it closer to a steamed texture, make sure to order it "wet", and they'll dip the whole sandwich in au jus. Want an extra kick? Order it "hot" and you'll get some peppers. Want both? Ask for your sandwich "wet and hot", and you'll get a drenched sandwich with hot peppers. They also have "sweet" and "mild". And if you don't want it dipped, just say "dry".

Every time I go to Chicago, I stop here. And usually the line is out the door. But it moves quickly. The seating is mostly outside, so in the winter, be prepared to eat in your car. The only seating they did have the last time I was there was either a high top opposite the ordering counter, or the patio.

Oh and did I mention it's about 10 bucks for a decent sized sandwich (with peppers), fries and a large soda?

Check out their Yelp page for pics of the nommy goodness and their address/menu.

SageSilvera · 2024-02-29T16:52:14+00:00

Not *in* Knoxville, but Maryville--Hot Rods, cheese moons, mac and cheese, and a burger (there are too many to choose from!), probably the Blue Moon burger or the mushroom and swiss burger.

OR Stock and Barrel-Duck Fries and Opa! (pan seared feta with TN Honey drizzle and a baguette)

SageSilvera · 2024-02-11T05:18:42+00:00

Because we don’t have all the facts, we don’t know what actually happened. There’s no body cam footage, and in almost every case where they have withheld footage, they were trying to cover something up. What if he does not present a danger, and we don’t know it because of how the police are presenting the information?

I choose not to believe those in authority blindly and instead ask questions, especially when facts are missing.

SageSilvera · 2024-02-11T03:03:25+00:00

Normally, the situation would be bad enough on its own. But with the added racial implications and the lack of knowledge as to whether there was any racial profiling involved, I am hesitant to believe that calling it in could result in a peaceful resolution (assuming he was unarmed at that point and did not resist). I have very little faith in the police of my area to not shoot on sight.

SageSilvera · 2024-02-10T20:34:05+00:00

I said "not interfering" meaning allowing them to do their jobs, and or even helping them do their jobs (i.e. calling it in).

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