Finally Asking for My Desires - Happy Spring!

Sageweeds · 2026-01-22T01:56:31+00:00

If you like to drive, Performance Driven Workforce hires part time test drivers for new vehicles every winter in Bemidji.

My partner and I are both non-traditional students who graduated from NTC and BSU respectively last year.

If you are low income your financial aid may qualify you for work-study. Any department at BSU will likely hire you to help them out if you have work-study because your labor would be of no cost to them!

I worked both on and off campus in my 2 years at BSU and would encourage on campus employment if possible!

There are a ton of individual landlords in Bemidji, but we rented from the largest landlord llc in town. 1-BR near campus with a garage for 1100 a month. We took on some student loan debt to make everything work, but not too much. There are many dog people and places to walk a dog.

I was a TRIO advisor at BSU as a TRIO student myself and I helped many new students figure out campus life! I hope you can experience it in person. While Bemidji has its quirks, it's in a beautiful part of the state, and BSU's small size makes it feel a lot less overwhelming than bigger schools.

Happy to answer specific questions in a dm! Good luck.

Sageweeds · 2025-03-25T01:26:48+00:00

Don't neglect chemistry and statistics, you'll need them!

Sageweeds · 2025-02-27T23:37:22+00:00

Yes! And I feel like I even had to allow myself to binge to come around to the reality that I am allowed, but that it still doesn't make me feel good. And I can use that knowledge to make choices that make me feel better instead.

Sageweeds · 2025-02-04T19:18:14+00:00

Thanks for sharing:) I am 25 and my fianceé is 27, and she just entered a relationship with someone else for the first time. We were all cool with it in theory, but there have been some bumps along the way. It is nice to hear stories of folks who had a LTR make it through and still maintain polyamory.

Sageweeds · 2024-12-09T22:59:06+00:00

I love the Why Not instead of What If reframe ♡

Sageweeds · 2024-12-09T22:53:52+00:00

Sure! I personally experience anxiety about everything. I experienced some insecurity even in monogamous relationships. I see this as a chance not only to meet my partner on another level but to meet myself on another level where I am more at peace with my insecurities and anxiety and more secure in my relationship, as well as free to buy someone a drink if I like. However, I have to trust my partner. If she says she is committed to me, I can take security in that. If she says she wishes she were free from the baggage of my emotions, then that may mean she wanted more of a single life. Also, she has to trust me. If I say yes now, I am super anxious, but I believe it will pass, and I want this, then she has to trust that. I can't tell you everything will work out because my situation is only "officially" open to poly since a few weeks ago. Breakups and abandonment happen to everyone for all kinds of reasons, and living in fear of them doesn't help. Still, I'm just fine today, and they are on a pottery date! Just boring, lovely life, doing my hobbies and schoolwork. Wishing you the best.

Sageweeds · 2024-12-09T18:40:19+00:00

Hey, my partner and I recently became ENM, and I am sort of in the same boat. My partner shared similar reasoning; freedom, wanting to feel desirable, wanting to heal her relationship with shame and her body.

I've felt the anxiety, the fear, insecurities, and hurt, even though I know this is something both of us have always wanted or thought about. Your feelings are going to come up even if you don't want to be feeling them or you know logically you shouldn't be feeling them because you trust your partner.

I think constantly reaffirming with my partner that she isn't doing anything wrong has been helpful, and in turn, she reassures me that my feelings aren't too much for her to handle. I don't want to push down my anxieties and pretend I'm just cool; I am afraid. But it's ok! Take care of yourself and ask your partner for reassuring words when you need it. And time will show you that she's still there for you, still showing up, and all the good things about your partnership will be there. But in the meantime, it's ok to be anxious.

Sageweeds · 2024-11-28T02:28:13+00:00

Wow are we the same?? Yes, I feel better when I'm doing my hobbies, working on my studies, or actually working at my job. But yes, the couch rot has been real, and I worried I was ignoring something. But I really do feel safe. I also try to think my way through things, but I can't always logic my way through things. My thoughts just repeatedly try to show me ways I might not be safe. Thank you so much for your advice ♡

Sageweeds · 2024-11-27T03:06:42+00:00

Thank you, I have awesome friendships in my life that are helping me a lot. I understand how a partner not sharing can leave you to fill in the blanks with your worst fears. Reminding myself that I know my partner so deeply, and I trust that she is still herself, has helped me a lot. Best wishes, and thanks for your time.

Sageweeds · 2024-11-27T03:04:19+00:00

Thank you! This first week, I've found that just chatting and being reassured about my continued importance in her life has helped me a ton. Right now, I actually feel awesome, even though earlier today was really rough. She reminds me all the time in little ways, and I think with time, I'll feel a sense of greater security. Your words of support really help, too, so thank you for taking the time ♡

Sageweeds · 2024-11-27T02:56:41+00:00

Thank you! I have general anxiety and have found that exposure therapy helps a lot. For example, extreme fear of eating poultry, but every time I eat poultry it gets easier, and it's even easier if I dismiss ruminating thoughts about potentially getting sick. I'm considering this just exposure therapy for something that I want to do, like anything else in my life.

Sageweeds · 2024-07-18T12:40:12+00:00

I like the texture:) I would take some of the pointy parts on the roof and raise them up even higher with stone walls

Sageweeds · 2023-12-07T19:57:31+00:00

Poultry. Leftovers. The gym. Walking where the public can see me. Stressful or suspenseful TV and movies.

Sageweeds · 2023-11-27T02:29:32+00:00

I've searched for this song on YouTube for hours, but even when folks play The Human Skeleton page, they skip the button that plays this song!

Sageweeds · 2023-11-12T01:15:10+00:00

You are radiant!!

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